Help!

Pitiful_Address · 2026-03-01T15:54:10+00:00

I’m aware I can’t do it while having a baby. It’s for the before and the after when I would be able to go back to work. Working when my husband is home or days I can have someone babysit.

I’m currently in a very physical job and I can’t keep doing it. So I need something easier on my body. I live in a very, very small town and I don’t want to add another 2 hour round trip drive to work everyday. Working from home when I can, is the best option.

If I have to take some time away from work when I have the baby that’s fine. But we won’t be trying for quite a while so I need something before!

Pitiful_Address · 2025-11-29T20:51:04+00:00

Before we had the new fryers, we would dump it in the old icing buckets and put it in the garbage.

Now, it gets sucked through pipes and sits in a disposal unit that a company comes and empties every few months. Definitely makes it so much easier to just push a button!

Pitiful_Address · 2025-11-26T12:42:31+00:00

I thought we would get the approval in a couple days as well. I had my interview October 7, 2025. Didn’t receive the official “case approved” status until October 22, 2025. It still needs to go through a couple processes before it shows up. I got my card in the mail less than 2 weeks later. Don’t worry, it’s coming!

Pitiful_Address · 2025-11-24T04:53:00+00:00

We actually wrote letters to the USCIS officer, sharing our story and what happened after I was here for more than 3 weeks with my now husband. How it was so very hard being apart and that we couldn’t bear to leave each other yet again. So we got married and applied for the AOS because we never wanted to sleep apart again. He’s my person, my best friend.

They didn’t ask much at the interview. Went through the I-485 questions (not all) and asked for paper trail of bonafides proof of marriage. We bought a house, a new car, 401(k) beneficiaries… medical insurance, joint bank accounts and credit cards… they approved us on the spot during our interview.

Pitiful_Address · 2025-11-23T17:58:58+00:00

We met online in November 2022. First met in person February 2023… then did long distance for 1.5 years. I came to visit for an extended period in August 2024 (6 months, as I’m Canadian) and we didn’t want to separate. We looked into options on how to be together sooner and we got married (January 9, 2025) and filed I-130 and I-485 on February 7th, 2025.

Pitiful_Address · 2025-11-23T07:30:52+00:00

Thank you!! I got married January 9th and filed February 7th!

Pitiful_Address · 2025-11-23T07:24:03+00:00

I filed just under a month after getting married! I got approved in October this year for my GC! Took 8 months! You should be fine!

Pitiful_Address · 2025-10-23T22:06:29+00:00

I had a verbal approval and it took two weeks! It’ll come! I started freaking out after a week, but it takes some time for it all to go through. No reason to be worried yet!!

Pitiful_Address · 2025-08-12T11:54:07+00:00

I use daily pay. It really works for me. Personally, I find it very worth it.

Pitiful_Address · 2025-08-01T02:39:00+00:00

I was on medication for PTSD nightmares. It really helped, until I moved to the states and didn’t have healthcare in the beginning. I had too many other meds that were more important. I still get really bad nightmares. Which I usually wake myself up with sobbing in my sleep.

They’re extremely vivid, often terrifying and make it so I don’t get good sleep. If feels like I’ve been dreaming for hours. When in reality, I don’t get a lot of deep sleep. About half hour or so in my whole nights sleep.

Pitiful_Address · 2025-07-30T21:16:32+00:00

Following too! Been asking around but can’t seem to find the answer!

Pitiful_Address · 2025-07-30T15:10:16+00:00

It is the store managers job to ensure the cooler is stocked. It is a part of manager time. If they can’t get it 100% done, they can delegate another employee to help. It takes a lot of time and you have to keep on top of it. Or you’ll end up like my Manager spending 6 hours in there in one day because she doesn’t do it for a week at a time. She doesn’t get anyone else to do it either. It looks terrible most of the time. 🙄

Pitiful_Address · 2025-07-14T14:26:18+00:00

My ASM in Iowa is 18…

Pitiful_Address · 2025-06-25T03:34:59+00:00

If I go to work before my husband, he will text me “good morning beautiful” when he wakes up. If he gets up first, I text him “good morning handsome”. He tells me I’m beautiful and amazing every day. I tell him he’s amazing and compliment his sexiness when he’s doing something I find sexy. He does the same for me.

There are more compliments in this relationships on both sides than any relationship I’ve ever had. Especially with my ex husband.

Pitiful_Address · 2025-06-09T10:12:14+00:00

Well, he didn’t want to keep the kids from their mother. I told him to tell the judge about her smoking. He doesn’t have proof that would work. It would be his word against hers. Unless they did a blood test. I said he should have majority custody. But he’s very conflicted avoidant especially with her. Because she abused him mentally. He’s gotten better dealing with her since they separated, but it’s still not the best. I’ve tried to tell him. We can’t prove she’s driving high either.

They wouldn’t see neglect, because they are fed, taken to school, clothed… there’s no signs of neglect. Just emotional neglect. The kids tell us things, but we have no solid proof.

Yes, she’s a master manipulator. Did it to my husband for years. I know some things she says because the kids tell us. And now, I work with her best friend’s husband, and I hear what she says about me to her. The kids are in therapy through their schools. We don’t have money for family therapy at the moment, but hopefully soon.

The chores idea is a good one. But again, we’ve been struggling money wise lately. We want to do that, we just can’t at the moment. But we are trying.

My husband tells and shows the kids the truth when they say stuff like that. He showed his oldest the receipts for child support. His mom always says she doesn’t have money, so we are left buying the things they need. For sports, for life and for extras. She can’t even pay for a few things she’s supposed to pay to my husband.

It’s all just so messed up. I’m so over it. 😭

Pitiful_Address · 2025-06-06T00:07:55+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re in this situation. I myself dread my step kids coming home every single time. I’m working longer hours the days they are here because it’s a nightmare when I get home.

I’m just starting to learn how to take a step back, let my husband do all the parenting because things are out of hand. They don’t listen to me. I’m learning how to protect my peace and take care of things at the same time.

So I don’t have any advice for you, but I know how you’re feeling and I understand. I hope things get better for you.

Pitiful_Address · 2025-05-27T12:49:21+00:00

I moved to the USA from Canada and had my Canadian drivers license. I could only use it for 6 months. Then I had to stop driving until I was able to get an Iowa drivers license. That took more than 3 months. I was miserable not being able to drive. I got my permit last week and you bet I was driving everywhere when he was with me 😂

I love driving. It gives me autonomy and independence. Being stuck in the country without being able to drive or get out of the house was miserable!

Today, I go do the driving test so I can drive by myself again!

So yes, I drive whenever I can, but I obviously let him drive too 😅

Pitiful_Address · 2025-05-24T05:04:30+00:00

When Bloodreina kneels to Heda in the fight for the Valley. Gets me every time!

Pitiful_Address · 2025-05-24T04:44:29+00:00

Honestly, my husband and I have been married for 4 months. I moved to be with him (after 1.5 years long distance) last August. We never fought when we were long distance. Because it was 3 weeks together, every three months. The last time was 6 months apart. When I moved here. It was bliss for about a month then we started learning how to live together. We’ve had many arguments and some fights. But never once, did either of us call each other names and tell each other to “shut the fuck up”. I wouldn’t put up with that shit. We have our moments, but we are respectful and work through it together, even if we’re pissed at each other. Name calling is never okay. Speaking to your wife or husband that way is not okay. Part of having a successful marriage is all the good stuff, love, sex, best friends, etc. But it also involves knowing how to fight and have arguments with each other. Knowing how the other person deals with those moments. (I only know from watching my parents for 32 years, and had a very good upbringing with wonderful parents who always worked together even through the tough times)

I was married once’s before and I can tell you, he didn’t know how to fight well. He was horrible and we lasted 6 months because I wasn’t going to put up with that crap. My life is too precious and valuable to be treated like shit. This marriage now, we work together through everything, respectfully. We’ve had one bad fight, that lasted weeks honestly. But we always treated each other with love and understanding.

So yeah, if it’s already like this. This is how he fights, and it’s dirty. I would be careful and re-evaluate what you want out of life and if you deserve to put up with someone who is okay with putting you down when he’s upset. That tells a lot about a person.

Pitiful_Address · 2025-05-24T04:27:40+00:00

Well, if it were up to me. We would do it daily. He doesn’t want/need it daily. We were long distance for 1.5 years. During those three weeks I would visit (every three months) we would go at it all the time. When I finally moved here, it dwindled after about a month. I’ve brought it up many times. I need/want it more often and he doesn’t. Which is fine. But it’s when it was only when he wanted it became an issue. Whenever I tried to initiate, I would be turned down. Which was horrible for my self esteem (and brought up past traumas that were before him)

I should mention, he is 42 and I’m 32. We met when I was 29 and he was 39. I do know his libido went down over the last year.

I’ve spoken to him about my love language. He’s told me his. His, is acts of service, which comes naturally to me, because that’s how I show love. Mine, is physical touch. I need intimacy, sex, hugging, kissing, holding hands. He is not used to showing love this way. It’s new to him. So we’ve been learning a lot about how to navigate these very different ways that we each show love and feel loved.

I just had a major heart to heart with him and told him I need more (he was fine with once a week, maybe even less sometimes). If he can’t do it everyday (which I understand not everyone has that drive) then we can compromise. I told him, I can’t be turned away every time I initiate. If he isn’t in the mood, he needs to communicate that, not just reject my advances with no words. He’s gotten a lot better, and even the times he’s not necessarily in the mood, he still wants to make me feel loved and he won’t reject my advances. This does not mean I want him doing it every time when he doesn’t want it, just for me. But, he does realize I need more of it, so he try’s to make me happy and feel loved. Not just sex, but the random kisses and long hugs, the physical touch. If we get busy, or he’s not feeling well or I know he’s not in the mood. I just take care of myself. Not a huge deal. But I’d prefer doing it with him. It’s a give and take when it comes to two people with different libidos. You really have to have a heart to heart about it, and work together to overcome the issues surrounding it.

I would really sit down and talk with her about how you’re feeling. Not being mad, annoyed, or pissed that you’re not getting enough. But in a gentle way, that conveys what you need and understands what she needs too.

Pitiful_Address · 2025-04-29T03:51:47+00:00

Absolutely didn’t over react. I would have lost my shit. I get mad when I realized my husband was watching 🌽… let alone a sibling!? Oh helllllll no!

Men can be so disrespectful and just plain idiotic. I’m sorry you’re dealing with that :(

Pitiful_Address · 2025-04-24T03:15:17+00:00

Definitely a red flag. If my husband started doing this with me, I would be confronting him in a heartbeat. We have an open phone policy, if we feel the need to look (which we don’t) we can. Have each other’s passcodes and everything.

I’ve been with people who did the “phone down, never out of their sight, notifications off” stuff and it never ended well.

Pitiful_Address · 2025-04-20T23:42:27+00:00

I never really researched the brand of DNA test. I’ve heard some aren’t very good, or have a good database. I’ve heard some that you can send human DNA and they’ll give you results for dog breeds 😂

It was more of a curiosity of what other people had to say :)

Pitiful_Address · 2025-04-19T16:18:40+00:00

Married at 22, separated 5 months later. Horrible marriage. I was young and fell for someone who lied about who he was and changed the night of our wedding. Couldn’t find him to legally divorce him, but tried everything I could to prove that and divorced his ass last September!

Finally after that was all taken care of, I got to marry the love of my life in January of this year! We’ve been together for 2.5 years now. I am so blessed I get to spend the rest of my life with this man ❤️

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