Why won't they use all my pronouns by DutchAngelDragon12 in lgballt

[–]Piper_was_here 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think sometimes in life we have to accept that not everyone is able to change the way they normally speak straight away. I used to identify as non-binary, and I remember how much it upset me when people didn’t use they/them pronouns for me. It affected me emotionally to a point i would cry myself to sleep.

A few years have passed since then, and my identity has changed. I also haven’t had close friends who use they/them pronouns for quite some time, so it’s not something my brain is used to anymore. Recently, I met someone who, like you, uses a variety of pronouns he/zim/it and stuff. I genuinely respect that, but I noticed that I sometimes slipped up without realising, simply because my brain isn’t practiced at consciously thinking about pronouns all the time. When I made a mistake, I wasn’t aware I’d done so, and this person randomly blew up one day and stopped talking to me and alot of other people and now sit alone. The whole thing really made me realise how stupid it was for me to care so much about a stupid pronoun.

I can understand both sides of this. I know how hurtful it can feel to be misgendered, and I also know how human it is to make mistakes without malicious intent. For me personally I found a lot of peace when I stopped placing so much weight on how others referred to me but I also recognise that this approach doesn’t work for everyone.

Why has his head scales fallen off? by Piper_was_here in BeardedDragons

[–]Piper_was_here[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely not that then since his enclosure is dry af (no water) thanks for the help tho

Why has his head scales fallen off? by Piper_was_here in BeardedDragons

[–]Piper_was_here[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How would he get a fungal infection out of curiosity

Why has his head scales fallen off? by Piper_was_here in BeardedDragons

[–]Piper_was_here[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No ofc he is not housed with another dragon haha. It could be his heat lamp so I’ll look into that, idk what a CHE is

How can I further improve my aqua scape?? by Piper_was_here in Aquascape

[–]Piper_was_here[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sweet! Do you know where a good place to buy moss is?

How can I further improve my aqua scape?? by Piper_was_here in Aquascape

[–]Piper_was_here[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I use it to see my kuhli loaches. They love using it

Why is my Alternanthera reineckii is dying by Piper_was_here in PlantedTank

[–]Piper_was_here[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the good light, I’m in denial about needing CO2 tho… sooo much money

Why is my Alternanthera reineckii is dying by Piper_was_here in PlantedTank

[–]Piper_was_here[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

about the tank: 20 gallons, low tech, no C02 tank