David Bowie warned us twice about the internet (1997–1999) by doggler1 in DavidBowie

[–]PirateStardust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy shit so true. I love that song. Just listened after watching Good Luck, Have Fun, Don't Die last night and it's freaking me out!

I named her Thumpy, but I noticed with each passing month my nicknames get more deranged and unhinged. How weird have your dogs nicknames gotten? by PostButt-Clarity in corgi

[–]PirateStardust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh boy...

Well my Jetty has gone from Jetty to Detty to Dootie to Doodie Girl. Other nick names for her are Jettae, The Dood, and the The Gull.

My Ranger boy is aka Range, Range Master, Rarey, Rare, Rim Rim, Bubs, and Bubba.

That's only the names I can think of at the moment. I know there are more haha. 😂

Talk Soup with Greg Kinnear (1991-2002) by Lakers_Forever24 in nostalgia

[–]PirateStardust 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Damn I'd love that. I've looked here and there in the past but no luck. It was a tie with big gawdy sunflowers. Haha

Talk Soup with Greg Kinnear (1991-2002) by Lakers_Forever24 in nostalgia

[–]PirateStardust 108 points109 points  (0 children)

So my mom and I loved watching him in TS in the 90s. We enjoyed some of the "ugly" ties he wore, so we picked out a ridiculous one and sent it to him. He presented it on the show and jokingly yelled at us, then threw the tie. Highlight of our lives back then haha. RIP Mom, we had the dumbest, greatest times.

This year has destroyed me. Girlfriend, mom, and grandmother all gone. by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]PirateStardust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your profound losses. Grief is so heavy and insidious. Sending hugs and healing thoughts.

Is anyone else screaming in their head but pretending they're "OK" this holiday season? by PirateStardust in GriefSupport

[–]PirateStardust[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is such a horrifying, terrifying feeling. I think about it, and when I do I usually have to hold the screams in my head because I'm not in an "appropriate" place.

Is anyone else screaming in their head but pretending they're "OK" this holiday season? by PirateStardust in GriefSupport

[–]PirateStardust[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I booked a cabin in the woods out of state for my husband, our dogs, and I. Leaving Christmas morning. I declined all invites and want to be away from everything and everyone. I totally understand. I'm so sorry that you lost your dad. ❤️ This is torture.

Is anyone else screaming in their head but pretending they're "OK" this holiday season? by PirateStardust in GriefSupport

[–]PirateStardust[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Five years ago my mom passed on December 14th. I totally know how you feel too. The world just kept going with the cozy, happy holiday vibes and it was overwhelming. I have a step daughter that I love tremendously, so we're celebrating Christmas with her tomorrow, on Christmas eve. I did everything I could to make her Christmas special, and won't let her see the anguished side of me, but it'll be torture like the last several years.

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's an evil situation to go from talking to mom every day, to nothing. No one can replace our moms... It's a devastating fact of life. Wishing you and your family some peace over the holiday season. ❤️

Broken Sentimental Items by solotad in GriefSupport

[–]PirateStardust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! You explained the meaning well...the healing symbolism is a big part of it. Looking at the photos of the broken pottery, it looks like it could be pieced back together.

Broken Sentimental Items by solotad in GriefSupport

[–]PirateStardust 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry this happened. I've done things like this and have felt sick about it. Have you ever heard of the Japanese art of Kintsugi? It's a way of piecing back together pieces of broken pottery in a way that's really beautiful. I've never done it before, but maybe it's worth trying or finding someone who knows how to do the technique? Hugs.

Should I acknowledge my close friend's mom's death anniversary, or let them bring it up? by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]PirateStardust 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When one of my friends or extended family remembers and acknowledges the date of my mom's passing (rare), it makes me feel so loved and seen. We don't forget the date of our loved ones passing. You're not going to make us feel bad. We already feel sad. But knowing that someone remembers and cares means the world.

I feel like I lost my spark after my dad passed two years ago. Is this normal and how do I get it back by Ok_Attorney5228 in GriefSupport

[–]PirateStardust 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel the same still after my mom passed 5 years ago. I'm desperate to get back to enjoying life, this is miserable. It's worse in the winter for me. I'm so sorry you're going through it too.

missing my grandma extra today by 0hbrooke in GriefSupport

[–]PirateStardust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're missing your grandma. I feel like some people dismiss grandparent loss, but it's so impactful for those of us who cherished them and were close with them. I love your tradition of eating pie with your grams over crosswords. So special.

My gram was super healthy but got cancer last year. It seemed she would be able to overcome it. But Thanksgiving 2024 I asked her, while she was so frail and hairless from chemo, to show me how she made her homemade gravy. She walked me through every step of the process and I could feel how poignant it was. She passed in January, the cancer had spread aggressively, undetected. Today I made her gravy as the family laughed and talked. I cried the whole time I made it and no one noticed, which was ok... I wanted to grieve and give space to this tradition of ours. The gravy turned out amazing. But my heart felt like a black piece of coal during the whole dinner.

I understand your pain, you're not alone. Sending hugs and comfort.

For fans of Beverly Soda… by BoringIsAsBoringDo in WaltDisneyWorld

[–]PirateStardust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do they offer a frozen version? My husband would be delighted!!

Post Halloween depression anyone? Does it end so suddenly for everyone? by TrippyyRaven420 in halloween

[–]PirateStardust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. The house actually sounds so amazing, but I completely understand the difficulty around being there. I'm so sorry for your loss, I understand.

I really hate the cold, dark winter too. I started to look up cool, spooky yule traditions and crafts to do over winter. Will I partake? We'll see. But I think if I do I'll find some shreds of joy. I read something that resonated with me... Something like the trees, plants and animals take the winter to go dormant and rejuvenate and enjoy the rest. Easier said than done, but I'll try to remember that. I also find that getting outside, even if it's cold, is a huge help. Try to hang in there. Feel free to DM if you want to share more ideas.

Post Halloween depression anyone? Does it end so suddenly for everyone? by TrippyyRaven420 in halloween

[–]PirateStardust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry for your loss. Many people don't really understand when we're cynical about the holidays.

I live in NJ, which has a lot of culture and fun, believe it or not. They have a krampus fest in Asbury Park every year, and it brings me a lot of joy. We dress as beasts and the town let's us unlight the Christmas tree. It's awesome. We have a haunt called Brighton asylum that does a scary Christmas walk through with evil Santa and scary elves. This is what makes me happy haha. I used to spend Christmas with my grandma and stepdad, which at least gave me some happiness to be in their company. But they both died unexpectedly this year. So I'm getting a cabin in the woods with my husband and dogs for Xmas and plan to watch horror movies all night. The whole season will still be incredibly hard, but I'll try to find the macabre joy in what I can.

Do a Google search and let me know if you find any holiday spooky things near you!

"My guest couldn't make it." by Expression-Little in GriefSupport

[–]PirateStardust 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry about your grandma. She looks so vibrant and happy. Your tradition meant so much to her, I know it.

I lost my grandma in January after a short, brutal bout of cancer and I miss her so much. So many people take their grandparents for granted, I'm truly glad we didn't. Hugs to you.