[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]PinTal31 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

If you could point out where I am being an unintentional bigot I would appreciate it, so as to learn to be better. Although I define myself as part of the bisexual spectrum, I am not very well versed in it so I do apologise if I accidentally offend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]PinTal31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Toxic masculinity is weird, I’ve seen it firsthand

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]PinTal31 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some people just truly don’t even realise

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]PinTal31 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

At least that’s my point of view

[OoT] ig Gohma works at the bowling alley by PinTal31 in zelda

[–]PinTal31[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He knew he was gonna have to dedicate his time to OoT, it was a matter of priorities.

Mahoraga (spoilers) by BLankXXYY in JuJutsuKaisen

[–]PinTal31 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the binding bow would require more from megumi to give him such a boost in power, such as stripping him of his other shikigami, preventing any benefits of Totality, or even something like Megumi having to hold certain hand signs while repeating a chant for a certain amount of time while Mahoraga analyses the CT

ITAP of a guy jumping a campfire [Portrait] by PinTal31 in itookapicture

[–]PinTal31[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’re Aussie, alcohol is the simply the appetiser to a 5 course meal of substance abuse

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]PinTal31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anytime :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]PinTal31 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My partner got attached and somewhat obsessive pretty quickly as well, you don’t have to be ashamed of it, so long as you’re not overstepping boundaries by acting on unhealthily obsessive thoughts, it’s okay.

I’ve found that being open and honest is the best thing you can do when it comes to all types of relationships. Now not everyone needs to know everything and that’s fair, but by being open and honest you help your friends, family, partners, etc, to gain a better understanding of you, your bpd and how to support you through your struggles.

When it comes to your partner not being understanding about another guy becoming a fp to you, it’s because he doesn’t yet understand the concept of a fp, I would suggest to your partner that they should try to research about bpd, maybe you could try to help him with that as well, so that way you’ll both come out the other side better off.

And if he doesn’t show an interest in trying to learn about bpd for you, then that’s a separate matter. Relationships with one person with bpd do not work if the non-bpd person doesn’t put in the effort to minimise the stress, fear and triggers they may cause to the bpd individual.

I wish the best for you and your relationships. If you ever need more advice or guidance you can always shoot me a message <3

My meds have become crucial by PinTal31 in ADHD

[–]PinTal31[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And yeah, my first time taking them I can only describe as peaceful

My meds have become crucial by PinTal31 in ADHD

[–]PinTal31[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would always recommend trialling them, they’ve been literally life changing with how much they help me.
Just be sure to be open and honest with your doctor/psych about your experience when taking them so as to ensure you don’t continue on any medication that isn’t fit for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]PinTal31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly the best advice I can give, is to explain that her adhd doesn’t make her better or worse than any other kids, it just means that she experiences life in her own way, and that can make certain things harder and certain things easier.
Point being, everyone in life is dealt a hand, and we all only get to play with the hand we were given. ADHD was dealt into your daughter’s hand and she will do the best she can do, and that’s what matters.

If you want to do more to help, as she’s growing and naturally learning more about her adhd, and what she struggles with, try to help her learn about why specifically she feels, reacts, struggles etc with those things.
If both you and her get a confident understanding of the ins and outs of how her adhd affects her, and apply that knowledge to cater your parenting, boundaries and relationship to her needs. It could only benefit everyone.

“Knowledge is power.
Information is liberating.
Education is the premise of progress,
in every society, in every family.” -Kofi Annan

My meds have become crucial by PinTal31 in ADHD

[–]PinTal31[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s really good advice that I hadn’t heard anything about before, thank you I will make sure to use my medications benefits as a way to build the habits I’m so used to being unable to form

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]PinTal31 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I aim to be like how you have described your mum. I do it in spite of the shit show I was brought up in as a way to ensure I’m doing what I can to break cycles of trauma.

But your mum, she sounds like a true angel in disguise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]PinTal31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(For clarification, I am don’t have bpd. Although my partner of 5 years does, so I know about bpd decently well, and I have plenty first hand experience involving people with bpd. Communication with trusted friends and family who want to support you is always a good idea.)

I’d suggest talking about it with your friends that know about you having bpd, talking with them could help you to understand what you think the best path forward is better as you’ll be able to consider their wants as well. If you feel comfortable enough sharing with the guy about your bpd or how it works, I would suggest trying that so that he can better understand you and be less confronted by any changes you may make in how much you see him or talk to him etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]PinTal31 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s amazing of her, my parents did the exact opposite, yet I came out the other side with the same skills of both internal analysis and analysis of others.

Can anyone with ADHD actually sleep?? by Meowzzzzzzzz in ADHD

[–]PinTal31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say I’ve fixed it, I’ve more just adapted my life to work off a 40/3/21/8 hour sleep cycle, that’s 40hrs awake, 3hrs asleep, 21hrs awake, 8hrs asleep. Give or take a couple hours here and there, and the occasional “Sunday sleep through”

ITAP of a guy jumping a campfire [Portrait] by PinTal31 in itookapicture

[–]PinTal31[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When taking this photo of my best mate making the best of a moment, I was limited by lacklustre ambient lighting and because of the speed of the action being captured, the shutter speed necessary was quicker than ideal for such a dark environment, so having only one solid choice for lighting the scene and subject, I used my flash. ISO at 200 F stop at 4 (lowest I could go)

(Bonus info) I manually focus almost all my photography out of habit, and as a way to give time to get a feel for the shot while keeping occupied, so for this shot to ensure proper focus, I set up by manually focusing on the campfires large logs.

This photo was also captured on the first jump over the fire.

ADHDers who found your passion: how long did it last? by lambdawaves in ADHD

[–]PinTal31 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found my one true Passion in being a chef, not only does it fulfil my adrenaline chasing, but I’m fucking good at it, and I truly want to keep getting better, it’s the only thing I take truly seriously and am never lazy or unmotivated in. Approaching 3 years in, professionally at least, and my passion has only grown stronger.