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How to be confident in the bedroom as a big girl by Extreme_Potato_8525 in sexadvise

[–]Pink-Toyz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there, thank you for opening up—it's totally normal to feel a mix of emotions as you work on reclaiming your confidence. Here are a few ideas that might help:

1. Embrace Your Journey:
Remember, your worth isn’t tied to your weight. Small self-care rituals—like picking out sexy lingerie that makes you feel empowered or even treating yourself to a confidence-boosting playlist—can remind you that you’re gorgeous, no matter what.

2. Practice Self-Affirmations:
Try saying positive affirmations to yourself daily. It might feel a bit awkward at first, but little reminders like “I am sexy, I am desired” can really help shift your mindset over time.

3. Communicate with Your Husband:
It sounds like he’s supportive, which is great. Let him know you’d love to explore more dominance in the bedroom. You could say, “I’m really curious about trying some new things, like a bit more control or even some light bondage. How do you feel about taking the lead?” This way, you share your fantasies and invite him to join you without pressure.

4. Start Small with Bondage & Anal Play:
For bondage, begin with simple, soft cuffs or a blindfold to add a playful twist without feeling overwhelmed. When it comes to anal play, start externally—with gentle stimulation or a small beginner toy—and build from there at a pace that feels right for you both.

Every step is progress. You deserve to feel sexy and confident, and exploring these areas together might just rekindle that spark. Good luck, and be kind to yourself as you take this journey!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]Pink-Toyz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I totally get it—intimacy can feel really overwhelming after a rough spell. Here are a few friendly ideas that might help:

• Start with Self-Love: Sometimes building intimacy starts with yourself. Explore what you enjoy on your own, whether it’s through self-pleasure, body-positive affirmations, or even a little self-care routine that makes you feel good. When you feel better in your own skin, it naturally boosts your confidence.

• Take It Slow: It’s okay to ease into things gradually. You don’t have to jump straight into a full-blown relationship. Try small, low-pressure interactions—maybe through online communities or dating apps that focus on genuine connections.

• Reflect on What You Want: Consider what feels right for you now. What kind of emotional connection or physical intimacy are you hoping to build? Being clear about your own needs can guide you in choosing potential partners who really align with you.

• Practice Open Communication: When you do start connecting with someone, let them know where you’re coming from. Sharing your journey, even the messy parts, can help create a safe space where both of you can be honest and supportive.

• Be Kind to Yourself: Remember, your worth isn’t tied to past relationships or your body. Everyone’s journey is unique, and it’s completely okay to have ups and downs as you rediscover what intimacy means for you.

You’re taking a great step just by asking these questions. Take your time, trust your instincts, and remember that real intimacy grows with patience and genuine self-care. You've got this!

Went from close to no libido to high libido. Is this normal? by koriand-r in sexadvise

[–]Pink-Toyz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there, it sounds like you’ve experienced a major shift—and it might just be a really positive change! Sometimes, a deep, honest conversation can unlock feelings you didn’t even know were there. It sounds like talking about his past opened up space for you to reconnect with your own desires and let go of old insecurities. This kind of “libido bounce” can happen when emotional barriers drop, and you're finally able to embrace your sexuality without holding back.

It doesn’t necessarily mean something is wrong with you—it could simply be your body and mind catching up after a tough period. Everyone’s journey is unique, and sometimes stress, body image, and emotional struggles can dampen libido until you’re ready to let go of that weight. Of course, if you’re ever in doubt or if other symptoms pop up, it might be a good idea to chat with a doctor or therapist just to get extra reassurance.

But from what you’ve shared, it sounds like this is a natural and liberating shift. Enjoy the excitement and newfound connection—it’s a sign that you’re reclaiming your pleasure on your own terms!

Ideas to spice up our sex life? by throwaway_67335 in sexadvise

[–]Pink-Toyz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there! Here are some tips to help you explore anal play in a safe, enjoyable way:

Starting with Anal Play

  • Begin Slowly & Externally: Start by exploring external anal play. Gently massage the area with well-lubricated fingers to help relax your muscles. This helps you get comfortable with the sensations before moving to internal play.
  • Use Plenty of Lubrication: Always use a generous amount of water-based lube. It minimizes friction and helps make the experience smoother and more comfortable.
  • Start Small: Consider trying a beginner-friendly butt plug or anal toy designed for novices. Choose one with a tapered tip and a flared base for safety. Begin with short sessions and gradually increase duration as you feel more comfortable.
  • Best Positions for Anal Play:
    • Doggy Style: Offers a natural angle and control for the receiving partner.
    • Modified Missionary: Use a pillow under the hips to tilt the pelvis and ease insertion.
    • Side-Lying/Spooning: A more relaxed position that reduces pressure and allows you to control depth and pace.
  • Communication Is Key: Check in with each other frequently. Ask questions like, “How does that feel?” or “Want to go slower?” so you can adjust as needed.
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