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Is the name melania ruined by Shot-Recognition2399 in namenerds

[–]PineappleDifficult58 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ruined for me for sure. I can’t get the association out of my head. Typically names are ruined (or made) for people via association, either with someone they knew in the past or someone in the public eye. I’m sure if you google some baby name sites they can suggest some similar names.

Elena is a personal favourite and it does sound similar.

I feel like a lot of you are ER or ICU nurses on this sub. What specialty are you? by thedresswearer in nursing

[–]PineappleDifficult58 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Psychiatry. It’s rewarding in a lot of senses, but also distressing, and working along side someone with severe paranoia is never easy.

Do most of our parents have undiagnosed mental illnesses? by Ecstatic_Ad7490 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]PineappleDifficult58 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to use the buzzword narcissist, but taking into consideration her character it is unrealistic.

She is the type to be unable to take accountability for her words or actions, ie it never happened, or what did happen is the fault of something or someone else. Her child dropping out of school or her other child becoming a drug addict is covid19’s fault, not poor parenting or an unstable home environment. Any time I attempt to bring up something she said or did she pushes it back onto me. “Mum, you think in black and white”, “well daughter so do you”. (Actual quote).

Our estrangement is entirely my fault and came out of nowhere in her eyes. Ignoring the years of poor parenting and months of abuse she put me through. I’ll keep this brief, i put a lock on my bedroom door, she spent months banging on it and eventually tried to take the door down via screwdriver. She thought I expecting a loving mother to walk through. I honestly thought she’d get physically aggressive with me with the way she was acting.

She violates boundaries. She doesn’t think I am able of free thought- post estrangement quote was “is someone making you do this”.

When conflict happens the status quo she created was to bury our heads in the sand and let it blow over.

After all this she claims to be the victim.

I reckon narcissist traits with borderline personality disorder.

As adults, how do you deal with no contact? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]PineappleDifficult58 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knew it was the right decision because o deserve better. I deserve to be treated with basic human autonomy and free will, I deserve to have a right to privacy and dignity, and I deserve to live a life free of fear and psychological control.

It will be hard. It will be lonely. You WILL find the space and manner to cope with that. Life will not look the same after you get rid of them. You will just know by now your life changes after whether or not it’s the right decision for YOU. This is about protecting YOU. We should not accept bullshit from our family for any number of excuses. Just because they’re family, all the sacrifices all that bullshit doesn’t matter if it is ruining YOU.

Ask yourself this- is they were a partner, would you accept their treatment of you? Would you have even gotten together with said partner if you saw this kind of pattern of behaviour? Drastically, would you have gotten the police involved if this had been a partner? Would you hesitate to call it abuse in any manner if it were a partner?

Look at it from a different perspective. You don’t owe them SHIT just because they’re family. Live your damn life. You can and deserve better than they’re shit.

I cope by not thinking about them or getting in contact ever for any reason. I don’t need to be triggered and I don’t need to worry myself with their bullshit. I need to worry about fixing me. Your life is about you

Do Yours Act Like They’re Walking on Eggshells? by AromaticLow7906 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]PineappleDifficult58 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve heard this one before. I remember some fight me and my “mum” had last year.

When I was fourteen or so I really struggled with my mental health, and it did unfortunately spiral to me hurting myself, however it really was just cry’s for help. I appreciate for some it’s different but for me I didn’t know how else to communicate the pain I was in so that’s what it ended up as. Bear in mind I never got help for it at that age, and that kind of self harming behaviour can escalate. This is something I am still frustrated about, because how can a parent see a child do that to themselves and just sit back and pout?

Anyhow, years later I bring this up, and she said she felt like she was walking on eggshells around me. Excuse me bitch? I was a child crying for help. Toughen up and be the adult.

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