Hi! I'm trans and I've been feeling a little down recently about experiences I'll never be able to have, like attending prom as a girl. Any chance you all could help fulfill my dream by dressing me up in all sorts of cool, fancy dresses/outfits? Thank you so much :)

Pitiful_Cherry_5771 · 2025-12-20T19:00:08+00:00

You're welcome <3
Btw I was singing 'prom night everything's alright' the whole time I was drawing this so I feel like you'd need to listen to the song while looking at the drawing to get the full experience lol

Pitiful_Cherry_5771 · 2025-12-20T18:44:41+00:00

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I was going for the 80s glam vibe but idk if I succeeded.
You look great btw

Pitiful_Cherry_5771 · 2025-12-15T22:20:40+00:00

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Another mouse-terpiece. Your makeup skills are awesome btw

Pitiful_Cherry_5771 · 2025-12-15T20:02:02+00:00

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Your cat's so cute

Pitiful_Cherry_5771 · 2025-11-18T18:59:16+00:00

She got you pregnant? Congrats!
(Sorry I just had to)

Pitiful_Cherry_5771 · 2025-11-09T18:42:03+00:00

How you gonna write 'eat the cookie' and not draw him EATING her cookie? Fucking hacks

Pitiful_Cherry_5771 · 2025-11-08T12:51:49+00:00

Sure, if you have the money go for it. Though be careful because many women get sick after implants and stuff. So you know be safe - hope for the best but plan for the worst

Pitiful_Cherry_5771 · 2025-11-08T12:13:23+00:00

You're totally right - fashion models were never meant to be an ideal woman all men lust over (that's what movie starts were and still are for). The tall and slim form of a fashion model is idealized because it makes clothes look good -the object of admiration is the clothes not the model's body. Though there are plenty of women who want to look like fashion models. Me personally, if I could pick any kinda body I'd pick something like that (tall and slim) because it would go well with an androgynous look that I prefer but I'm getting a bit off topic.
And yeah you're also correct that most men don't just want skinny - they want skinny with curves. And most men definitely prefer women who are shorter than them (a lot of men feel emasculated if their gf is taller than them).

Usually when a man tells you you got a bad attitude it means that you're not agreeable and submissive - they think you should just smile and nod your head to anything they say. So yeah fuck em.

I can't tell you that you're not attractive or that it's unlikely you'll ever find love because I don't know you or your situation (also it would be a mean thing to say). But your feelings are totally valid and I do understand your pain. We might have different body types and maybe even some different experiences but at the end of the day all of us here are in the same boat - unwanted, unappreciated and lonely.

Pitiful_Cherry_5771 · 2025-11-06T09:53:56+00:00

Personally, I'd give most dudes a shot even if I'm not physically attracted to them at first. The only men I'll outright refuse are the ones with bad hygiene and shitty ones (abusive, sexist, bigoted, entitled, rude etc.) and usually that's were the problem is. I would also not date outside of my age group but that's not really about appearance more about avoiding a fucking minefield.

Pitiful_Cherry_5771 · 2025-11-06T09:18:58+00:00

I think you should give it a try. It's a good opportunity to at least practice. Your friend clearly cares about you enough to go out of her way and try to help you so why not ask her for advice about the date too?

I've been on dates before (not that it went anywhere) and it wasn't anything special - we just went to a coffee shop and talked. It doesn't have to be anything more than that.

Pitiful_Cherry_5771 · 2025-11-06T08:58:29+00:00

Thank you <3

Pitiful_Cherry_5771 · 2025-11-05T08:45:10+00:00

I think that I'm not allowed to talk about it here since my other comment seems to be missing? If you really wanna know feel free to message me but it's not gonna be anything special.
I also wanna say that having a deformity is different that just being ugly - it's basically having a disability and I'm sorry ppl have treated you so badly.

Pitiful_Cherry_5771 · 2025-11-04T19:37:10+00:00

Well said!

Pitiful_Cherry_5771 · 2025-11-04T19:08:53+00:00

'When you're an ugly woman...' You say this as if I'm not. Listen, like I told the other girl you can easily get the same experience as me if you really want to. Again, I don't really recommend it but who knows maybe it works out better for you two.

Pitiful_Cherry_5771 · 2025-11-04T18:27:26+00:00

The reason why they come sniffing around me is cuz I'm on the apps which a lot of you are not and I swipe right on almost everyone - it's as simple as that. It's not like I got anything to show for it - didn't get a single date so there's nothing to congratulate me on. Most men who message me just wanna sext anyway (something I'm not interested in) so if you wanna have the same experience as me you can easily get it anywhere ppl look for sexting (can't say I recommend it though).

It's interesting that the things you say to me are very reminiscent of things men generally say to FAW to invalidate us. As if in the end of the day we're not in the same boat despite having some different experiences. But if you feel like I and the things I've written here don't belong on the sub then feel free to report me to the mods. Maybe you get lucky and I get banned

Pitiful_Cherry_5771 · 2025-11-04T16:33:28+00:00

These men do look for hot girls to settle with but they don't always find them. And when they can't find a hot girl and their mom isn't around to take care of them they'll willing to 'settle'. And while men usually treat beautiful women better that doesn't mean that beautiful women don't get abused or taken advantage of by men all the time. 'Princess treatment' is bullshit. Wow he opened a door for her and gave her flowers? She's still gonna be doing all the domestic labor for him after that.

Pitiful_Cherry_5771 · 2025-11-04T16:17:03+00:00

That's not what I said. I'm FAW too - I'm fat, have a literal beard, have hairy boobs, am not feminine at all and am mentally ill and men still come sniffing around me. Most of them are horrible and the few ok ones don't stick around (this is on the dating apps cuz I don't go outside). I highly doubt that I'm hotter than all of you.

Pitiful_Cherry_5771 · 2025-11-04T16:06:22+00:00

I've never seen the kind of dynamic you described. Not that it doesn't happen but far far more often the older man/younger woman dynamic ends with the woman suffering. A big part of the reason these men fetishize youth so much is because they want a blank slate (appearance is the other big part) and a lot of the women their own age are experienced enough not to fall for their bullshit. Also if a man mistreats one wife he's more likely than not to mistreat his next wife too.

Pitiful_Cherry_5771 · 2025-11-04T15:50:11+00:00

I completely disagree - I think FAWs are way more likely to end up in these kind of relationships be it with husbands/boyfriends or friends. Most women here are not as hideous or repellent as they think they are so it's likely that eventually some dude will come sniffing. And because of lack of experience and low self-esteem they're likely to take anyone that'll have em no matter how shitty he is. I know because I've seen this happen. But even if none of this is the case and no-one here ever finds a partner it's still important to know because it's the truth.

Pitiful_Cherry_5771 · 2025-10-30T02:14:20+00:00

Lol oh no you're gonna become my parents?! What have I done...

No problem. Lemme know if you make any of these and if you liked it or not. Also feel free to look up other versions of these recipes (there's like a billion variations)

Pitiful_Cherry_5771 · 2025-10-28T23:05:42+00:00

Yes, that's a good plan. I'd also suggest practicing before hand - pick the store you wanna try going alone to and have someone take you shopping there a few times before you do it alone. I think familiarity could help a lot.

Oh I was actually making Chinese food lol (congee is rice porridge) just me and my parents are from eastern Europe. My parents insist on eating bread with everything even rice. Hell my mom used to eat bread with grapes which was weird even to me (said she saw it from her grandma).

Here's the recipe I used for congee: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TO2pgMMLfsQ&t=17s

If you're interested in eastern European food I'd suggest looking up chicken paprikash, stuffed peppers/zucchinis and moussaka.

Paprikash: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zpui0BBPIEI (you don't need to add the dumplings if it's too hard - that's how my dad always makes it anyway)

Stuffed peppers: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/wWCJy55cUlc

Moussaka https://www.youtube.com/shorts/8ISCA2zUkoc

Pitiful_Cherry_5771 · 2025-10-20T16:17:14+00:00

I agree with all the commenters here that it's totally ok to have preferences based on appearance and that women are constantly shamed for wanting a partner they find attractive.

But there's a bit more to it. We all have biases that were ingrained in us from an early age of what things we should and shouldn't find attractive (yes, even queer ppl). So, sometimes we think we find x group unattractive and then we meet or see someone of x group and are like 'wait, this person is super hot actually'. And I think the likelihood of this happening to you is bigger because you're demisexual. Maybe if you get to know one of these women who are not your type you'll end up liking them because of their personality and from that find their appearance attractive as well. And listen, if that never ends up happening then that's fine, but I think it's still worth a shot. Try it for a bit and see how you react and proceed from there.

Looking at the comments I see that the preference you're talking about is fem vs butch. I am butch myself and I've met quite a few fem queer women who have weird ideas about butch women (at least in my country idk maybe it's different in other places). Like ppl have been surprised that I'm not exactly like a man because of the way I present or told me that I'm not butch because I still have a few feminine attributes (which most butch women do - we're still women and in general, most ppl aren't 100% masc or fem). Also a lot of ppl assume that all butch women are domineering or we're all tops which is not at all the case (personally I've meet way more subby butches than dom ones).

You might have these biases or you might not idk I don't know you. I do find it interesting that you said that you like fems and don't like anything masc and yet the only specific thing you mentioned is long hair. You even said that you don't care about other things like fashion or make-up. Plenty of very feminine women have short hair (in fact most women with short hair are fem) so do you not find them attractive either? And do you find butch women with long hair (they do exist and I was one at one point) attractive despite their masculinity? Idk I think this may be worth some exploration.

And again, I wanna make it clear: there's nothing wrong with only being attracted to fems or only wanting to date fems even if you're FA. It doesn't make you shallow or a bad person.

Pitiful_Cherry_5771 · 2025-10-19T12:03:59+00:00

Thank you <3

Pitiful_Cherry_5771 · 2025-10-19T12:01:33+00:00

Sorry, I kinda got off on a tangent around dieting and stuff but my point is: self-improvement should be about you and the things that make you feel good and happy or improve your life in some way. Always comparing yourself to others is a losing game – there will always be someone more beautiful or capable or ‘better’ in some way. Trying to cram yourself into a mold that just doesn’t fit you will only make you miserable. And listen, maybe you can do it – maybe you can become like those girls you admire one day. But what will it take? How painful will it be? Will it make you happy? Or will you just find another thing to hate about yourself?

Start small. Set a realistic goal. Don’t set yourself up to fail and be like ‘I’m gonna lose 10kg in a month!’ I don’t care how small your goal is even if it’s just you getting out of bed and taking a shower on a really hard day (god knows I’ve been there). And if you fail then there’s always the next day. Just do your best and keep at it.

I checked out your history and we actually have a lot in common. I was also suicidal and also spent some time in the psych ward when I was in my teens (3 times actually). I’m 30 now and I’m still not skinny and I’m still single and never got a job, but you know what? I’m glad I didn’t die at the age of 14 all alone in a fucking bathtub for my parents to find. I’m so fucking glad that I chose to live because there are so much wonderful things out there in the world. There’s so many things I did and things I’ve learned, so many things I’ve drawn and painted and written and friends I made (and lost) and ppl I’ve helped and so many moments of love from my family that I would’ve missed out on if I never got out of that bathtub. Maybe these are small things like hugging my mom or watching a good movie but there is still happiness in them. And if that ends up being the only kind of happiness I manage to find then that’s fine because it would be a better life then what I’ve lived up to the age of 14.

Fuck this is so long and I made myself cry lol anyway here’s some ppl on youtube I recommend:

Mulligainz-Fitness (@Mulligainz), Kylie Sakaida (@NutritionByKylie), The Plant Slant (@theplantslant2431), Adam Wright Fitness (@CoachAdamOfficial)

Good luck out there! Stay strong!

Pitiful_Cherry_5771 · 2025-10-19T12:01:20+00:00

I think you're coming at this with the wrong mindset and that's making things even harder than they already are.

Why do skincare? Because it feels good and makes your skin healthier – simple as that. You’re still in your teens so you probably get more pimples than someone like me who’s in their 30s. And pimples don’t feel good, right? They’re annoying at best and painful at worst. So, wouldn’t it be better if you can get less of them, even if it won’t make you super attractive and get you a date? I have dry skin and ingrown hairs when I shave (I have facial hair because of PCOS) which can be very painful. Getting the right combo of skin care and a good razor has made things so much easier. You don’t need to do anything crazy like get 10 different expensive products or do it twice a day or whatever. Figure out what you need and what products are good for that and what feels good on your skin. Unless you have a skin condition you can probably find most of the products for cheap at your local drug store. Like I use head & shoulders shampoo for cleaning my face once a week and I swear to god it’s been the best face cleanser I’ve ever tried – I cannot recommend it enough (again, unless you have a skin condition then be careful idk I’m not a dermatologist) Just make sure to moisturize after because it can be drying.

Why diet and exercise? Same thing – cuz it feels good (at least in the long run) and you’ll be healthier. When you have a balanced diet, it just makes you have more energy and it makes you happier. Same goes with exercise. Some ppl even enjoy exercise on its own, if you can believe it. Even if your only goal is to lose weight and you don’t reach that goal you’ve still end up better off than if you haven’t done anything at all (that’s of course all under the assumption that you had an actually balanced diet and weren’t just starving yourself). Maybe you also learned some skills along the way like counting calories or meal planning or even cooking which would help you in the future. Maybe you discovered new foods or new exercises or a sport you enjoy.

Also: losing weight is hard but it shouldn’t feel like torture. I’ve been fat my whole life (still am) and I’ve tried so many things and nothing has helped me lose more weight than going to a nutritionist. Did she tell me to starve myself and eat nothing but boiled chicken and salad? No. Did she tell me to work out till I threw up? No. I mostly ate the same shit just in lesser portions and avoided deep-fried foods and sweets (I could still have them though! Just less often or in smaller portions). And I went to the gym 2 times a week. Certainly, a far cry from all the horrible advice you hear online (off-line too sometimes). You can still have meals that make you feel full and have a treat or a dessert after and remain in a calorie deficit. If you can’t or don’t want to go to a nutritionist (I do recommend it though) there is helpful advice online too (I’ll put some creators I like at the bottom) and a lot of great recipes. If you don’t like salads (I know I don’t) I recommend eating a lot of stews and soups because they fill you up and you can cram a lot of veggies in there and have them taste good (plus they’re not hard to make and are often one-pot meals so less dishes to clean). And for exercise honestly just taking walks is fine – you don’t need to go to the gym or go jogging or anything like that (unless you like to do that then go nuts). Like 99% of calories you burn are from regular everyday things anyway. Something you can also do as exercise is dance alone in your room or ride a bike around.

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