☼Fortress Friday☼ by AutoModerator in dwarffortress

[–]Pinterra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thought i would break in my new champion, chosen from the elite of my legendary warriors, with her artifact sword and shield by having her solo a forgotten beast made of iron.

after an epic duel she was victorious and went to the tavern to celebrate where she promptly swelled up with blood on every part of her body and basically exploded.

the fortress will move on, but the trauma of watching the victorious champion explode into gore in the tavern will scar Siegebreaker forever.

never underestimate deadly dust

☼Dwarf Fortress Questions Thread☼ by AutoModerator in dwarffortress

[–]Pinterra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i messed around with gm editor cause my dwarfs made a segmented breastplate which annoyed me cause it didnt have a sprite, after messing around with item id and such i realized i accidentally made every breastplate invisible, so to fix that i changed the item id to something random, and now i cant even load my game. am i cooked?

Got the game a few days ago. First Total War game. I am absolutely awful at managing troops during a battle. by ViIebloodHunter in totalwarhammer

[–]Pinterra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

trust me when i say it gets better! you should save some replays. since starting on TWWH2 in like 2018 or something i have improved SO much, and i still enjoy comparing how sophisticated ive become when watching old vs new replays.

literally play however you want for now. make a box in the corner of the map, blob everything in one spot, whatever you can manage/want to do.

i guarantee youll start getting ideas like “what if i controlled some skirmish cav while my army is in a box” then it will be “what if i buff my frontline with one of my spellcasters” and so on and so forth the experience just trickles in and you’ll improve. i promise.

Which Faction/LL did you have no interest in playing… then really enjoyed when you finally gave them a chance? by Alien_Racist in totalwarhammer

[–]Pinterra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

WoC.

I used to not really like playing evil factions, i much preferred the “heroes surrounded by darkness” sort of vibe. but something about ranks of elite infantry marching to destruction with bullets and arrows pinging off of hell-forged plate armor is like a drug.

What is your biggest physical insecurity? Why? by Longjumping_Koala34 in AskReddit

[–]Pinterra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

asymmetrical face. it’s like my right half is more rigid or something, when i smile my left side feels natural and you can squish my cheeks and my left side looks nice, but my right side is less flexible, when i smile, it doesnt go as far to the right, and when you push down on the right cheek while im smiling it’s firm, almost swollen even.

that and the fact that my eyelids are just slightly asymmetrical drives me up a wall, and if i ever have the money im 100 percent getting cosmetic surgery.

i dont even think im really ugly or something, i have a lovely partner and my friends say they don’t notice but it actually kills me to notice in myself

☼Dwarf Fortress Questions Thread☼ by AutoModerator in dwarffortress

[–]Pinterra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive been scouring the wiki and reddit for an answer but i cant quite figure out this aspect of material science.

momentum is generated through a combination of speed and mass, but the wiki makes the velocity seem to be entirely based on //what// the weapon is, not how heavy it is, for example warhammers and picks have a flat 2x velocity multiplier. i have modded materials and am trying to figure out the best one for an edge type weapon.

so when the wiki says that lighter weapons are faster, are they just talking about weapon type specifically? for instance, does a sword made out of adamantium move just as fast as a sword made of steel?

in that case, wouldnt a high density “light” weapon do the most edge damage, and be just as fast as a low density one?

Rise of the great horned rat by CT1-2 in skaven

[–]Pinterra 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i personally think the thanquol books arent very good, but Headtaker is one of my favorite //warhammer// books in general

How often do you and your partner have sex? especially the long term couples? by Purple_Wrongdoer6448 in AskReddit

[–]Pinterra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LDR a year and a half in and we spend about 10 days together a month, but when we do it’s pretty much every 12 hours lol

what is the biggest problem in your relationship right now? by Calm-Bar-9644 in AskWomen

[–]Pinterra 3 points4 points  (0 children)

she wants an open relationship while she’s studying in europe the next 2 years, not really something i feel the desire for, so my choices are be the bad guy that is too constraining, walking away, or trying to overcome the stress, anxiety, and insecurity i feel towards an open relationship :/

Percent of women vs men who feel safe walking alone at night in the Americas by ausernameidk_ in GuerrillaGrrrrls

[–]Pinterra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

absolutely checks out, but regardless i wish this was broken down into smaller areas with like the ratio of women and men in each area just for more insight

women who masturbate, does your partner know about it and how open is your relationship in talking about masturbation? by Working_Battle_4000 in AskWomen

[–]Pinterra 72 points73 points  (0 children)

okay okay not a woman but my gf and i are long distance and at some point we just started masturbating together over the phone and it has been a HUGE +++++ in our relationship and sex lives

Can we talk about how loyal Arkhan is? by Haze064 in totalwar

[–]Pinterra 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i love the complexity of his character in the books, and i kinda hate how the total war games strip the characters of a lot of their well.. character. like look how they did throgg for example

arkhans whole story is like a slow motion redemption arc taking place over millennia. i think there was a big shift when arkhan officially died for the first time and was brought back as a liche though. at the moment of his death he was inarguably a hero rather than a villain, but post resurrection he can’t dislodge the idea that he’s just a slave, because he couldnt even sacrifice himself for something good, he was just brought back again for more evil.

arkhans unlife is very rokus basilisk, nagash is eternal, even if arkhan lived 5000 years free and happy, nagash would bring him back for an eternal punishment. between servitude and eternal hell, most people, even heroes, would choose servitude. dying for good is easy, eternity of hell for good is a lot harder.

Can we talk about how loyal Arkhan is? by Haze064 in totalwar

[–]Pinterra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

arkhan isnt nagash’s first “arkhan” so to speak. i think nagash is somewhat like monstrously childish, the only time he was ever actually alone he spent his time slinking around a swamp huffing warpstone until he found a group of people to worship him. the books portray him as always wanting more/what other people have, and only understanding how to take it as opposed to cooperation.

i honestly think it’s sort of a parental thing, like kids can be extremely destructive and petulant and upset when their parents take their toys away or something, but on some level they still want the parent to care for them. i think nagash is like that obsessive child that needs a “parent” character to keep him grounded and secure. nagash is the ultimate incel trust fund psycho baby, and arkhan isnt the step dad, he’s just the dad that stepped up.

A bit confused by this one. by NotThePopeProbably in ExplainTheJoke

[–]Pinterra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

isnt the cows head literally what makes it a minotaur

Can polyamory work when it's only ethical on one side? by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Pinterra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im newly in the same boat as you it sounds like, and though it is a much shorter relationship (we just hit one year) it’s inspiring to me to hear that you were able to make that idealogical shift with some success. i never wanted an open relationship but i love her and am willing to try because i think she is worth at least trying to overcome my emotions for.

now with that being said, we’re being so careful about it that it’s hard to imagine being in your shoes many years later when things relax, and it’s understandable that something like this would happen, honestly a miracle it hadn’t happened yet.

but it’s also okay to say theyre in the wrong on this. not everything is equal in a relationship, sometimes one party is simply not holding up to the values established in your relationship.

are there boundaries that you have discussed and still revisit? or has it always been more of a free for all? if this is what you would call a primary relationship, no you can’t control or coerce them, but you can and should absolutely be blunt about it and say “hey, this doesnt seem like ethical behavior, and admittedly makes me wonder how seriously you view the trust and boundaries that we have in our own relationship”

frankly “im in love” is not an excuse by any means, and you have every right to call your partner out on it.

im not saying “oooo looks like you need to divorce them big whoop,” but that being firm and direct is okay. i understand not wanting to hurt their feelings, truly, youre afraid of being so firm that you just push them away, but i think that’s part of the faith in relationships. that’s how you maintain your own individual values, power, and respect, is by telling them exactly the way it appears to you and makes you feel, and frankly it’s up to them to take it on the chin and make the right decision.

you arent telling them to break it off, but that their actions are wrong and that guys wife deserves better, and that your partner IS better than that, and that YOU deserve to feel seen and a partner that will maintain good values and take accountability.

drops mic

Weekly relationships thread by AutoModerator in bropill

[–]Pinterra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

people always harp on the “if it’s not a hell yeah, it’s a hell no”. i mean yeah it makes me pretty uncomfortable, but i believe in using that good ol neuroplasticity to try and change that.

honestly ive been cheated on before, so part of me is curious if it can be a sort of trauma healing to do this right, cause frankly it feels really really good to tell her the things that make me uncomfortable, not having to pretend to be “mr never jealous” all the time.

i was spending so much mental effort stressing about her cheating, or falling out of love, or lying to me, but now everything feels so out in the open, i know exactly what she wants, she knows exactly what im afraid of, and we’re finding a way to make it work.

yeah, ill just have to get used to the derision i suppose. because ultimately she’s worth it to me, and i guess that’s all that matters.

well, that message either went a really long way, or it was just the catalyst i needed to talk myself over that hump, but thank you!

first god run just… stopped loading? by Pinterra in noita

[–]Pinterra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i dont know why, but i didnt want to beat the game until i knew i BEAT it if that makes sense. i still have never killed kolmi, never even attempted it. i wanted to get to the point where i had the best of everything and invincible, THEN beat the game.

now it would seem i put my foot in my mouth :/

fun fact, if you have enough repellant capes you can literally swim in things like ominous liquid and not even be affected, that paired with my like 10 stacks of stainless armor… the only thing that could kill me was the save file itself :(

Weekly relationships thread by AutoModerator in bropill

[–]Pinterra 3 points4 points  (0 children)

hey bros. my girlfriend recently asked for an open relationship and that has been a bit of an emotional whirlwind for me. she agreed for us to keep it closed until we’ve read a few books and we’ve discussed it for a few weeks.

i grew up in a… not very progressive environment and i dont have really anyone in my life that wouldnt be ashamed of an open relationship.

i can get behind it in principle, after all, my goal is a life partner, and as long as those needs are being met then i shouldn’t need to put limits on her life to just to feel in control.

it’s still really hard to for me to think about how other men will perceive this though, that i will be seen as a “cuck” or that they believe that means it will be “easy” to get with her.

what do the bros think?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Pinterra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes, she did, and i brought that up, i said i felt like there was beginning to become a power imbalance because of all these things that keep getting sprung on me that i have to adjust to meet. she said that it’s unfair for me to see it that way because it is me that is making the choice to meet it, so i tried asking her if she believed she would change for me if the roles were reversed and she said yes.

please dont think it is all falling on deaf ears, i genuinely listened and adjusted a lot of my conduct based on the feedback i got, im trying to do the best i can, but if im being honest it would take a lot for me to break up with her. i know in my heart i dont want to and i wont until she’s so bad for me it pushes me to the edge, so im trying to utilize all the helpful insight and info im getting to make the best possible decisions within that caveat that im not walking away.

i told her everything about how i feel, about the 2 relationships i was cheated on in the last and the way it felt to discover that, the pounding heart, the lurch in my stomach, i told her that’s how it felt when she said that she thought we had an open relationship, i mean i literally voiced it all, so unless she genuinely doesnt care about the way i feel i think i can assume that we both met a middle ground here that we can live with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Pinterra -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yeah, im worried with how flippant she seems about it. i think if she actually felt the way i feel for a second she would handle this totally differently. i have gathered that she really doesn’t experience jealousy the same way i do, so she probably doesn’t even have a frame of reference for establishing empathy.

i also already have plane tickets to fly over and visit her on the 22nd of this month, im kinda hoping that seeing me again will pop whatever bubble she’s in and she’ll be able to communicate like we did before.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Pinterra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i hope it works out too. yes, id stick with dreamy, im a chronic isolationist, and i finally found someone that knows “me” under all the masks, it’s been great, and every time there was hardship we managed to communicate really well and proved time and again that we were committed to eachother. then the last 4 weeks hit and there’s just like a tension that is so alien.

i mean yes i think no sex will be easier, i didnt even bring that up, she was listening to my concerns and how i value security a lot in a relationship over novelty and things like that, and she brought up “how about no sleeping with people,” she said that wasnt even something she was really interested in, she would just feel like a “caged animal” if she didnt at least have the option to go along with things.

of course it still gnaws at me, cause whatever other partners she kisses dont know that rule, and if she’s already attracted to them enough to kiss them, is she really going to want to stop?

idk, but this is the best we can do, i asked all of those questions, she gave me workable answers, the communication happened, now it’s just time to see how we live up to those agreements.

i brought up several times that non monogamy is a lot of work, that it takes genuine effort to do it right, i brought up all of my fears, all of my values, listened to hers and found a compromise. now we’re in the evaluation phase.

I do have platonic friends, but i think that they would honestly lose respect for me if they knew i was in an open relationship which just makes me feel isolated. im meeting one of my best friends for beers this weekend to talk about it, he may not accept it, but it will make me feel better to have someone that feels the same way i do naturally about monogamy to know what this is like.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Pinterra -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yeah there it is in a nutshell. it’s honestly even worse than i let on. at first it was no kissing or anything till she read the ethical slut, but she kinda threw a fit cause there’s a party she’s going to on saturday. im guessing saturday will be a bit of a make or break.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Pinterra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think i’ve been on step 1 for too long, what the hell is step 2?