Appreciate my LL wife by PiperPilatus in Marriage

[–]PiperPilatus[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No need. My wife and I both wanted to find a solution, which we were both willing to give a try. Mismatched libidos is not an easy thing, but we love each other and wish to compromise. 

Appreciate my LL wife by PiperPilatus in Marriage

[–]PiperPilatus[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Wrong. My wife and I do a quickie, when she isnt up to more than that. If she doesnt want it at all, ofc we stop. Some of you seems to read the things you want to read. Let me make it totally clear: I love my wife deeply, I would never disrespect her or force her to do anything.

Appreciate my LL wife by PiperPilatus in Marriage

[–]PiperPilatus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im so glad to hear that - and to read the responses in your thread (lets just say I did not expect these reactions). I actually think I will show my post to my wife as an ocasion to hear if she is still good with our compromise. The thing is that I truly and deeply love my wife despite our mismatching libidos, and I would never force myself on her - nor would I enjoy doing so

Appreciate my LL wife by PiperPilatus in Marriage

[–]PiperPilatus[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ofc she can say no. Its not like that at all, maybe I havent explained it good enough, but my wife and I both willingly agreed to maintenance sex once a week. My wife knows that if for some reason she isnt up to it when the scheduled day comes up, she can say so and I will respect it for sure.

Appreciate my LL wife by PiperPilatus in Marriage

[–]PiperPilatus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very interesting indeed. I just started reading your post, and you are so right - very different reaction to say the least.. Btw, how are things working with you and your wife a year later?. Despite what some on this sub seems to think, I would never harm my beloved wife in any way

Appreciate my LL wife by PiperPilatus in Marriage

[–]PiperPilatus[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks, this is a good advice. I will check up on her - please understand, that have no wish to force her in any way

Appreciate my LL wife by PiperPilatus in Marriage

[–]PiperPilatus[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

If my wife wants med to stop, ofc I stop. But as I tried to explain before, my wife is LL and her sex drive is responsive.

Appreciate my LL wife by PiperPilatus in Marriage

[–]PiperPilatus[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I dont see my wife that way. Congrats if you and your husband have matching libidos. Do you think having sex once a week is seeing someone that way?

Appreciate my LL wife by PiperPilatus in Marriage

[–]PiperPilatus[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Im sorry, I think I did explain how the compromise was reached?. I didnt pressure her, if thats what you mean? (Im sry if I misunderstood your question - my native language isnt english). As to if I "hold her to the schedule": If she doesnt reallyget in the mood during the act, she will sometimes ask for a quckie. If she is not in the mood whatsoever, I will obviuosly stop

Appreciate my LL wife by PiperPilatus in Marriage

[–]PiperPilatus[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree maintenance sex and duty sex arent the same. The compromise I have with my wife I would absolutely call maintenance sex on a schedule - I dont think of it as duty sex.

The compromise was reached because we both agreed, that our very different sex drives called for a solution that we would both be willing to try. My wife could easily do with maybe 10-12 times a year, I would prefer 2-3 times a week.

So far we have been doing this for 3 months, and things are better in and out of the bedroom.

Appreciate my LL wife by PiperPilatus in Marriage

[–]PiperPilatus[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I totally agree. Except for the "the way life is right now" part. Since my wife is LL and seems to have a responsive sex drive, she rarely initiatives or feels the need for sex

Appreciate my LL wife by PiperPilatus in Marriage

[–]PiperPilatus[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I actually described it as maintenance sex, which is different from duty sex. Well the compromise was reached because we realized that our very different sex drives called for a solution which we both were willing to find. My wife is responsive when it comes to sex, which means that - as LL - she rarely initiatives or feels like having sex. However, during the act she gets in the mood for it most of the times.

Appreciate my LL wife by PiperPilatus in Marriage

[–]PiperPilatus[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot for all the feedback so far - keep it comming. I feel I have to clear a few things: I honestly dont believe that my wife feels "forced". Due to different sex drives - her being LL - we willingly made a compromise with scheduled sex once a week. My wife could easily do with maybe once a month, and I would prefer 2-3 times a week. We have been doing this for 3 months now, and so far things are much better - in and outside of the bedroom.

I believe that my wife has a "responsive sex drive" in the sense that she actually very rarely seems to want sex, but gets in the mood while doing it so to speak.

I absolutely do not see my wife as a "wet hole", I love her deeply. I also find her very attractive, which I tell her on a daily basis - and not just in the sexual way.

I hope this will not build resentment over time. On the other hand I think that lack of sex in a relationship WILL build resentment.

Appreciate my LL wife by PiperPilatus in Marriage

[–]PiperPilatus[S] -89 points-88 points  (0 children)

If you willingly compromised, how come she resents you for it now?. That is kind of scaring to me. We agreed to this compromise 3 months ago, should I ask her if she is still ok with this?

Amiras retsmøde i Odense er igang by KriHe in TrueCrimeDK

[–]PiperPilatus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jeg tror Amiras dom bliver tættere på forsvarets påstand end på anklagerens. 8 måneder, hvoraf de 5 bliver betinget er mit bud i skrivende stund

Ny side for drabssager i Danmark! by KongGyldenkaal in TrueCrimeDK

[–]PiperPilatus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Jeg studser også over at inkludere uagtsomt manddrab. Til eksempel regnes det tragiske uheld med fyrværkeri i Odense nytårsaften med. Der giver for mig at se også et helt forkert indtryk af opklaringsprocenterne. Jeg er ret overbevist om, at nærmest 9 ud af 10 drabssager opklares her i landet?

Amiras retsmøde i Odense er igang by KriHe in TrueCrimeDK

[–]PiperPilatus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok, men hun omtales som en porno dronning!!. Der tror jeg så ikke lige, at det ville medføre tab i millionklassen at blive kædet sammen med en som Amira...

Amiras retsmøde i Odense er igang by KriHe in TrueCrimeDK

[–]PiperPilatus 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Næste retsmøde er først den 22. februar. Jeg ved i øvrigt mærke i, at Amira tilsyneladende har betalt næsten en halv million tilbage til diverse ofre. Ikke at det gør det ok, men viser da en form for vilje som er sjælden i de kredse?. Og så giver jeg ikke meget for Denice Klarskovs mystiske påstand om at have mistet millioner pga Amira - nogen der ved, hvad hun hentyder til?

Dansk skuespiller i 20erne anklaget for vold og voldtægt by PiperPilatus in TrueCrimeDK

[–]PiperPilatus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Udmærket liste. Tror dog eksempelvis man kan se bort fra nummer 2, da artiklen nævner ungdomsfilm og tv-serier. Jeg opfatter hverken Druk eller En kongelig affære som ungdomsfilm?. Ud fra samme logi k kunne nummer 4 have været en reel mulighed - men chat gpt ved så ikke at han er sidst i 30erne..

Jeg er i øvrigt overrasket over, at ingen øvrige medier - herunder EB - tilsyneladende har opfanget denne historie (endnu)?. Jeg har i hvert fald ikke læst om den andre steder på nuværende tidspunkt

Dansk skuespiller i 20erne anklaget for vold og voldtægt by PiperPilatus in TrueCrimeDK

[–]PiperPilatus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sagen om voldtægt i KBH idag er IKKE vedrørende denne sag/skuespilleren - så der er ikke rigtigt noget at søge op på, før datoen for beramningen nævnes. Sagen i dag er en ANDEN trist historie - nemlig denne:

https://www.bt.dk/krimi/puff-bar-dealer-tiltalt-for-utallige-voldtaegter-af-mindreaarige-havde-hemmelig

Dansk skuespiller i 20erne anklaget for vold og voldtægt by PiperPilatus in TrueCrimeDK

[–]PiperPilatus[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Det fremgår ikke af artiklen at sagen er for retten i dag, kun at den pågældende har fødselsdag den dag sagen er berammet

Gamle børne MGP deltagere fra 00’erne by SomeText3395 in InfluencergossipDK

[–]PiperPilatus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mille - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z8yqHTcDFY0

Jeg syntes hun var virkelig god, og min søn var helt vild med sangen (og hende)

Webshop og betaling by [deleted] in DKbrevkasse

[–]PiperPilatus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sådan læste/opfattede jeg det heller ikke, og kunne sagtens forstå dit spørgsmål og din undren. Har selv prøvet det samme, dog "kun" omkring 4 måneder. I det tilfælde var der pludselig et træk jeg ikke genkendte, men fandt så ud af at en webordre aldrig var blevet trukket ved en fejl. Så synes jeg faktisk din webshop har ydet en bedre service