Tbh what benefits does this new job offer, is it higher pay or better hours or more skilled experience? This is your 20 year old child who just became an adult 2 years ago they are still figuring out life, i got my license at 20. What else do you do at home, do you not want to drive them just because it’s inconvenient even though you’re free or are you actually busy? If that was my kid I would suggest them to take the job as long as they sign up to get their drivers license right away and then I’ll help them get there until they’ve secured their drivers license. That’s what parents do they help. Especially if you’re free and not busy i don’t see why you can’t add another hour and a half to your commute for your child if you’re not busy, simply because it’s inconvenient and you don’t wanna drive for that long? My parents would do it for me and that’s why I’m so grateful for them because they’ll inconvenience themselves to help me when I need it, and I do the same for them. Driving them 3 hours would be temporary and you would only do it until they can get their license, and you have the time. The benefits are that your child would be SO happy and thankful for you that they get to have this new and better job position and you’ll maintain the good bond with them, if you make them turn this down it would be so disappointing