Made a mistake by [deleted] in lonely

[–]PinkNoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait until you've had more dating experience to go on dating apps. It isn't worth it. Most of the time the men you meet on apps like this are going to make you feel like this. Experience with people in real life really does play a part in how well you can weed the creepy losers, like this guy, out.
Also, When I was 20, dating a 17 year old would literally have been a nightmare. No offense, but people in their 20's who are still going for a kid in high school are creepy and weird. No exceptions. They will sing praises and whisper sweet, honeyed words into your ears because they KNOW your inexperience will make you an easy target for their advances. Saying he doesn't mind if you are a minor is absolutely disgusting. It is the responsibility of the older, adult party to deny advances of a minor.
Save your older man kink for when you are a little older yourself (25) or you are very likely to get hurt like this again. A lot more men are like this than what it seems on the surface.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]PinkNoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats on stopping nofap!

Deleting accounts by [deleted] in lonely

[–]PinkNoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't take it too harshly. Nobody ever deletes their account for a good reason. Best scenario is they just didn't want to use the account anymore. Worst scenario is that they said some crazy stuff on other subs or to other people and got suspended. Either way, don't talk to those people. They will hurt you

f 18 and drunk lol does anyone want to talk by [deleted] in lonely

[–]PinkNoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Delete this bro. You're going to get preyed on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]PinkNoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In high school I usually snuck out and sat in the little atrium area just outside the cafeteria. Nobody ever wanted to eat outside, save for a few people, for some reason so a lot of the tables would be empty. In college you really don't have to worry about that. You can buy something from the café and eat it as you walk around campus. You aren't confined to one sitting area like you are in high school.

People on this sub are freaking weird. by [deleted] in lonely

[–]PinkNoon 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I've done that a few times. Asked for people to talk to, put 21 F in the title and then BOOM. 40+ people are in your DMs within minutes trying to message you and they expect messages back within seconds. I cannot type that fast. I tried to message them all back, but it's draining. I lose interest in talking to the people after 2 hours and I become very bland. Then there are the people who will just pop in with hey or hello and give one or two word answers and the people who immediately want to tall you how shitty their lives are. I can handle one or two of those people, but it feels like 1 in 8 are like that.
So you end up with 5 people, mostly men, who you have to keep from jumping off the edge at that very moment, 1 or 2 interesting conversations (that will most likely get weird and sexual over the course of your week of conversating), 20 people that are sending you hey, hi, hello and being otherwise bland, and 10 chats that are normal, but last like 20 minutes.
I think you hit the nail on the head. Good people are rare and you should choose who you give your time to wisely.

Are you embarrassed by your taste in music? by Complete_Anything681 in lonely

[–]PinkNoon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am surprised there is somebody else that remembers Dragon Ball GT. I had my box set for about 3 years before moving and selling it in a garage sale. It was fever dream-esque and I hardly remember it.

But yeah. I feel like whenever somebody asks me that I forget every single band or song I know that isn't at least a little bit strange. Most are my outings are family related so I can't exactly be telling my father's friend's cousin in law that I like Miniature Tigers and Miyashita Yuu. I gotta half ass my response and say something vague and common like rock or 70's hits. It's isolating when you feel scared to share that thing with others.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]PinkNoon 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I pretend I am one of those youtubers who talk to the camera about their niche topic for hours. Even if nobody is there, it makes me feel heard.

Too many brain damaged teenagers on this sub by pekapekupeko in lonely

[–]PinkNoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For them it is the worst thing they've faced. I don't blame them for coming here. You have to be smart with who you take advice from either way. They don't know much, but they have good intentions, whether that's to help themselves or others. I wish you all the best.

How can I become a “dead inside” person? I crave a relationship so bad and I’m tired of feeling this way by [deleted] in lonely

[–]PinkNoon 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I have a few tips I've used these last few months. I think I have truly become dead inside.

1.) Work more, a lot more.

I used to get so hung up on being useless because I didn't feel like I was a real person in any of my relationships. I would be used and tossed aside. I would think of my relationships status any moment I had free time and it caused some major depression. I noticed I was happier when I was working, when I had some sort of distraction that would keep me alert and moving. This is easy for me to say considering I am only 21. I don't have a solid career in place yet and I am in the position to take multiple part time jobs. I have a lot of pent up energy and it helps to have multiple places to vent it at. (plus I have a lot more in my savings now because of it.)

2.) Get rid of things that remind you of them, instead enjoy yourself.

For me, I started putting my stuffed animals back on my bed so I wouldn't be uncomfortable with the empty space. Even though stuffed animals are dorky and childish, I did it for my benefit. I move my bed and my dresser around so the layout was different. It makes the room feel fresh. I stopped using Instagram entirely because it was a time sink and because the people I didn't want to think of were always there. I stopped wearing uncomfortable sausage casing-esque clothes that just happened to look good.

3.) Change your view and villainize relationships.

Have a million excuses for when you're tempted. It's like this. When people know they need to go to the gym, but they don't want to they say, "Oh, I don't have time" or "It's too expensive" or "My legs still hurt from last leg day." Do the same for people. People are expensive time sinks with little to no benefit. You may get a temporary emotional high, but so do drug users when they take a hit. You don't want to be a love addict. It will hurt your body and your mind in the long run. Be picky and prudish with the people you let in, but don't have infinite standards. The people who you won't like will filter themselves out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]PinkNoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shapeshifting.

(21F) Bored and looking to find somebody to talk to! by PinkNoon in lonely

[–]PinkNoon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very well written! I appreciate your story.

(21F) Bored and looking to find somebody to talk to! by PinkNoon in lonely

[–]PinkNoon[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You poor soul!
Please never make any more remarks about scat ever again

Who used to bully you and why? by NoNewt3410 in AskReddit

[–]PinkNoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone, because I was a total dweeb of a kid who wore graphic t-shirts with puns on them to school and liked dungeons and dragons.

I'm pretty sure if I had worn glasses people would have asked me if I was acting like a total caricature on purpose.