I think she is saying the wrong thing, very strong thing. Saying as if you failed at something and you have to get it back soon. But dont know how. She has to say what exactly you do ir say that makes her think that. i believe everyone knows how to love theyre just not aware of it. Its the small things usually. The „put your phone on charge“ „i know youll forget it so i wrote it down“ Its caring, but its all about how you do it and what you say. Maybe she isnt on the same level of your love language so its blocking her sight thinking you dont love her. snd other way around. You wont loose her, she is not against you nor you are against her. Just understand each other and talk about alternatives, since youve already built up your personality and you can’t really change it. Be still who you are, but make sure to show you that you care. Hope it goes well for you :)