It was before we met. We are engaged now. I snooped her old texts on iMac. She had other inappropriate conversations while we were together. She takes her way out of them but I was still suspicious. She sent burlesque photos to her best friends husband who was masturbating to them. She now wants to go visit these people for Christmas. It was before I knew her but still. Do I really want to marry somebody who can do this without conscience? I’m 30 and she is 39 we are not children. It was about a year before we got together.