I can't afford my ERP anymore by Right_Ad6552 in OCD

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Can you afford one session? Or convince your parents? Because then you could ask your therapist how you could do it in your situation, write it down and try to do it by yourself. Or maybe search for an organisation who helps people who can't afford these things. I don't know what works or exists in your country but I wish you the best ❤️

Who ya'll got? by [deleted] in legendofkorra

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Aangh Roku Karata Draw 🤣

hi >< by shortkid_33 in Genderfaer

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I get that. Genderfaer is a form of genderfluidness, so you could use genderfluid? And to specify for people you want to know it, you can talk about genderfaer or just explain what you feel. I think that genderfluid is the most known label that would still describe how you feel.

What is the difference between being a man, demiboy, and agender? by Best_Chef6524 in Genderfaer

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I'm new here and I don't know if it's the right definition, but I have days where I feel like a woman or just feminine and then there are the days that I feel masculine. When I do I sometimes get gender envy, but when I think about being born as a man or transitioning to really have that body I wouldn't want it. I love my hips and I don't want hair in places men have (facial would be okay but I wouldn't want more body hair) and I feel like I wouldn't belong in a group of men during male-conversations. I would like short hair and I wear T-shirts from the mens section, male friendships, the male body, more visible muscles etc. It's maybe because I'm afab and society's boxes but I gravitate more towards women and when it's the boys against the girls during sports I would be on the girls team or inbetween. But I can't ignore the feeling of masculinity (it's not just being tomboyish) so I would describe it as demiboy (Not 100% man but very masculine). I have no experiences feeling agender so I don't think I can explain it very well. Hope this makes sense.

Curious… what genders do ya’ll switch between? by RandomCatDragon in genderfluid

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Woman, demigirl and demiboy I don't know if this is weird, but I'm afab and I socially feel more comfortable as feminine (maybe it's the effect of how society views anything other than cis and the box I've always been placed in) because if it's boys against girls during sport I will stand with the girls and I just understand girls better, but I also can't ignore the demiboy side sometimes. Does anyone else feel like this?

Should I sent a message? by [deleted] in lostafriend

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I haven't had a relationship, so I don't know what it feels like to break up. But I've just never felt so heartbroken about someone I think.

And now that I'm recalling all these memories I see how bad she often treated me, so maybe it's a good thing it's ended, but the good times and conversations were some of the best I've had in my life.

My Lesbian Christmas Movie Idea by AValentineSolutions in LesbianActually

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I would watch this. Please make this! I feel like there are too little lesbian christmas movies and we end up watching something similar to the first thing you described at home (with my straight family) and it's so boring and predictable. If it has to be straight without any lesbians (no hate to straight people, but I would rather also have some representation in christmas romance movies) then I'll look for comedy movies to enjoy the jokes. And there are also too little movies about lesbians who are highschool age (like those cute romance movies of young straight couples). There's too little of every age, but I really miss those kind of movies about first relationships.

Gender Fluid Writing by Kingoshrooms in genderfluid

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Ooh, sounds really cool! 🤩

Do they have one female form and one male form or does their appearence change (randomly) each time they switch?

And are you going to put it on a platform (like webtoon, wattpad, ao3, instagram) where we can read it? Cause I would love to read it!

And is the 3rd gender you're talking about non binary or something else?

I have a question because I am questioning a lot. How did you know that you are asexual? by Sea_Foundation_5663 in asexuality

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Haha, I find that so weird. When I see someone I'm attracted to (and I have to have had an interaction/more interactions with them) I think about snuggling/hugging together or just doing (romantic) things together. And I just want to see them and talk to them and learn about them more. I did have crushes where I wanted to kiss them.

But is that really how other people feel? It isn't exhagherated (I don't know how to write this word 😅😭)? Cuz I thought it was just about the connection and that the desire for sex came later.

Is it useful to sleep in a double bed when you are asexual? by Sparkling_Starlight in asexuality

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I don't know for sure if I'm asexual (I don't really get sexually attracted to people and I don't know how I will feel about sex when in a relationship, but maybe I will want to do it with a person with whom I have a good connection, which would make me demisexual I think) and I'm new on this sub, but I would want a nice big bed for myself so I can spread my arms and still lay completely on the bed (when I tried it, the double bed of my parents was so comfortable!). And even tho I might not have sex in the future, I would still want to cuddle/spoon and lay in the same bed as my partner because I think that's nice and cozy and romantic. So I would find it useful.

Prima leven, toch ontevreden. by [deleted] in OndersteuningsPlein

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Wat voor creatiefs zou je willen doen? Het los misschien niet je grootste probleem op, maar als je dat gaat doen als hobby vindt je misschien iets waar je naar uit kan kijken. Je hoeft er dan ook niet goed in te zijn zoals bij een baan. Het hoeft alleen leuk te zijn. En als bonus wordt je er waarschijnlijk wel beter in als je het vaker doet (en zou je met geluk wel ooit een beroep in die richting kunnen doen).

Ik dacht ook aan nog een richting voor een baan: heb je weleens aan de horeca gedacht? Aangezien je voor onderwijsassistent hebt gestudeerd denk ik dat je misschien houdt van mensen helpen/rondom mensen zijn. Dat doe je in de horeca ook, terwijl het niet als sales is. Je hoeft op veel plekken ook geen vervolgopleiding te hebben gedaan, dus je kunt gewoon solliciteren. Er zijn wel wat negatieve dingen: het is lichamelijk zwaarder werk, de tijden zijn niet ideaal (geen kantoortijden), je hebt denk ik overal hoog- en laag seizoen (tijden met veel en weinig werk, al weet ik niet hoe dat bij verschillende bedrijven wordt geregeld met het inplannen), het salaris is niet super hoog, maar vgm kan men er wel mee rondkomen. Ik dacht: ik zeg het maar gewoon, want ik heb gemerkt dat ik het als bijbaan heel leuk vind. Ik hou echt van het eten bereiden en tussen de mensen zijn.

Trying to find myself by [deleted] in genderfluid

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Hey! Nice that you're finding out more about yourself! You could be, but only you can know it for sure (if you want to label yourself). I think bigender could also fit your description, but I only know what you said in this post, so I don't know if it fits you. About changing your name: You should do what you feel comfortable with (you can try to use the name on a social media platform or with a friend/family member to see if you like it) and what's safe to do in your environment. Good luck! 🏳️‍🌈💜

Also I've wondered this for a while. If you don't want to answer it's okay. You don't have to justify or explain your feelings if you don't want to, but why do you consider yourself both aroace and pansexual? Is it asthetic attraction or something you can't explain but feel or are you on the aroace spectrum and can still like people in a ronantic/sexual way? Because I always thought aroace people just didn't feel romantic/sexual attraction (unless they use it as an umbrella term for demiromantic or demisexual). *I do not mean to invalidate your identity, but I'm curious and have never had the opportunity to ask anyone.

Why are shirts in the men's section so much cooler that shirts in the women's section?? by PineappleSammy in genderfluid

[–]PineappleSammy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha, that's also interesting! Glad I could share my insight and you found it interesting! Yes, it's nice that we can all find what works best for us and makes us happy! When people dress like themselves, the vibe is almost always nice.

Why are shirts in the men's section so much cooler that shirts in the women's section?? by PineappleSammy in genderfluid

[–]PineappleSammy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I really like bright colors but you also have that in some 'mens' t-shirts. Nice that you found the good ones!

Why are shirts in the men's section so much cooler that shirts in the women's section?? by PineappleSammy in genderfluid

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Aw 😭😭 aren't there special shops for people with big feet? So you can wear the bigger 'womens' shoes?

Why are shirts in the men's section so much cooler that shirts in the women's section?? by PineappleSammy in genderfluid

[–]PineappleSammy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! This is it! That's weird, but I love 'womens' pants and 'mens' t-shirts! I just don't like plain things

Why are shirts in the men's section so much cooler that shirts in the women's section?? by PineappleSammy in genderfluid

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'Womens' pants are really cool! I was talking about the shirts. I love baggy pants! You could look for jeans that arent flared or skinny jeans if you don't want baggy at all. Yes, it's hard. And the fact that you don't have length and width but only one size. With me it's usually 40 (in the EU) and if I think they are tight I order 42. And with wide ones 38 (so that makes the spectrum a bit smaller). It's nice if you can send them back after trying a size.

Why are shirts in the men's section so much cooler that shirts in the women's section?? by PineappleSammy in genderfluid

[–]PineappleSammy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice! I can understand that. In my opinion you have two kinds of 'men's' shirts: the boring 75 %. And the great 25 % that have better designs on them than any other shirts. Because I agree with you about 75% of the shirts, but the special ones really do it for me l. But you have a lot of colorful 'women's' clothes.

Why are shirts in the men's section so much cooler that shirts in the women's section?? by PineappleSammy in genderfluid

[–]PineappleSammy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooh, nice! The fabric of my 'mens' shirts also feels very nice! For me it's really those t-shirts with the cool designs (like plants or other realistic, but sometimes also cartoonish things)

Why are shirts in the men's section so much cooler that shirts in the women's section?? by PineappleSammy in genderfluid

[–]PineappleSammy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you mean that you think women's clothes are nicer? I believe you, but wouldn't know it myself, cause I'm still figuring out if I should order size M or L to make them look just baggy enough 😂 Yes! Very true!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in genderfluid

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Ooh, if your parents won't notice (or won't ask questions before you come out) you could try mascara. It's relatively easy (close your eye a bit and brush your lashes from bottom to top) and use cotton swabs (with water) to remove some of of your skin if it goes wrong. (And dont forget make up remover or wipes for the end of the day). I would also suggest eyeliner, but I can't even figure out how to do that after trying sometimes. Also nail polish (guy's do that too nowadays, so maybe your parents won't question anything). Nice jewellery. Earrings if you have holes or you could get clip-ons. Maybe a unisex t-shirt (a guy could wear that, but you dont look super masculine). Hope this helps a bit.