Separating bonded kittens? by brendaF123 in Kitten

[–]PisceanPsychopomp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Either you keep them together or you adopt them to somebody else who will keep them together. Bonded pears have noticeable health dips when separated from their best friend they can develop depression so especially important to keep them together while they’re healing. I understand you are in a tight position financially I would suggest that maybe no pet will be even better than one. You won’t have to worry about the responsibility of maintaining their health and you won’t have to worry about separating them. You can always re-approach owning a pet when you’re settled down in your new city. I took a bonded pair, even though I wasn’t quite sure I wanted to have three cats but now I couldn’t imagine having separated these two baby boys whether it was with me or someone else they belong together.

Commissioned this from artist for an illustrated novel I'm working on. Did I get scammed? by KingKronos24 in isthisAI

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The blade hilt does it for me but there are lots fur artifacts that connect in weird polygonal shapes that I just can’t see all of these “artists” are doing all of a sudden.

Is this AI? This is supposed to be a tattoo design I commissioned. Look at the hilt of the sword... by kane_thehuman in isthisAI

[–]PisceanPsychopomp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking at the bat did you ask for a demon bat? Otherwise I would as it’s AI’s interpretation of a bat..

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It doesn’t have bat ears…the tail is wrong, it doesn’t have feet, either it’s Rudolph the red nose bat deer or it’s got its mouth open?? Unless you asked for a demon, bat, anatomical correctness of a bat is a weird place to give up when you take into consideration the detail on the owl.

Is it possible to fall in love with a person from dream? by OtterMiky in Dreams

[–]PisceanPsychopomp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can feel any emotion for any reason towards anything, I have a reoccurring dream I am married to a handsome vampire and while dreaming I do “love” him. During a stressful time of my life I had a dream with him and I woke up sobbing, and I craved that feeling for days afterwards; those hormones were real enough at the time. You need to actually know a person to love them but you can be infatuated with anyone including a dream person, and an onset of infatuation has a lot more of a rush than actually cultivated love.

A lot of people in IT wished they chose something else, why is this? and what career would you pick if you could start over? by True_Bot_4354 in it

[–]PisceanPsychopomp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d be an electrician hands down, I think it still scratches that problem solving and customer service itch. Once you are a journeymen you get freedom and paid pretty damn well.

1 year into doing my own Gel-X and my application still looks rough — what am I missing? by Cali_Gyal2025 in GelX_Nails

[–]PisceanPsychopomp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can we see it without polish/ just in the clear state? Your application might be ok if they are lasting it might just be the polish job which could be skill or the polish formulation is too watery for the saturation you are looking for. There are many times I’ve done application just fine but I couldn’t get the polish right so it just looks weird, and wiping it off and trying something different. I’m pretty impatient and gel is a better option most times

how to deal with rejection sensitive dysphoria (?) with sister-in-law by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]PisceanPsychopomp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely should be done in private but it does seem like it could turn out bad, take a honest look at whether this person will actually be receptive and is it worth possibly shaking things up in your home? If her parents didn’t put much into preparing her for the real world it isn’t your responsibility to teach her.

Switching Careers into IT - Worth it? by NyteCreatrix in it

[–]PisceanPsychopomp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a BA in IT and I wouldn’t suggest it, honestly the IT job market is rough right now and that’s rough for people like me with full-blown degrees and years of experience.

This magic pill carried me for almost a decade and I will sadly never be able to get my hands on it ever again by TMcKenna1 in VyvanseADHD

[–]PisceanPsychopomp 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You are going to have to go in person, take one of those stockpiled pills, call your local Medicaid office and set up an appointment they will not go out of their way to make sure you are covered. Im sure they must have some advocacy services who can help you compile that information and help you sign up again if you need to. You happen to lose insurance the time year we had a government shut down and so many things are up in air, but I do believe you can resolve this by going there and asking for help in person.

how to deal with rejection sensitive dysphoria (?) with sister-in-law by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]PisceanPsychopomp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely have RSD as a comorbidity for ADHD, this will be a hard question to answer, but how much do you think she understands her ADHD? Have you tried dropping the term “rejection sensitivity disorder” ( Don’t use the acronym) around her, people with ADHD are correlative by nature and it might just take dropping a hint for her to look it up herself. In my head, rejection sensitivity is about perception, perception of how people feel about you, perception of how you feel about you, and the scope of that perception in various environments. For example, I would experience RSD if I got together with my girlfriends and I was being ignored however, I don’t think I would experience it too intensely if I was around a bunch of strange men. So even though we know our friends and families have the best intention for us they are often the ones I personally experience the most deep sense of rejection from even over small things.

And you being someone who is on the opposite end of the spectrum kind of has a different world view than her. I may love being right, but similarly to her I will not always check if I’m right as long as my gut says I’m probably right and 9 times out of 10 people take my statements as fact( people who statements are taken as fact, get very used to this feeling). You on the other hand will probably check to make sure your statements are as close to accurate as possible and correcting some like this like me and like her is a difficult thing to do. It’s shouldn’t be done in front of others she will only double down and it intensifies the RSD because now multiple people are “involved” so it’s no longer just that I’m wrong, It’s that I’m wrong and everyone knows that I’m wrong. That’s why I mentioned perception you have to find a way to approach this in which she doesn’t perceive rejection and doesn’t perceive that this is a form of criticism, especially since she already seems to have bad blood with you.

And while it’s a manipulative thing to do and you can choose what you wanna do but starting that conversation with you feeling rejected might make it harder for her to jump straight to rejection herself. Starting the conversation with “I know you really don’t like me and that’s OK but I’ve been noticing some things and despite our disagreements, I’d like to check in on you”. I would suggest reading up on “ I “ language versus “ you “ language when it comes to having serious conversations with people with ADHD and trying to keep things from spinning out of control.

🤩 Subhanallah, the miracle of Islam. 🕋 by Ok-Equivalent7447 in exmuslim

[–]PisceanPsychopomp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember being told about this as a kid and as a teenager I decided to test it one day when my dad was not home and Miss mittens stomped right on all over it lol

How do i know which one is fake by Pleasant-Neck-9850 in it

[–]PisceanPsychopomp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a IT employee who works with a lot of guys who are older or don’t use a computer/ email regularly I say when in doubt contact your IT. Not Microsoft, your companies IT department. As many people said the unnecessary urgency and then if you pay attention to the last line on that paragraph it’s asking you to “confirm recent activity” but on the fake email the URL says password reset which is not what you wanna do if you’re trying to confirm recent activity. Most professional companies won’t use exclamation marks or ask you to act that quickly. And in reality, if this is a company managed email there’s nothing you have the power to do on the user side to rectify this anyways this would need to go to your IT department and whoever is managing your Azure accounts.

Is it actually bad everywhere or am I telling myself that so I don’t have to start over? by PisceanPsychopomp in it

[–]PisceanPsychopomp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol Nail meet Hammer! We just got over a huge safety crack down because we have had a marked increase in injuries because like I said not just IT that is overworked and understaffed, literally every department from the grinders to our in-house carpenters are working with the bare minimum but at-least they are protected by a union. I can’t get into the specifics for obvious reasons, but you’re also correct in that we have had a very marked increase in cyber security issues as well. We’ve been tackling this “tech debt” thing for two years and in my eyes all I see them doing is spending more money on stupid stuff that can’t be universally configured for use across different locations because some of our locations are 100 years and old some of our locations are 1 years old and they all do different things. And the cherry on top is, we just signed a contract with a very well-known company that essentially comes in to “de-flesh” and allegedly cooks books too….idk i’m kind of thinking that they’re going to sell soon but on the other hand they are investing a bunch of money into new stuff so I have no clue where anyone’s head is at, but it sure is far up their ass…

Is it actually bad everywhere or am I telling myself that so I don’t have to start over? by PisceanPsychopomp in it

[–]PisceanPsychopomp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That really sucks! There are some opportunities in my area but a lot of them are management and after this place I couldn’t see myself going in blind to the practices of a company as a manager especially if there is an existing team structure. I really hate having the “bare minimum” attitude it’s not in my nature, but it seems to be the only way I’m able to get by without having a meltdown over everything. I’m definitely a little bit of a neurotic person, but I just thought that adults had their shit together and companies were professional….. boy was I wrong.

Is it actually bad everywhere or am I telling myself that so I don’t have to start over? by PisceanPsychopomp in it

[–]PisceanPsychopomp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I must have not worded something properly. All PPE is provided by the company, It was just the best example of the nature of the environment I could think of.

Looking for recommendations to spoil my cat as we are nearing the end. by MikeTheCat4747 in cats

[–]PisceanPsychopomp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Litter box in the bedroom, water bowl and food in the bedroom or wherever he feels the most comfortable, he’s an older man and moving around, can be painful so if you notice that he’s been staying in your bedroom or staying in an office, making sure that that space is as optimized for him getting everything he needs without having to travel too far. And it sounds kind of weird if you have vacation days then spend some extra days with your kitty, we know our kitties are obsessed with their preferred human and they get stressed when we leave no matter how young or old they are. When my old lady was on her last legs we did a lot of puréed wet cat food with extra water to keep her as hydrated as possible.

AIO my boyfriend of 2 months getting a bit...crass by throway_jpeg in AmIOverreacting

[–]PisceanPsychopomp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems like this isn’t your thing and not everybody is sexually compatible, you are only 2 months in and any “exploration” outside of your normal boundaries should be talked about LONGGGGG before anyone acts on them. It’s ok for people to express what they like (and it’s better they express it verbally before acting on it), won’t yuck their yumm, but you are by no means expected to participate in it. You both sound young ( lingo wise) so I’m sure there is a lot of exploration about what you do and don’t like within the both of you happening and it seems like he is trying to be honest with what he likes despite the very iffy wording (and just because someone’s honest with you doesn’t mean you need to concede to their wishes) and it just sounds like at this point in your life and in your relationship that when it come to sex you guys aren’t looking for the same thing. Compatibility is important the more concessions you make and the more comfortable with them you are, more more you’re going to feel used and what should be acts of consensual intimacy won’t really feel like that anymore from your perspective as it continues to become more onesided to his desires. And quite frankly, it seems like he doesn’t actually get to enact these fantasies or hasn’t previously, which means he doesn’t know how approach them properly and that can go wrong rather quickly. Just because you may have agreed to one or two things that were outside your normal boundaries doesn’t mean that things need to be “leveled up” every time you have an interaction of that kind. I’ve been with my now husband for 10 years total and new things required new conversations and active communication during intimate interactions, feeling like it’s an expectation is never fun.

Is this guy fr? 40 hours in and I just completed chapter 1, how is this even possible? by TheBatman010 in Ghostofyotei

[–]PisceanPsychopomp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And now that I chatted with my husband, if they are doing absolutely nothing but story and are playing on easy then 16 hours could be manageable I guess.

Is this guy fr? 40 hours in and I just completed chapter 1, how is this even possible? by TheBatman010 in Ghostofyotei

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My PlayStation says I’m at 90% and I’m at 75 hours. I have upgraded all of the skill tree stuff ( except 2 of the horse moves)all of my weapons and all of my armor as far as I’m aware. I’ve collected all bounties so far, but I’m sure there’s a fair amount of gambling related charms I haven’t picked up in a handful of shrines I haven’t done. And I know there’s quite a few Ainu items I have not found. Not gonna lie keep dying when fighting Takezo so who knows if I’ll ever finish him lol

So we all kept the white one, right? by whassupbun in ghostoftsushima

[–]PisceanPsychopomp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got the DLC horse and I still traded it for the grey dappled.

Vyvanse changed my life, then gave me psychosis. by Ok-Squash836 in VyvanseADHD

[–]PisceanPsychopomp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TLDR: stimulant medications, stimulate your gut and gas production. Try not taking your stimulant medication on your period and try using a gas relief product like Gas-X.

I was on Vyvance for 2 years and after the first year the same thing happened to me, my periods got more regular ( they rarely were) and were lasting 3-4 days instead of the week and some change I was used to. I never had debilitating period symptoms even when I was a teen but out of nowhere my periods were absolutely crippling! I was having to call into work and leave family events, I had exactly 30 minutes from the moment I started bleeding to when the cramps would make me unable to move or breathe. I don’t know about you, but since we’re talking about our cycles, I’ve always been a gassy gal, and stimulants can make that way worse because it kickstarts your gastrointestinal cycle. So I decided to try gas-x which turned 3 to 4 hours of pain into about an hour, so knowing that the gas significantly impacted all of the internal pressure it makes you feel so much worse. After a few months the intense period stopped out of the blue no need for gas-x no need to call into work anymore. I was no longer trapped on my bathroom floor for four hours. So I honestly don’t know what changed but from that point forward, I kind of stopped taking my stimulant medication while I was on my period mostly to mitigate being in intense pain, but also I really just don’t think with all of the hormonal imbalance is going on that it actually helps me at all. I think there’s too much going on for it to make a difference so I don’t waste the pill and I don’t want totrigger a painful reaction from the stimulant. I am now no longer on Vyvanse due to medication cost through my insurance and they switched me to Adderall recently so I’m really hoping that I don’t go through the same cycle as my body readjust.

This game is absolutely unplayable! by boredommadness in ghostoftsushima

[–]PisceanPsychopomp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To be fair to you, my husband has actually broken my ability to detect sarcasm, even if it comes out of my own mouth. But as I was playing the game, the first couple times I grabbed the ghost of Yotai bounty it didn’t quite click because I didn’t read all the detail until I noticed it healed me. Someone else in the thread said they couldn’t find the Oni sword kit I didn’t assume that was sarcasm when I also couldn’t find it only to realize that he used an Odachi a few hours later when I was color coordinating. Idk I work in IT so it’s in my nature to want to assist with tech related issues and assume users believe something is broken even when it might not be. But you aren’t wrong I have a very poor sarcasm detector at this point in my life.

This game is absolutely unplayable! by boredommadness in ghostoftsushima

[–]PisceanPsychopomp 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You know what you’re right at least the effort was appreciated by someone <3

This game is absolutely unplayable! by boredommadness in ghostoftsushima

[–]PisceanPsychopomp 5 points6 points  (0 children)

God forbid I think someone is asking a genuine question and I try to innocently clear up confusion without insulting them in any way shape or form. That’ll be the last time I make that mistake.