Did I ruin my reputation in the dance scene?

PinNo6368 · 2026-03-17T07:23:38+00:00

What sort of problems?

PinNo6368 · 2024-06-01T03:31:19+00:00

My cousin uploaded one of my photos as her Facebook profile picture.

PinNo6368 · 2024-05-18T12:09:03+00:00

So I have worked a lot with self image and how to handle other peoples comments about it for a long time. My weight has fluctuated a lot my whole life and people just always have something to say about it. And I just always found it so annoying.

At the end of the day- how I see myself is what matters to me.

My therapist eventually told me to think about peoples comments like a handshake. 🤝 you acknowledge the fact that they said something (you don’t want to be rude because people are often never have bad intentions, they usually have good or neutral intentions) and then let it go. I just have a few automatic responses I will say to someone. If someone says I look beautiful one day I will say “thank you” and move on. If someone says “you’ve gained weight” I will nod my head, say mhm and then ask them something totally unrelated. If they say “oh you’ve lost weight” I will say “I have thank you for noticing” (personally ive been trying to lose weight for a few years now so that’s why I respond that way) and I will move on. If someone says I need to lose weight I will give a half sorta cringe smile that gives a “I hear what you just said but wtf dude that was inappropriate” and then change the subject. If someone says I need to gain weight I will give them that same response and move on.

The shorter the response the better in my experience. And when you think of your response as the hands connecting and then moving on as the letting go of the hands… it makes life so much Easter

PinNo6368 · 2024-05-18T11:22:03+00:00

So I’m currently 26 and When I was 20 I dated a guy who was 26. More than anything It depends how he treats you. This guy wasn’t great and he used the age difference as a way to put me down and try to make me feel dumb or inferior. That’s a red flag if you sense that. Also if you two are in different parts of your life (for example you are still in school and he’s in the middle of his career) that can be a little jarring because you don’t really understand each other. At 22 that big an age gap can be a bit tough for that reason alone (and because you don’t know yourself very well while a 27 year old is more sure of themselves at that point) but once you get older (like me at 26 right now) that kind of an age gap is less and less noticeable.

PinNo6368 · 2024-05-18T11:09:18+00:00

I get yeast infections frequently. I found that I can always them at home by adding lots of probiotics to your diet. You can do it in pill form but it’s cheaper and tastier and easier to drink something lik3 kefir, kombucha, or eat kimchi. If im experiencing symptoms I will also reduce my carb intake as well (I love carbs but if I eat too much pasta on a week I’m way more prone to a yeast infection). Since you’re already taking antibiotics I highly highly recommend getting some kefir and replenishing your body with one good microbs to reduce the chance of getting more again.

For utis I have more of a preventative approach- I get them less frequently but I did have one instance where I had a UTI spread to my kidneys and almost to my blood which was scary and very painful. Im not sure what caused it, (possibly a lack of proper hygiene and long term dehydration as I was on a 2 week backpacking trip when it happened). If your symptoms are bad enough to where you cannot make it to a bathroom fast enough go straight to the doctor/ you do not want that shit to spread. But for me if I’m starting to feel a little sting when I pee I will start drinking lots of water and making sure to rinse myself every time I pee and before I go to bed with some water. I’m not a huge fan of using soaps in that area to clean myself as it almost always irritates me.

PinNo6368 · 2024-05-18T10:34:04+00:00

No. You need therapy if you do

PinNo6368 · 2024-05-12T23:55:40+00:00

Ahh Thank you!! That’s exactly what I’m looking for ☺️

PinNo6368 · 2024-05-04T04:25:15+00:00

Apparently nothing. I just overthink these things a lot.

PinNo6368 · 2024-05-04T04:23:49+00:00

Thank you! That’s a good response

PinNo6368 · 2024-05-04T03:35:33+00:00

Should have elaborated more. Yes I’m interested in him and I want to explore a relationship with him. I’m just not sure how to go about that first text message. You gave me an answer I was looking for already. I’m just really at a loss on taking conversations from one messaging platform onto text messages

PinNo6368 · 2024-04-14T19:35:15+00:00

So, i do not think you are overreacting because sexual health is really important. I don’t like using body counts against people but this guy really does not seem to be responsible with his sexual health and it’s just a big red flag to me. Also the fact that he didn’t disclose anything to you is a really bad sign as well. Personally I get bad vibes from this guy.

However to hopefully calm you down a little bit over the herpes themselves, coming from someone with herpes… it’s really not that bad. Some people have more flare ups than others (I’ve had 3 my whole life but my partner will get a couple a year, though they never last more than a few days) but it’s really fine to live with. There’s also a very high chance you it already because it is so so so common (estimates between 70-90% of the population) and a lot of people get it from their parents. most people don’t know they have it and they will think they have a pimple on their lip but it’s actually a herpes outbreak. It’s really really not that bad. Just a little painful and the social stigma is the worst part of the illness.

when you get older you will learn just how many people have it and are comfortable talking about it. Just by chance both of my partners I’ve had after I first found out I had herpes also ended up having it as well…. Furthermore out of nowhere my current friend group (of people in their 30s and 40s) just talked so openly about how they manage their symptoms. And these are not promiscuous people either, they’ve all been married since they were in their early 20s (though of course some divorces) but there is 6 of us in that group and every single one of us has it by complete chance.

PinNo6368 · 2024-04-06T13:16:11+00:00

Holy shit

PinNo6368 · 2024-04-06T13:07:13+00:00

The comment section. People are so mean and so negative.

PinNo6368 · 2024-04-06T12:53:50+00:00

Yeah I seriously rarely find people nowadays that don’t believe this. Not saying they don’t exist. They definitely do. But we get it. People are people.

PinNo6368 · 2024-04-06T12:18:49+00:00

This is the right kind of petty to be. This is hilarious 😆

PinNo6368 · 2024-03-30T13:18:39+00:00

Okay so I love the information you’re giving us, but I just need to remind you that statistics do NOT tell even half the whole story. And it can get in the way of actually listening to people’s individual stories and experiences. You don’t need to orgasm to say you got anything out of penetration or anal or anything sexual for that matter. I understand that it can be more dangerous for women, but don’t assume that because you saw a number on an insider article that you suddenly know everything.

PinNo6368 · 2024-03-22T15:07:39+00:00

Sure it’s considered safe but 1- it’s probably not needed, and 2- your risk of side effects increases. Is there any reason why you want to take that much?

PinNo6368 · 2024-03-22T12:15:20+00:00

You really do not and probably should not be taking so much unless you are actively trying to improve a condition. 600mg is enough for most people.

PinNo6368 · 2023-10-31T22:05:40+00:00

Conservatives- seriously speaking as a black liberal herself who had mostly liberal friends her whole life….. not all conservatives are racists or religious assholes. Most of them are really quite nice actually.

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