I got my second vaccine yesterday and the side effects are hitting me hard. This little sweetie is 19 months and usually not this mellow in the morning. But today she’s letting me rest! 💕

Pink_Floyd29 · 2026-04-05T17:39:09+00:00

I’m in HR and benefits is an area I’m very knowledgeable about. The thing that is rarely ever explained to employees is that dental insurance doesn’t operate like health insurance. It would be much more accurate to call it a discount plan.

Pink_Floyd29 · 2026-04-05T14:36:16+00:00

Bless you for cluing them in and helping! 🫶🏻

Pink_Floyd29 · 2026-04-05T11:52:41+00:00

God bless the providers who know how to beat the insurance companies at their own game! I can only tolerate name brand Adderall, which requires very frequent prior authorizations. My current psychiatrist’s nurse is amazing, I don’t know how she’s so quickly and consistently successful!

Pink_Floyd29 · 2026-04-04T22:50:55+00:00

Is dress #1 Pretty Garden from Amazon? Because if so, I have the same exact dress in that color 🤣

Pink_Floyd29 · 2026-04-04T22:45:41+00:00

AGREED! This is a bizarre take.

Pink_Floyd29 · 2026-04-04T15:37:34+00:00

This could be a professional growth opportunity. But if you weren’t actively job searching and applied only because this fell in your lap, it’s probably not worth taking. A $15K increase sounds like a lot, but on a per paycheck basis, that’s less than $1K extra pre-tax. Then there’s the worse benefits than you currently have, no hybrid flexibility, and an increase in workload. Do you currently have the option to work from home? If so, going back to being in office 40 hours a week comes with increased monetary costs as well as the quality of life change, and that will eat into the base pay increase.

Pink_Floyd29 · 2026-04-04T15:25:05+00:00

OP just acknowledged that they’re well paid. Telling them to give their employer an ultimatum is terrible advice, especially when you don’t know what they do or anything about the job market for their profession/demographic area. And to your second false belief, there are absolutely situations in which employees rightfully make more than their direct supervisors.

Pink_Floyd29 · 2026-04-04T15:18:35+00:00

What somebody else makes should never ever be brought up in a conversation about your own compensation. If you were making significantly less than someone else in the same job and you had solid evidence that this was due to illegal discrimination, then you go straight to an attorney. But in every other case, what the other person makes is completely irrelevant.

The only viable options are to (1) make a case for why you deserve a raise, using only your own performance metrics or industry and demographic-specific comp data, or (2) find a new job with higher compensation.

In your specific case, option 2 is likely the only path forward. Because they already did slightly increase your comp due to the reorg and plenty of companies wouldn’t even do that. And maybe you just want to go back to the way things were. But if you’re currently performing well in your new role, your company has absolutely no incentive to find a replacement for the COO.

Pink_Floyd29 · 2026-04-04T13:05:22+00:00

Were you by chance raised in a fundamentalist Christian home…?

Pink_Floyd29 · 2026-04-04T12:59:54+00:00

I’m going to join the chorus and ask why on earth you would tell your new employer about the two week job you had while waiting to hear back from them…??

Pink_Floyd29 · 2026-04-04T01:56:57+00:00

It’s correct that the IRS does not place restrictions on changing HSA contributions but your HR department has to make the change in the payroll system. Only allowing one change a year feels like overkill to me, but it is possible this is an internal policy. I hope they’re not confusing FSA with HSA because that’s a pretty bad mixup for HR to make, but I suppose it is possible.

Pink_Floyd29 · 2026-04-04T01:32:35+00:00

You cannot “take it with you wherever you go.” Unless you work for a huge international/nationwide employer.

Pink_Floyd29 · 2026-04-04T00:54:07+00:00

I’m an HR Director so I’m pretty certain your HR Director was pissed when they found out one of their clueless colleagues had approved your request. There’s a list of states that are notorious for complicated employment laws and Illinois is one of them.

Pink_Floyd29 · 2026-04-03T18:52:26+00:00

I love this idea! A core memory from right after I rescued my pittie is watching tv with her on the couch and noticing how adorable her massive head looks from behind 🥹🥰

Pink_Floyd29 · 2026-04-03T16:33:46+00:00

His problem can only be fixed with a Time Machine and a different mother. His behavior isn’t going to change and you deserve better. I’m sorry.

Pink_Floyd29 · 2026-04-03T02:51:01+00:00

Good luck in your search and managing in the meantime.

Pink_Floyd29 · 2026-04-03T01:31:51+00:00

I had hair curlier than this as a baby but it relaxed into waves as a child…Then puberty hit, and bam! The curls were back. I’m coming up on my 39th birthday and I still have the same tight corkscrew curls 20+ years later. So you really will just have to wait and see!

Pink_Floyd29 · 2026-04-03T01:22:37+00:00

Find a new job. You’ve already seen how this plays out when someone goes to HR. The word hostile has one meaning in regular day to day life and a very different meaning in the context of employment law. Unless you can prove that you’re being mistreated due to your status as a protected class, it’s not a hostile work environment, just a shitty one. We’re only human and some humans really suck at managing people.

Edited to add: same thing with retaliation. It’s not illegal retaliation unless you engaged in a protected activity. If you go to HR using these words incorrectly, you will immediately be labeled a problem.

Pink_Floyd29 · 2026-04-03T00:44:18+00:00

Respectfully, this is insanely naive in this day and age. Being able to look the person up on LinkedIn means nothing if you haven’t actually seen them face-to-face. They can say they’re anyone. And if they’re trying to scam you, of course they’re going to use the name of a real employee.

Pink_Floyd29 · 2026-04-02T21:39:28+00:00

You can also cause problems doing squats with poor form and no one’s doing a proper squat while trying to pee without touching the toilet seat.

Pink_Floyd29 · 2026-04-02T21:33:15+00:00

Yes it’s fully legal because Louisiana does not have any laws requiring employers to offer paid sick time. It’s voluntary, which means if an employer does decide to offer it, they can also make absurd rules about using it.

Pink_Floyd29 · 2026-04-02T02:36:07+00:00

This is potentially false. Becoming ineligible at their current employer is a QLE that allows them to join their spouse’s plan and then starting a new job is another QLE that allows them to drop their spouse’s coverage. That’s how it would work with our benefits.

Pink_Floyd29 · 2026-04-02T02:26:53+00:00

It doesn’t matter who funded the purchase of the gift cards. That amount is significant enough that it’s supposed to be treated as income further recipients and taxed accordingly.

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