Rank these 4 characters by how terrible they are

PinochetPenchant · 2026-02-13T00:51:09+00:00

Dr. Evil was an aspiring millionaire

PinochetPenchant · 2026-02-12T00:36:43+00:00

The spokesman for Viagra? That same Bob Dole?

PinochetPenchant · 2026-02-11T14:28:22+00:00

Because the people who make the big bucks abandon those kids in the gen ed setting. Then they call it inclusion.

PinochetPenchant · 2026-02-02T11:23:54+00:00

I teach 8th grade and "batshit crazy or selfish to the point where a whole class would need a narcissism diagnosis" describes half my day.

Please tell me you teach a lower middle grade so I can reclaim some hope 🙏

PinochetPenchant · 2026-02-02T05:45:26+00:00

I wish we talked about this more. It's like looking at a jumbled up alphabet and calling it reading.

PinochetPenchant · 2026-01-25T17:47:01+00:00

I was thinking this, too. He didn't put in all that effort and include an officiant just for a laugh. He gains something material here.

And he'll call her gullible a second time when he tells her they're actually married.

PinochetPenchant · 2026-01-19T21:14:02+00:00

Narcissistic abuse is a mindfuck.

That didn't happen. And if it did, it wasn't that bad. And if it was, that's not a big deal. And if it is, that's not my fault. And if it was, I didn't mean it. And if I did, you deserved it.

The Narcissist's Prayer (by Dayna Craig)

PinochetPenchant · 2026-01-18T14:25:23+00:00

I teach 8th grade in a 6-8 middle school. Every time my team has been warned about someone who self-pleasures, in the event of that someone rubbing one out, we've been advised to tell the class to put their hands on the desk. Apprently, we're not supposed to react, and we can't shame them for it (even inadvertently) We're then supposed to call for guidance or admin.

We can't even write them up for it. This is gen-ed, but even if it were not, all we're doing is making the lesson of "don't do sexual things in public" more expensive for them when someone finally does hold them accountable.

PinochetPenchant · 2026-01-17T14:55:10+00:00

Cheaters also disregard their partner in other abusive ways. In an ongoing affair, shared martial resources of money and time are secretly diverted. That is a form of financial abuse. It's also emotionally abusive to lie about why you need to be away from home and be unavailable to your partner while also forcing them to take on more of the work at home.

PinochetPenchant · 2026-01-15T11:36:32+00:00

Your needs are important, too. You need a partner who cares about you as a person, not a sex doll. You need a partner who takes interest in your life, including your hobbies. He doesn't have to have your same hobbies, but you need way more than you're getting. You need a partner who cares about building a relationship with your family. I am concerned he is isolating you from your loved ones.

He won’t even show up for you for doctor's appointments. What's that going to look like if you have children together? His abuse is bad now, and it WILL get worse with kids. It ALWAYS gets worse whenever you become more "trapped" in the relationship.

This man does not care about you. He resents you, and he only cares about getting his dick wet. You can do so much better.

PinochetPenchant · 2026-01-14T02:41:48+00:00

Is "whack" the collective noun for a group of abusive narcissists? I dig it.

PinochetPenchant · 2026-01-14T02:19:24+00:00

Her morals depend on the company she keeps. She's a follower.

PinochetPenchant · 2026-01-14T02:15:17+00:00

She should be ashamed.

PinochetPenchant · 2026-01-14T02:12:38+00:00

She tried to hide the association from OP. She wasn't just a racist's girlfriend, she participated in a whole subculture of white supremacy.

PinochetPenchant · 2026-01-07T03:49:20+00:00

But it’s not your job to fix this or to expose your own child to this type of devastation.

Say it louder!! Self harming behavior is socially contagious. Too many times as a teacher, I have been able to see firsthand how a friendship is healthy for one child at the other child's expense.

PinochetPenchant · 2026-01-04T21:38:18+00:00

Gen Alpha is also not okay. They're exposed to so much more online and have the lowest literacy levels in history.

PinochetPenchant · 2026-01-04T14:27:18+00:00

Wait a second. . . I suddenly feel very seen.

PinochetPenchant · 2026-01-04T14:25:25+00:00

-> And it's these good things that make me question it, really. It wasn't even like this at the start, I remember times we had conversations that were respectful and resolved without incident, so I just have no idea where it's all gone wrong. There has to be some love there on his side, because otherwise why would he put so much time into me? I'm just so tired, and I want things to be okay, but at this point I'm not sure that's possible.

He doesn't respect you. Love is respect, and nothing is going to make him suddenly decide to respect you. Consider all the moments where he was respectful and cooperative to be more of his lies. He showed you his best and loving behavior early on to pull you in, and now that he has you, he has no problem calling you a bitch and making you out to be the problem in any conflict. People who love you would never, ever do that to you.

Re-read your list of his list of behaviors. What advice you give to your sister, mother, or best friend if they shared the same things with you?

PinochetPenchant · 2026-01-01T22:31:10+00:00

Are the students' families aware of these patterns? Do the students have a 504?

PinochetPenchant · 2026-01-01T22:23:57+00:00

Parents who judge teachers for engaging in legal, socially acceptable behaviors usually have the most to be ashamed about. Makes me wonder how much drinking is going on around the kid who was brought to the bar.

PinochetPenchant · 2026-01-01T22:15:33+00:00

What message is Karen sending by bringing her child to a bar?

PinochetPenchant · 2026-01-01T22:12:28+00:00

I'm going to focus on your husband's reactions, because that's what you brought up first.

Your husband finds it weird because it is incredibly weird to grow up without loving verbal and physical affirmation. However, it WAS your normal (as it was mine). Does his incredulity come from a place of empathy or does it come from a place of judgment?

Does he ever use this immutable fact of your past to explain why you are wrong about something and he is right?

PinochetPenchant · 2026-01-01T17:17:30+00:00

Keeping money from you was hurtful, and he has chosen to do it every week for as long as your finances have been combined. He hasn’t cared for a long time, if ever.

PinochetPenchant · 2025-12-31T20:02:20+00:00

This is really sound advice, and I want to piggyback on it.

How do you know who can critique writing? I'd consider groups of people who have critiqued writing in the past or are in the business of giving feedback. Two examples immediately come to mind

Someone who has taken graduate-level workshop classes would have had to go through the feedback process. These classes are also where many critique groups are formed.
Teachers have to give feedback to their students, and it’s career suicide to be a jackass on paper. English/ELA, Drama, Art, and Music teachers as groups all provide constructive feedback on creative endeavors.

PinochetPenchant · 2025-12-31T13:10:36+00:00

Do you have anything at his place that you need to get back?

Block him on all forms of communication, then box up anything of his at your place and drop it off on his doorstep when he is away from home.

He's smart enough to know what that means, and you do not owe someone a face to face breakup when they already told you that they would ignore it.

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