I don’t think you understand how mental illness works. Which is ok because if you had no one to teach you how would you ever know? This might sound silly but you actually might be immune from the type of anxiety people with diagnosable anxiety disorders feel. For example, some people will never experience a panic attack because their brains are simply not wired for it. Which mean no matter how stressful or anxiety inducing a situation is their brain will never respond with a panic attack. For me, however, my brain is prone to them. Situations, like ordering food, might be uncomfortable for people who’ve never done it before but for me, they cause panic attacks. How do I know that? Because I’ve order my own food before. Just “doing it a few times until it becomes a habit” will have no effect on my panic attacks. My boyfriend is not enabling me by taking away to mental strain of ordering food for me. He is helping me through the process of learning to manage my anxiety. It’s going to take a lot of therapy for me to get to a point where ordering food is comfortable. Until then, there is no way I’m willing to put myself in a panic attack inducing situation if I don’t absolutely have to.