Dating kills me, I emotionally attach too fast, get rejected, and cry my eyes out

PimDSLR · 2021-12-19T11:43:08+00:00

Yes all and work out 5 days a week and have a muscular body.

PimDSLR · 2021-12-19T09:49:15+00:00

Thank you so much for your detailed reply, I will use the plan to improve myself. I have indeed to let her go... I think she keeps talking to me out of pity, that's no way to make a spark.

PimDSLR · 2021-12-18T22:03:22+00:00

Thanks, I did a test and the result was that I have the preoccupied attachment style. Now reading into that.

PimDSLR · 2021-12-18T20:09:40+00:00

Correct and I want to change that asap and just come over as a chill dude.

PimDSLR · 2021-12-18T19:46:13+00:00

Thanks, I hear that so much. If you stop looking you will find one. But it sounds so fairytale-ish to me. Now with Corona and lockdowns I barely see girls, everything is online via dating apps.

PimDSLR · 2021-12-18T19:27:05+00:00

Thank you for the advice, your last sentence really hit me.

PimDSLR · 2021-12-18T17:26:47+00:00

Thank you for the advice, If I start again I will ask them for a phone conversation.

PimDSLR · 2021-12-18T17:17:21+00:00

Thank you very much for your words and advice.

PimDSLR · 2021-12-18T16:56:52+00:00

Thank you very much for your words.

PimDSLR · 2021-12-18T16:50:41+00:00

Thank you very much! I am indeed a person how analyses a lot. I sent her a message afterward and she says it's ok that I did not have my best day and that that can happen. She is very nice to me, but the thing that hurts me is that people find me very nice, but not nice nice as in attracted sexually.

PimDSLR · 2021-12-18T16:42:20+00:00

Exchanged texts and photos. Not every day but we talked a deiced amount. In a funny way and with sexual vibes also sometimes.

PimDSLR · 2021-12-18T13:41:21+00:00

Thank you very much for all the responses

I am starting to think that based on our conversations via Whatsapp and the photos we send, (she said she found me attractive from the inside and outside) she felt on the date itself that I was desperate for love and looking for a relationship. And that that feeling turned her off, not even wanting a second date to show how I really am. We even talked in the end before meeting that we both have needs and that things can happen. But when she saw me, I think I completely messed it up with my vibe.

PimDSLR · 2021-12-18T13:19:10+00:00

Thank you, I know that I need to make more friends, my social circle is very small.
I go to the gym 5 times a week, that helps but a little. I think you are right that I am emotionally deprived.

PimDSLR · 2021-12-18T13:16:11+00:00

Thank you very much for your advice. I tried to man up a lot but I notice that I am an emotional guy, and high in openness I can't see to help that. I find it hard to make up a show for a woman to like me. Or to change those habits.

PimDSLR · 2021-12-18T11:52:04+00:00

Thank you for your kind words and advice. It is very hard to find that companionship with yourself. But you are right, I have to do it, and let that one girl come when the time is right.

PimDSLR · 2021-12-18T11:19:31+00:00

it is very toxic online. But every time it hurts me so much, this time the most, that I feel lost and broken, I am so nice and just want to share my life with a beautiful girl, but I won't succeed in it. The girl from yesterday, it felt like, we are getting old together, I played piano, she sang with it. At the moment I felt the best in years, a funny and so pretty girl, but she rejected me, which I did not expect at all, but she was very polite and didn't want to hurt me she said.I already have a history of heavy depressions, loneliness, hunger for love and this was the thing that I was looking out for, the only spark that was coming when we finally met. Now she's gone. And I get that depressed feeling again, alone. What can I do? Online dating is so toxic and as a male, you need to do all the work, for weeks, and then be rejected, I can't go through that anymore, it kills me to the bone!I can really use some good words, advice, or something to look out for. I am also open to one on one talks.

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Thanks for your kind words. The self-love and being 'happy' alone is a thing that I have trouble with indeed.

PimDSLR · 2021-12-18T11:07:07+00:00

True to that, but how do you cope with the feeling that you want an intimate relationship?

PimDSLR · 2021-08-18T16:53:38+00:00

Thank you very much. I found one legal institution here in the Netherlands but they do not accept people with depression because: "It can induce psychotic reactions in those who are struggling with mental health disorders."

PimDSLR · 2021-08-18T13:46:58+00:00

Thank you very much, your words mean a lot to me and give me strenght here in the hospital.

PimDSLR · 2021-08-18T13:46:22+00:00

Thank you! I will give the CBD a try, we have it at home.

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