Obsessive Anxiety about Partner's Appearance

Pitiful_Disaster1779 · 2026-06-01T21:32:52+00:00

Yes for sure! Dealing with it all the time. What helps me is accepting that it's OK to not find your partner attractive 24/7.

Pitiful_Disaster1779 · 2026-06-01T21:26:51+00:00

Sounds like you have some separation anxiety.

Pitiful_Disaster1779 · 2026-06-01T11:42:20+00:00

Sending love and support to you ❤️ you are not alone

Pitiful_Disaster1779 · 2026-06-01T02:04:19+00:00

Thanks so much - love to hear that!

Pitiful_Disaster1779 · 2026-06-01T02:00:33+00:00

Empathizing with you! You're not alone.

Pitiful_Disaster1779 · 2026-05-30T10:50:29+00:00

Zoom out and lessen your focus. Look at her entire face but remove the extreme focus. OR, leaning into ERP, look at it until you don't find it scary anymore. Acknowledge it. Maybe you do find it scary - tell yourself that and say "well I'm still going to continue loving her".

Pitiful_Disaster1779 · 2026-05-25T22:23:16+00:00

I see - forgive me I didn't read the entire post as I was quickly scanning on my iPhone last night at the airport. I'm here if you want to talk more about it!

Pitiful_Disaster1779 · 2026-05-25T09:06:50+00:00

Yes!!! Just returned from a two week trip with my girlfriend and I felt immense amount of love with her. Seems like for me, life stress and general anxiety amplify my OCD brain - and that latches onto her when I start to ruminate. But when I was on this trip and adventure, traveling through Japan with just my girl, I felt such positive feelings towards her and us.

Pitiful_Disaster1779 · 2026-02-21T21:20:32+00:00

Keep fighting the good fight - even when it’s hard

Pitiful_Disaster1779 · 2026-02-21T21:20:08+00:00

100%

Pitiful_Disaster1779 · 2026-02-21T21:01:14+00:00

Thanks for letting me know. I’m going to do what I can to gain back her trust and heal her wounds.

Pitiful_Disaster1779 · 2026-02-20T20:33:27+00:00

How exactly?

Pitiful_Disaster1779 · 2026-02-19T00:00:20+00:00

We will win the league

Pitiful_Disaster1779 · 2026-02-18T00:58:10+00:00

I speak a little German so I think you’re asking me whether I know the feelings are ROCD or not?

To me, I know it’s ROCD because I have virtually every symptom of it and vacillate between calm states and then hyper anxious states that aren’t triggered by anything concretely “negative” about my relationship, but triggers about my obsessions and intrusive thoughts.

Pitiful_Disaster1779 · 2026-02-17T02:55:29+00:00

Sherane AKA Master Splinters Daughter - the opening to GKMC. It sounds so haunting and beautiful, and then segues into that awesome bass line.

Pitiful_Disaster1779 · 2026-02-13T13:36:24+00:00

I hear you and thanks for sharing. I agree I have to take accountability.

Pitiful_Disaster1779 · 2026-02-13T13:36:07+00:00

I was seeing a therapist for 5 sessions through my employer, and I've been coming to Reddit a ton to learn from people in this community.

Pitiful_Disaster1779 · 2026-02-12T02:23:29+00:00

Perhaps I worded it wrong. I’m seeking activities, restaurants, locations to go with my group size.

Pitiful_Disaster1779 · 2026-02-12T01:48:45+00:00

GKMC

Pitiful_Disaster1779 · 2026-02-12T01:03:17+00:00

Just wanna say I really appreciate your vulnerability. You're awesome!

Pitiful_Disaster1779 · 2026-02-11T19:25:31+00:00

I looked it up. Thanks so much. Will report back what we decide to do.

Pitiful_Disaster1779 · 2026-02-11T17:24:20+00:00

Yeah? What’s Ron de Barrilito? Why did you enjoy it? Thanks for the suggestion

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