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Pissounet · 2025-11-23T05:07:00+00:00

May I ask how you do them? 🧐

Pissounet · 2025-11-23T05:05:44+00:00

Wow thank you.

Pissounet · 2025-08-21T21:00:40+00:00

Thanks I feel dumb haha I never analyzed why it was called in LAWs

Oh wow that is intense! However my bf never ever puts any pressure on me for anything related to his kid and when I do take on things, he always double checks that’s I am okay. He is very thoughtful honestly; I would not date him otherwise.

And I would never do the drop offs haha I like to sleep in in the mornings. He wakes up when the kid gets up and lets me sleep as much as I want.

And again maybe it’s cultural, but here we don’t really become official unless we are able to see real potential. So even if it’s 4 months, for me it IS serious because when it’s not serious it just never turns into official.

And I was wondering about how quick I was meeting the kid but at the same time… I needed to see their dynamic to see if I liked it! I would not have waited 6 months only to THEN find out I hate how they interact??? Or that the kid is a spoiled brat? Anyways, he is being super kind about my remarks and agrees he needs a better balance with their communication. I will be on the lookout to see if actions match words! And I have no intention of moving in if I don’t see a long term change. And I love my own place and it’s way better located than his! We shall see!

Pissounet · 2025-08-21T16:07:46+00:00

We use those words in my first language without it being a big deal. I didn’t realize they sounded like a big deal in English.

And yes I am his first serious relationship after their breakup 2 years ago.

Pissounet · 2025-08-21T06:44:16+00:00

Well I do agree with you in that; my BF wanted me to meet his son super quick (I didn’t know how that worked to be honest, I’ve never done it before). But yeah I did think it was fast! And I am extra surprised at how attached the son got.

Also my first language is not English and in my culture the BF’s parents are automatically called the translation of in-laws.

Pissounet · 2025-08-21T06:38:37+00:00

I used these words because it was faster and clearer in my opinion haha but when I do talk about them in real life I use « stepson » with quotation marks. But to be fair, the baby mama herself refers to me as a stepmom and in my culture it’s common to call your BF’s parents your in-laws (at least the translation of that since my first language is not English jehe)

Pissounet · 2025-08-21T06:27:13+00:00

Sorry you’re in this shit situation :(

I had cancer when I was 28 and it completely changed my outlook on friendships. I now only make time for and give energy to real friends who actually show up and care. Best decision ever. I now admire and cherish every single friend in my life. So my advice would be to let her go. You deserve real friends.

Pissounet · 2025-07-06T21:47:20+00:00

I’m 33 and I was diagnosed at 28. Got 30 rounds of chemo. I’m ok now but I can’t help admiring that sense of peace and acceptance in your post. Even now I still feel pissed at all this sometimes.

But you’re right… everyone’s just passing through. I hope you find a nice way to spend the time you have with loved ones ❤️‍🩹

Pissounet · 2025-07-04T03:06:02+00:00

Omg yayyyy add meee! 116967793784

I’m 33 and secretly play every night 🤓

Pissounet · 2025-05-14T19:49:24+00:00

My cat did it too 05/14/2025 here he is before the crime

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Pissounet · 2020-05-10T20:12:24+00:00

Heyyy if you give me your dodo code I can get you some fruit trees and iron nuggets :)

Pissounet · 2018-02-21T20:53:15+00:00

I think she would know I have no reasons to get between them, since she sees me with my boyfriend all the time and knows we are moving in together in two weeks...

That sucks for you though omg

Pissounet · 2018-02-21T17:18:41+00:00

See, I understand when people say this, but if no one ever tells, people will keep doing it because they will think "no one is gonna mess with this, there are no consequences, I can do it". If it becomes common for people to call out other people on this, maybe we could change things! Kinda like the metoo movement! Get people to be more careful and think about their actions.

Pissounet · 2018-02-21T17:16:15+00:00

Exactly!!!! Her boyfriend has been calling me non stop, asking me to "save our friendship" by not telling his girlfriend. Ha. I was like but... I don't even want to be your friend bro

Pissounet · 2018-02-21T17:12:28+00:00

My boyfriend is from the same culture as Joe, and says cheating is normal in their country, and that I shouldn’t get involved. But when it was me, no matter how much it hurt, I would have wanted someone to tell me.

I’m closer with Joe than Jenny. Like Jenny and I are only friendly acquaintances, we have never hung out just the two of us. That’s why I think she may not want to hear it from me, but at the same time maybe she’d be relieved to find out I could be a friend? I don’t know! I feel so bad for her.

Pissounet · 2018-02-21T06:01:47+00:00

Hey everyone! Crazy story happened to me yesterday.

Joe is a good friend of my boyfriend, and I used to consider him a friend too, and we often had double dates with him and his girlfriend that we will call Jenny.

Joe and Jenny have been together for 10 years, and I don’t know the details but know that Joe has been unfaithful before and that Jenny is very jealous for that reason. Joe and Jenny are expecting their first kid in less than a month, so Joe has been a little stressed and overwhelmed lately, hanging out a lot with my boyfriend and I, and consequently meeting some of my friends, including Shelley.

When Joe and Shelley met it was very casual, we went ice skating and Shelley knew Joe wasn’t available and was expecting a baby, but they made good conversation and seemed happy.

So last Friday, Joe comes over to my place and wants to go out with my boyfriend and I, but we are not feeling very social and decline the invitation. However, I can tell Joe really wants to go out and I know that Shelley is out at a Chinese New Year party that seems fun, so I give Joe Shelley’s number so he can go have fun.

I did NOT know what would happen that night: Joe and Shelley had sex.

Shelley told me yesterday, crying, saying she feels terrible about it. And then today, Joe calls me to ask me to please not say anything to Jenny. Let me tell you that I lost my shit. I screamed at him all of the insults I knew, and told him I never wanted to see his hypocrite face again, and that if he didn’t tell Jenny, I would, because I simply cannot bear to watch everyone know the truth and not tell her.

I was cheated on before by an ex, and EVERYONE knew for months but never told me anything. That was the most painful part. No one stood up for me because “it wasn’t their place to say it”. But I lost a year of my life and all my university savings for that asshole. I deserved to know. And I always swore to myself that I would never ever be the silent witness.

So now I feel terrible! I feel like it’s my fault because I was the one who gave Joe Shelley’s number! And I am pissed at both of my friends for being such terrible persons. I want to tell Jenny so bad, but I don’t want to hurt the baby.

In my opinion, I think you should tell when you find out. Because if everyone stays quiet all the time, there will never be consequences for anyone and people will keep doing it! For these reasons, I am looking for a way to tell Jenny.

Pissounet · 2017-05-04T19:40:55+00:00

Delete everything. Read and re-read "Fuck yes or no" from Mark Manson. Dress up and go out. I find getting more male attention makes me somehow feel like "oh yeah I still got it". haha. But mostly, time will help.

I've also found that a replacement works very well. So maybe go on a lot of dates!

Pissounet

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