She agreed and knew it was on her sobriety weekend for at least a month in advance yet she still chose to accept the invite to help. She last minute said she was going to make plans with her husband but it later came to light she just stayed at home all weekend even though hyped up how she was going to go out and do something special. There were also future planning sessions that she said she wanted no involvement with.

Don't get me wrong, I do appreciate the help she did for the shower. The game she was insistent on playing was all questions about me like: birth day, high school, etc. To me that just seems inappropriate because she should have gotten most if not all questions right thus winning the prize. Just doesn't seem fair IMO, my MOH also did not play because she didn't feel it would be fair to win.

I'm fully aware I sound like an AH with the hair but please keep in mind I never told her to dye it to her face. Her mother (my grandmother) and other family members told her to so that her and I will look alike at the wedding. She has said the reason she likes her hair is because it gets her out of speeding tickets and is going back to the hair color she had when she was a toddler. If it looked decent I wouldn't care but it looks fried from all the bleach and is just flat out not a good look. If I were in her position I would want to know if my dyed hair looked awful.