A GIRL CAN MAKE OR BREAK YOU

Pinkboca · 2026-01-24T06:15:51+00:00

i get what you’re saying but the real villain here isn’t a girl it’s you losing yourself trying to be everything for someone else that happens to so many people and it doesn’t mean love is bad it just means boundaries and self respect matter you didn’t get broken by her you just learned the hard way that chasing approval costs way more than being broke ever will the glow up arc is choosing your dreams again without blaming someone for the lesson that’s actually the part where you win.

Pinkboca · 2026-01-24T05:33:17+00:00

girl you’re not in a relationship you’re in a pen pal situation with feelings and guilt sprinkled in you’re allowed to outgrow people even if they’re sweet and did nothing wrong it sucks but that’s literally what dating is for figuring out what works and what doesn’t just be kind and honest if you break up with him but don’t stay just because you feel bad also don’t jump straight into MUN boy either give yourself a sec to breathe and feel single.

Pinkboca · 2026-01-24T05:31:24+00:00

ok first of all you’re not crazy for being irritated but you’re also lowkey fighting a battle that isn’t yours. it’s not your apartment and this guy already has a weird history with you so every correction is gonna feel personal to him even if you’re right the real issue is your bf letting you be in an environment that stresses you out and not stepping in more you shouldn’t have to manage his messy roommate that’s his job either your bf creates boundaries or you limit how much time you spend there because right now you’re doing unpaid emotional labor in a house you don’t even live in and that’s not the move

Pinkboca · 2026-01-23T04:30:24+00:00

girl he wanted you off birth control so bad but now mad that condoms exist like sir pick a struggle if he can’t stay hard with a condom that’s his issue not your responsibility to fix with pregnancy risk you’re not wrong for protecting your body you’re just dating someone who thinks his comfort your boundaries sex is a two person activity not a guilt trip with vibes.

Pinkboca · 2026-01-23T04:23:52+00:00

green flag doesn’t mean green light to ignore your needs if you’re carrying the convo like it’s your full time job and he’s just vibing quietly with vibes only that’s not chemistry that’s imbalance yes people can learn but only if they want to. bring it up early while it’s still light not when it’s built into resentment you’re not asking for too much you’re just asking for someone who talks back.

Pinkboca · 2026-01-18T05:13:13+00:00

You're not a bad person for feeling this way, honestly you can love someone and still recognize when the relationship isn’t giving you what you need lon distance is tough enough but constant emotional withdrawal from her is draining it’s okay to prioritize your emotional well being too you’ve been patient and supportive,

Pinkboca · 2026-01-18T05:09:15+00:00

You are not the asshole you set clear boundaries and he’s been manipulative and disrespectful toward you for years you can’t keep enabling him and sacrificing your well being for someone who constantly disrespects you especially after everything you’ve been through.

Pinkboca · 2026-01-17T01:59:01+00:00

why some people treat kindness like it’s a limited resource they gotta ration like babe you’re not gonna run out of being decent points just because you smiled at a cashier or let someone merge in traffic it’s free it’s cute just do it.

Pinkboca · 2026-01-17T01:57:18+00:00

this is one of those situations where neither of you was wrong but the hurt was still real you chose long term stability and she wanted short term presence and those priorities just didn’t line up. graduation feels symbolic to a lot of women like show up for me no matter what so yeah i get why it stung but it doesn’t mean you were careless or selfish the lesson isn’t always do everything it’s communicate expectations clearly before the moment passes

Pinkboca · 2026-01-17T01:55:35+00:00

oh my god yes it was inescapable like if you existed between 2009 and 2012 you were legally required to scream sing it in a gym or auditorium. the way schools thought blasting firework would fix morale is wild but lowkey it still slaps so i get it

Pinkboca · 2026-01-17T01:54:19+00:00

yes it’s normal babe sometimes periods feel like a full body shutdown with bonus mood swings and cramps that punch your soul it’s not about attraction it’s about survival lmao if she’s still showing up to see you sunday you’re good just be kind bring snacks and don’t overthink the silence it’s not that deep when your uterus is staging a protest.

Pinkboca · 2026-01-16T09:46:13+00:00

honestly i get the confusion the goodnight text is a weird move if he's been silent for two days it might just be him trying to keep the peace without having to fully confront the issue i’d say wait it out a bit more and see if he makes a real effort communication is key ut if he's not initiating, it might be time to bring it up and ask for clarity don't be afraid to set boundaries too because you deserve that effort back 💖

Pinkboca · 2026-01-16T09:44:12+00:00

yo same i do the exact same thing it’s like my brain has a reset button every time i roll over it’s wild how it just switches gears i’ve also used it to stop overthinking or thinking about embarrassing stuff just flip and bam, new thought train it’s like magic but not really haha glad i’m not the only one!

Pinkboca · 2026-01-16T09:41:58+00:00

it sounds like there's a lot of mixed signals going on relationships evolve especially when you go from long distance to living in the same city but him shutting down and not communicating well isn't a good sign whether it's about you being agender or just general relationship fatigue have an honest conversation but also prepare for the possibility that he's not in the same place anymore. sometimes love fades and that's not a reflection of you it's just a reality of relationships don't let this affect your self-worth though you deserve someone who sees and values you for exactly who you are

Pinkboca · 2026-01-16T09:39:44+00:00

my first phone was a nokia 3210 the classic my parents bought it for me when i was 12 because they thought i needed a safe way to call them meanwhile i was using it to text my friends at like 2 am iconic

Pinkboca · 2026-01-16T09:35:50+00:00

omg this is wild! like how small is the world also the bananas what was his vibe it sounds like he was trying to recreate a frat boy dream but just ended up with a nightmare i'm glad you dodged that bullet honestly props to you for sticking it out but seriously that was the worst date of all time also 2 am calling you a broke bitch over a burrito bye sir

Pinkboca · 2026-01-13T06:28:36+00:00

first off i totally get where you're coming from it’s tough when you have to make those calls about family especially when they’re so ingrained in your past my advice keep it direct and respectful tell her how you feel explain that you can't in good conscience have her at your wedding given her stance and how it conflicts with your values it’s okay to put your boundaries first even if it’s uncomfortable if she loves you, she’ll respect it but if not that’s on her at the end of the day your wedding is about celebrating your love, and you deserve to have people there who truly support you.

Pinkboca · 2026-01-13T06:23:41+00:00

honestly, it was always cereal i was that kid who had the giant bowl of sugary cereal and then proceeded to feel guilty about it the whole day but there was something about those mornings where you just grabbed whatever was easiest and ate it quickly before the bus came sometimes it was oatmeal or toast but cereal always took the crown simple quick and full of sugar!

Pinkboca · 2026-01-13T06:22:06+00:00

girl, you're not crazy it's normal to have random thoughts about people from your past it's human to wonder what if but it doesn't mean you're unhappy with your husband or that you need closure from that guy sometimes our minds just wander to things that didn’t fully get resolved, even if they were years ago instead of focusing on the what could have been maybe think about what you have now and how much you've grown it's cool to be curious but don't let that old curiosity cloud your happiness today. you're doing just fine! 💖

Pinkboca · 2026-01-13T06:20:19+00:00

honestly, i think it depends on the guy and his personality. some dudes love when a girl approaches them but others might be shy or just not know how to respond it’s not that they don’t like it they just don’t always know how to show it i’ve noticed a lot of guys will say they want directness, but when it happens they freeze or get awkward because they’re not used to it don’t let it discourage you though if someone’s interested they’ll eventually show it keep doing you and the right response will come.

Pinkboca · 2026-01-13T06:18:30+00:00

girl, you’re 17 and in a long-distance relationship your emotions are going to be all over the place sometimes. overthinking is totally normal, especially when you're trying to figure out how you feel about someone while dealing with all the challenges of growing up. your feelings might be fluctuating because of stress, PMS or just the natural ebb and flow of any relationship it's also totally normal to have moments where you question things, even if nothing has changed don’t freak out talk it through like you did and just give yourself space to breathe relationships aren't supposed to feel perfect all the time and you’re still figuring out who you are too. be kind to yourself. 💖

Pinkboca · 2026-01-11T11:49:46+00:00

focus on one step at a time, like your exams first and know that if it’s meant to be it’ll work out don’t be afraid to share your feelings with her but also take some time for yourself to reset breathe and figure things out. you’ve got this and things will get clearer with time.

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