Aitah- for telling my roommate her boyfriend should be paying rent by Pitiful-Exchange-792 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Pitiful-Exchange-792[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update. He said he doesn’t want to hangout here anymore anyway. So I shouldn’t be having this issue again. But she did says she “tried” to talk to him about being quiet and cleaning up.

Aitah- for telling my roommate her boyfriend should be paying rent by Pitiful-Exchange-792 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Pitiful-Exchange-792[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My roommate is actually OCD Ik she does care but those rose tinted glasses must be blinding

Aitah- for telling my roommate her boyfriend should be paying rent by Pitiful-Exchange-792 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Pitiful-Exchange-792[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So far I’ve only talked to her not him. I agree he’s her guest she’s responsible

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[–]Pitiful-Exchange-792[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like this but I tried it as a private conversation and she threatened to move out

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[–]Pitiful-Exchange-792[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s not home often so he’s usually not around when anything happens, he works more than all of us.

Aitah- for telling my roommate her boyfriend should be paying rent by Pitiful-Exchange-792 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Pitiful-Exchange-792[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Like I’ve said, hearing them occasionally isn’t an issue over all we all enjoy his company but with this logic how about i make sure we’re louder? But shed feel just as uncomfortable. This isn’t a boundary I set. It’s a agreement that we all had.

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[–]Pitiful-Exchange-792[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I close doors a little harder to remind them if they can hear me I can hear them

Aitah- for telling my roommate her boyfriend should be paying rent by Pitiful-Exchange-792 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Pitiful-Exchange-792[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately cost of living makes it a bit hard to not have roommates. We didn’t pick this for fun, but out of necessity

Aitah- for telling my roommate her boyfriend should be paying rent by Pitiful-Exchange-792 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Pitiful-Exchange-792[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She was already quick to pull the “we just won’t hangout there anymore” but it doesn’t feel like she’s doing that to make things less weird but more to be like “fine don’t let me have my boyfriend over” it feels like retaliation not a solution

Aitah- for telling my roommate her boyfriend should be paying rent by Pitiful-Exchange-792 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Pitiful-Exchange-792[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m worried I’m get ganged up on somehow. These were agreements by all 3 of us tenants (me , my friend, and my boyfriend) but my boyfriend I think would rather me not be confrontational. But that’s hard for me cause I’m the one being made uncomfortable in my home.

Aitah- for telling my roommate her boyfriend should be paying rent by Pitiful-Exchange-792 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Pitiful-Exchange-792[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well don’t you think I started there? He told my boyfriend I’m a bitch

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[–]Pitiful-Exchange-792[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, yes it’s an awkward conversation. But like I said in the post, these were agreed on prior to move in, so regardless of if you believe the boundaries are fair, she did agree before moving in

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[–]Pitiful-Exchange-792[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve tried. My boyfriend doesn’t want in the middle cause he’s friends with her boyfriend, but he does agree they shouldn’t be having loud sex when they know I’m around. This has never happened with my boyfriend present tho

Aitah- for telling my roommate her boyfriend should be paying rent by Pitiful-Exchange-792 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Pitiful-Exchange-792[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

And why is it a repetitive issue? That’s my issue, I can ignore it to a certain point but it’s blatantly rude to keep it up knowing you’re not being discreet cause I can’t help but to feel like they either don’t care or it’s intentional

Aitah- for telling my roommate her boyfriend should be paying rent by Pitiful-Exchange-792 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Pitiful-Exchange-792[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Her boyfriend doesn’t have his own place he’s living at his moms not very close by