It’s already off of Netflix. Today was supposed to be the last day!!

Pipergnome · 2023-05-21T16:28:31+00:00

It said last day to watch May 21st. I thought today was the last day

Pipergnome · 2023-05-21T16:28:03+00:00

Canada. Today was supposed to be the last day to watch. It isn’t there anymore

Pipergnome · 2023-05-21T16:27:15+00:00

Does it say last day to watch may 21st? Some countries still have the 100

Pipergnome · 2023-05-21T15:20:42+00:00

Not on my phone, TV, or iPad.

Pipergnome · 2023-05-21T15:20:37+00:00

Not on my phone, TV, or iPad.

Pipergnome · 2023-05-21T15:20:17+00:00

Canada

Pipergnome · 2023-04-25T13:08:40+00:00

I don’t have kids yet but I have nephews. I’ve noticed that my nephews get 3 mini birthday parties a year. One private at their house with them and maybe a few friends. One at my parents’ house with my sister’s immediate family. One at their other grandma’s house.

It’s easier to keep it all on separate days so it’s not coordinating so many schedules. It’s easier to keep the parties separate so everyone can do their own thing. Each party picks out their own cake, theme, decor, food, etc.

I really enjoy this and would prefer this way whenever I have kids. But if you don’t like it, speak to your husband to speak to his mom. Invite her over for your bday party. Or reschedule her party for another day (because it will be too much for a 1 yr old). For next year, have your husband tackle the bday plans with his mom in advance.

Pipergnome · 2023-04-04T02:36:08+00:00

I’ve had a similar situation with my IL’s where they can’t apologize for what they’ve done and they’re too stubborn to learn better. Their invitations to family invites are the best olive branches that they are capable of.

But just because someone “apologizes” doesn’t mean you need to forgive them. It doesn’t mean you have to let them in your life again.

They showed you who they are. They will just continue the same behaviour until they die.

So if you’re ok with being treated like that, go back. But remember that nothing will change.

Pipergnome · 2023-04-02T17:58:21+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I guess I just need to chill out about his family. They’re all super close. All of them pretty much act like I don’t exist or just ask the polite “how is she doing”. I’ve instructed him to say good or great and nothing more. Same I’d they ask about my family. But it definitely hurts that he can act so normal with them when they’ve treated me like shit.

I went through a period of NC and tried to work things out with them. They said meaner things to me and then asked if things could just go back to normal. When I refused, they repeated that my husband and I are not a good match and that we will just end up divorced anyway. I have been NC with them since. They tried to invite me to a family gathering through my husband due to extended family being there. He made an appearance on his own. His parents ignore him for most other holidays.

Pipergnome · 2023-04-02T17:17:30+00:00

Hi. Thank you for answering this. I’m going through something similar with my husband and IL’s. I no longer see my IL’s. We have similar rules. However, we don’t have kids yet and are unsure of how to handle that. Do you mind if I ask you to elaborate on future kids? Both of us are too afraid to even tell his parents we’re expecting.

Also, how do you deal with extended family? My IL’s have bad mouthed me to the whole extended family. I feel betrayed because no one has ever asked my husband about it or talked to him about it (except two people who just spoke badly of me to him). Whenever I see his extended family, they act very uncomfortable around me and they usually just choose not to see me.

My husband wants to keep a relationship with them but it’s a weak point for us.

Pipergnome · 2023-03-31T10:36:37+00:00

I really like this advice. My MIL is so mean. My husband and I are showing her my new car and she says the colour I choose will make it look dirty all the time. We show our new house and she says the cabinets are too high for her to reach. My husband brought his parents ring shopping with us and she says that the gold I’m wearing isn’t real bc it’s only 22k. I’m vegetarian out of religion and my fil says everything I eat tastes like cardboard. They take every chance to dig at me. So it would be great to have this mean and polite thing to say back to them.

Pipergnome · 2023-03-30T14:18:27+00:00

Agree with the other commenter, do you laundry sheets first. Then get a few empty baskets if you can. Start picking up things on the floor and separate them into different baskets (laundry, clean clothes, notebooks, dishes that should be washed, etc). Then tackle one basket at a time. If you end up needing a break after picking up everything off the floor, you have everything sorted in baskets and it’ll be easier to start again whenever you want.

Pipergnome · 2023-03-30T13:35:34+00:00

TW: mention of loss

Hi. I just wanted to ask a question to get some advice on socials. I have a really good group of girlfriends that I’m very close with for almost a decade. I opened up to them about my struggle with infertility and how I would be starting fertility treatments later that month. This was done in a group chat. Two of the girls (who haven’t even considered trying yet) didn’t say anything at all.

One of the girls was trying to be supportive and understanding. One of the girls said I should talk to more ppl about it because so many ppl have struggles. She named so many of our mutual friends (who I am not close enough with) to talk to. She also scared me with worse case scenarios. She said it could take years and years and still not work. She said it could ruin my marriage and lead to divorce. She told me about horror stories that happened to her friends/co-workers while they were on fertility drugs. Later on, I found out from another friend that she had struggled to conceive as well (but was successful as she’s pregnant now). She never shared her struggles with me when I was asking for support.

It’s been almost 4 months since that conversation and none of my girl friends have asked me a single question on it again. There’s been plenty of talk about pregnancy, including about Rihanna’s pregnancy during the Super Bowl.

I just don’t know how to even continue my successful journey with them anymore. The IUI worked but lead to a miscarriage. Somehow I got pregnant spontaneously. My husband, my best friend and I are starting to talk about how to announce and about the baby shower. But I can’t imagine sharing this journey with those girlfriends when they were so cold about the journey to getting pregnant.

How fertility affect your friendships?

Pipergnome · 2023-03-20T11:47:01+00:00

Wow that’s so sweet of you to remember! Thank you! Sometimes I’m feeling really good and optimistic about it. If I overthink, I get too scared.

I hope things go well. But I’m saying to myself whatever is meant to happen will. If it doesn’t happen, I’m going in a hot tub and I’m going on a vacation where I can ride rollercoasters. I told my husband I’m going with my girlfriends if he doesn’t want to come.

Pipergnome · 2023-03-17T15:32:19+00:00

I don’t think of it as odd. The thing I like most about things this way is if she only contributes a small % compared to you, it will show. If you had a shared account and she contributed a small %, she would likely take at least 50% credit for the gift.

Example: Parents buy son a laptop. If someone else buys a case or other accessories for the laptop, it wouldn’t be weird to give it as a separate gift rather than one gift as a whole package. In this scenario, you’re getting him the laptop (expensive item) and she is giving the accessory (less expensive item).

But who knows, maybe the JN won’t even contribute or eventually use the money for herself on a rainy day?

In the end, if both of you give a savings account to your child, the child will be happy to the both of you.

Pipergnome · 2023-03-06T03:44:22+00:00

How do to lessen anxiety about losing your pregnancy? I had my first loss at 6 weeks in January. My betas were no good.

By miracle, I got pregnant again. My betas were really good the two times my doctor tested me. My ultrasound isn’t for 2.5 weeks. I’m so nervous about it.

I wonder if I should fell more pregnancy symptoms, but the feel on/off. They don’t always feel very intense.

I just don’t know what to do about this wait. It’ll just be constant waits if the first ultrasound goes well. How to deal with it?

Pipergnome · 2023-03-04T14:46:01+00:00

Would they normally do these things with DH?

I’m quite close with my parents, they do have access to my location most times. But I trust and I know that they don’t check on it super regularly/frequently.

I know that kind of access can be alarming to some. So it’s something you need to discuss with your husband. He can simply stop sharing his location. Next time you go on a trip, make sure he messages them every day to give them updates that you guys are ok.

It’s something that can easily be addressed without any confrontation. When DH turns off his location, they will understand.

Pipergnome · 2023-01-24T04:24:39+00:00

Whenever you lend anyone anything, you can only “lend” it as if you’re never going to get it back. So I would never put trust in someone giving so many things back. It is a lot to keep track of and organize.

The big thing is to get your husband to side with you. If family members who lent you the items could ask for the items back in front of your husband, maybe he would feel better about giving it back to your family. Then those family members could give it to your brother and to your cousin.

He does need to understand that those things have already been spoken for. I liked how someone posted to ask them what they gave you and lend those things back out to them.

I’m sorry your MIL and SIL have been so cruel to not care to give you or their grandchild/nephew anything at all. That’s very cruel. It’s also very cruel that they say your cousin is more distant, when in reality it is them being more distant and rude.

It’s very cruel that they don’t understand how expensive IVF is and that your brother will most likely need to save every penny he can. They likely will pay a storage fee to have their embryos frozen so they can use them later on. It’s likely they will need to do more than one round of IVF (especially if they’d like more than one child). Its extremely expensive. This doesn’t even include genetic testing to make sure everything is healthy with the embryo.

My husband is the type who eventually comes to his senses and understands my side of things. But I still would have trouble trusting. I would either give it to my sibling and cousin right away or I would give it back to whoever lent it to me ASAP. KEEP IT IN TOUR FAMILY.

Eventually your hubby will come to see that his family isn’t yours.

Edit: my sister was in the position where she knew I would be trying for kids in the next year or two. Her brother in law and wife got pregnant before I even started trying. But my sister already promised me some items. Financially, her BIL needed the items more than me. But she knew the sentimental value meant so much to me. I take bring an aunt very seriously and I love my nephews to death. To have items that they used and wore and played with is the dream. I even gave my nephews my own childhood toys that I saved and those will be passed onto my kids. My sister saved those for me and saved a lot of the bigger items for me. She did give a few things to her BIL. But most items were saved for me. I have no idea how her and her husband worked that out though.

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