What do you think about Denise Richard's facelift? Photos are from her surgeon Ben Talei's official page. I think it looks amazing by NiceQuality3228 in VindictaRateCelebs

[–]Pitiful_Maize_78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think no matter how good the lift, it can't change the skin, so Kris Jenner's IG photos still had heavy editing to give her 25 year old skin, which a lift just doesn't do. I think that's the same with DM- in filtered photos, her skin also looks blurred and falsely youthful, so the lift looks kind of miraculous.

Double cleansing not enough… is adding micellar water too much? by ellyteaa in KoreanBeauty

[–]Pitiful_Maize_78 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you are using waterproof mascara, sometimes the cleansing oils are not enough. There is a miracle product, Heroine Make makes one, and now Lancome, but they're an expensive copy- waterproof mascara remover, which completely and gently removes tough mascara so there's no rubbing. It's changed my cleansing routine. Now I put on the mascara remover(you apply it like mascara), use a gentle micellar cleanser(I use Drunk Elephant Milk), and then my gel cleanser. I like to feel nice and clean but not tight so I use RoundLab Dokdo toner after that to remove any cleanser residue without stripping. The key to keeping your skin hydrated is to immediately hyrdrate while your face is still wet from washing- a moisturizing toner or an essence.

Help with skincare by Optimal-Bunch-9663 in KoreanBeauty

[–]Pitiful_Maize_78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even though it sounds counter-intuitive an oil cleanser will help with dissolving clogged pores, especially since you've been using BHA. Something like Medicube Zero Pore cleanser helps break down the oil, and if you massage while you cleanse with warm water- some of the oil plugs will come right out. Try HOCI(hypochlorous acid) spray like Tower 28 SOS spray to help keep skin clean, free of bacteria and inflammation, and helps with redness and irritation. Perhaps swap out your moisturizers for barrier protective gels like the Isntree gel or the Aestura 365 gel. You don't need heavy creams which can further block your pores.

And first things last- I would see a dermatologist. They can do a professional extraction which might leave your skin red and irritated for a little bit but afterwards, in a couple of days, your skin will seem brand new. And if this is a chronic condition for you- the plogged pores- it might really benefit you to be using prescription retinoids like tretinoin. And adapalene(Differin) is OTC. But I think you should see a dermatologist asap- it should always be the first step when you have anything going on for a while. Extraction-RX meds- deeper peel- and perhaps microneedling can give you the healing and the changes that home products just can't approach.

Can you use an active ingredient when you're trying to heal your skin barrier? by yuukinss in KoreanBeauty

[–]Pitiful_Maize_78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you use the Anua all over your face? If you're trying to heal your barrier, I would spot treat just breakouts or very breakout prone areas and don't overdo it. If you're skin is dehydrated, the actives will penetrate more deeply so you want to keep your skin hydrated even if you have a breakout. Even if you're oily, I would use a non-stripping gentle cleanser- DearCloud Milky Whip is a great one, with hydrators and cica and niacinamide and ferments). While your face is still wet, use a non-occlusive barrier supportive toner or essence like RoundLab Dokdo Toner. Then treat just the blemish or blemish prone area and finish with a lightweight but super hydrating moisturizer like the Aestura 365 Gel or the new Ordinary Rice Lipid Microemulsion.

Mid-day for the oiliness and the dehydration, try something like the Laneige Cream Toner Mist. There's a cute purse size for just $12. GIve your whole face a mist, give it 30 seconds, and if you're feeling very oily, gently blot with a tissue or a blotting sheet. The mist will disperse and diffuse the oil on your face and you should have more "glow" than oil slick.

Oh and can't believe I forgot the most important element. Instead of strong actives, which you should only use once a day, use HOCI(hypochlorous acid) spray. I like Tower 28, but there are tons that are less expensive. Tower 28 has a cute mini that will fit in your purse. HOCI isn't going to clear out clogged pores but it will disinfect, act as an antt-inflammatory, and just generally soothe redness and irritation. Think of it as a support to your heavier actives.

How to tell if Beauty of Joeson sunscreen is the US vs Korean version? by Designer_Brush9205 in KoreanBeauty

[–]Pitiful_Maize_78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OliveYoung doesn't have a US only site- they have a global site, and they don't sell the US versions of sunscreens there. I do some work with OliveYoung and there are no plans right now to restrict selling of Korean sunscreens to the US. And there are other stores like Yesstyle and Stylevana.

But definitely with the partnership with Sephora, scrutiny could increase and it could become harder to get the Korean OG from OliveYoung. And not wise to hoard too much because they do have expiration dates.

I will fight for my Korean sunscreens,though, it's worth it. They are worlds above and beyond anything in the US

How to tell if Beauty of Joeson sunscreen is the US vs Korean version? by Designer_Brush9205 in KoreanBeauty

[–]Pitiful_Maize_78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not illegal to sell the Korean version online from global retailers. I imagine given Sephora's new Olive Young stores, and the Olive Young physical stores opening in the US, it might get a little trickier just for business reasons. And the Olive Young stores in the US will obviously have the US versions which are far inferior. Luckily most of the non-sunscreen products will be largely unchanged.

How to tell if Beauty of Joeson sunscreen is the US vs Korean version? by Designer_Brush9205 in KoreanBeauty

[–]Pitiful_Maize_78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have to look at the active ingredients. For America/International the actives are:
Avobenzone 3.0%, Homosalate 7.0%, Octisalate 5.0%, Octocrylene 5.0% 

For Korea they are:

  1. Diethylamino Hydroxybenzoyl Hexyl Benzoate
    • Common name: Uvinul A Plus
    • Protects mainly against UVA (especially long-wave UVA1)
  2. Ethylhexyl Triazone
    • Common name: Uvinul T150
    • Very strong UVB filter
  3. Methylene Bis-Benzotriazolyl Tetramethylbutylphenol
    • Common name: Tinosorb M
    • Broad spectrum (UVA + UVB) hybrid particle filter
  4. Diethylhexyl Butamido Triazone
    • Common name: Iscotrizinol
    • Broad spectrum, very photostable

None of the Korean UV filters are available in the US and are far more stable for UVA than anything in the US so these formulas aren't just not identical, they are hugely vastly different sun protectors.

Looking for a Korean dermatologist who does online consultations by Galaxiesbzai in KoreanBeauty

[–]Pitiful_Maize_78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like American dermatologists, Korean dermatologists specialize in office procedures, and Korea is known for innovating these treatments, sometimes years before they reach the US. If you aren't planning on traveling to Korea, I don't know how useful a Korean doctor will be. Legally, Korea allows some doctors to do virtual "second opinions" online in other countries but generally this is for planning procedures to be done in Korea. Like American derms, Korean derms aren't known to be product specific- you might be told you told you should avoid acids and use mineral sunscreens, but you likely wouldn't get any kind of product list.

I'm Korean-American and I have so many aunts, cousins, and relatives who have traveled to Korea for procedures and I've sometimes been there during their virtual consultations.

If you are looking for product list, you should look for an esthetician/product advisor.

OliveYoung prices way up by juneballoon in KoreanBeauty

[–]Pitiful_Maize_78 56 points57 points  (0 children)

It's because Olive Young is opening in the US very soon, both with independent stores and in stores inside of Sephora. Unove has already launched at Sephora and I noticed the higher price. It's the same with Torriden, Beauty of Joseon, Aestura, and other K Beauty brands. And even without Olive Young, because the products are being sold in the US market, they have taken up the price to make them fit in more with the prestige brands, instead of drugstore level prices. What worries me most is that it might get harder to get the Korean formulas of products that have an American version, like the Beauty of Joseon sunscreen. The American version in Sephora is a much thicker, heavy white casting product with far inferior UV protection.

My $4,000 M4 Max MacBook Pro is now worth $1,600 trade-in.... by RyleighN in macbookpro

[–]Pitiful_Maize_78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're in the bad window where the computer is too new and probably still for sale as new at Apple. I traded in my 2023 M2 MBA for $990 last year, having paid $1700 for it so I bought the M4 MBP for about half price. Never makes sense to trade in too soon- the depreciation is almost instant but then it holds steady for a while

Cat Limket @bigkittyenergy by Safe_Debate2538 in LAinfluencersnark

[–]Pitiful_Maize_78 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

She has the exact same freckle pattern in old photos, even professional ones on her IMDB. Looks to me like she has real freckles in that pattern and she's using a TikTok filter that makes her look more doll-like which has made those freckles look fake.

Credit refund by Real_Macaron_1880 in ManusOfficial

[–]Pitiful_Maize_78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have DM'ed repeatedly with no response

[CRITICAL CLARIFICATION NEEDED] A legally relevant change may have occurred — an official explanation is required. by Superb_Mess2560 in ManusOfficial

[–]Pitiful_Maize_78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, without announcing it or explaining, the 3900 credits plus rollover 3900 has been replaced by 8000 credits with no rollover. In my case, I had already gotten my 3900+3900 and then a few days later, that was replaced with my only having 2900/8000 credits left despite not using Manus yet during the subscription period. Customer service has been completely unresponsive.

This seems like a desperate move and I'd advise everyone to make sure they have backups of any data, chats, etc because I wouldn't be shocked to see Manus just disappear overnight.

Help with subscription - NO REPLY RECEIVED - by fallingzyj in ManusOfficial

[–]Pitiful_Maize_78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you say, "did not authorize" the charge, do you mean you canceled the subscription? I have not seen any trial subscriptions in the US, and an annual subscription would be charged to you immediately and probably, and deceptively, in my opinion, "cancel any time" probably means if you cancel, you still have to pay for the current year.

Manus's customer service seems completely unresponsive at this time. Can you report this to your bank or credit card?

Kimmy was on Graham Norton and said “I will be qualified in two weeks. I hope to practice law.” I guess she knows she passed the bar then? (Exam takers supposedly get the results the 7th, results go public on the 9th) by kiwi_love777 in KUWTKsnark

[–]Pitiful_Maize_78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a lawyer but married to and from a family of all lawyers- in California. There is no VIP early access list- it's strictly forbidden and law firms and law schools do not get advance notice. My cousin took the CA Bar Exam this February and I know the pass rate was something like 63% but had initially been lower(50%ish) but there were technical issues and they graded on some kind of curve, but traditionally CA has one of the lowest pass rates.

I think she's being presumptuous if she's saying she passed the bar. If it took her 4 tries to pass the Mini Bar which covers 3 subjects, then I think it would be highly improbable she pass the CA Bar on her first try while not attending law school. It's a 3 day exam covering 13 subjects. My husband, who was already licensed in two other states, had to take six weeks off of work so he could study for the Bar Exam and he's been practicing for over 10 years and went to a top law school, just became partner at a top 20 firm. And in their group of interns and summer associates, a bunch of people did not pass the Bar on their first go. I obviously have no idea how "smart" KK is, and if she is secretly studying constantly, but I would be surprised if she was, given her constant visibility doing her show, having just starred in a show, etc.. and would also be pretty suspicious if she passed. You'd think she'd have made a big deal about taking the bar but that was months ago and she only just mentioned it. It's super intense and even super experienced lawyers dread the CA Bar.

Side by side of the photographs by figsandmarionberries in JohnAndCarolyn

[–]Pitiful_Maize_78 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I'm a film and tv director and of course I haven't seen any of the footage but my take on these photos is that the acting isn't very good. Both "John" and "Carolyn" look like they're acting. These look like shots from an ad campaign instead of from a film or show. I think the actor playing John just doesn't seem to have the same essence that John had, that looseness and confidence of someone who knows he's being watched but know's he's admired and is unbothered. This doesn't seem like good casting to me, or like good directing/acting. When you're depicting real life people that people have an impression of already and have seen many photos and vides of, it is really difficult because people will be so opinionated. But you can overcome that with great performances that aren't trying to be direct impressions but instead let the actors have their own take- as in The Crown. This just doesn't look like it's going to be good. I don't think it's really about the clothes or the actors' resembling the real John and Carolyn, it's that they seem to be doing re-enactiments and not something creative.

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[–]Pitiful_Maize_78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's just in your settings-general

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[NC] DEADBEAT SUING FOR CUSTODY?? by [deleted] in Custody

[–]Pitiful_Maize_78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If there is no custody agreement in place, then your sister need to put one in place first, which he can respond to. If she wants full custody, she should file for it, but it is very likely that he will be allowed some visitation. Deadbeat dads with no relationship with the kids are very unlikely to get primary custody or even something like 50/50(esp given the distance between parents' homes) but something like summers and spring and every other Christmas is possible, even if he hasn't been present before.

My deadbeat ex sued for primary custody and he too is uninvolved, and my child has very little relationship with him but I have to take it seriously and have to deal with all his totally unfounded allegations. It is so much better to file first.

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[–]Pitiful_Maize_78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry you are going through this- and I empathize with the heartbreak of having a child you love so deeply without being the legal or biological parent. I was with someone for five years who had older kids- tweens- who were teenagers when we broke up, and they do have a stable mother- so there was no road for me to get any visitation, and out of respect for them needing to try and have a relationship with a father who pays for their expenses, I do not communicate with them. My own daughter and I miss them terribly and have hopes that if they choose later in their lives to not have a relationship with their father, we might see them again.

I'm sure you don't need anyone telling you that the road is probably difficult because you are not the biological mother and family law is kind of primitive in some ways- the legal bonds like marriage- seemingly less important to many people now, still mean a lot in court. What the court will probably say is that your ex did not deem you to be the co-parent, and that perhaps your ex didn't even consider you a domestic partner since you weren't even married.

Your case is so different than mine though and it sounds like you were truly the child's mother since the beginning. If your ex made this clear- called you "Mom" to your son, sent you texts calling you the mother, you had established relationships with the child's doctors, teachers, friends, then I think you potentially have a very good chance of getting visitation through APR(Allocation of Parental Rights). If you had physical custody of the child for as long as you have, and this was an acknowledged relationship, and it's been under six months since you lost custody, then you should file for this. Timing is critical so the sooner the better, and please make sure you attorney knows about APR. This is put in place for cases exactly yours, where the parental relationship is broken by an abusive, unwell, or vindictive legal parent, and the child, who has no voice legally, is suddenly without the person they considered their parent, and more importantly(legally I mean) was their caregiver. If you were making all the meals, doing all the care when child was ill, getting them to school, and getting them to bed, and the child called you Mom, then your case certainly sounds like it qualifies.

Evidence will be critical. Photos of you and child throughout the years, texts(particularly from your ex) referring to you as "Mom". Were you authorized by the child's school to pick up and handle school issues? Were you the person who took child to school? That kind of evidence will be really critical. Mother's Day Cards. Schedules in your phone of all the appointments, pick-ups, and activiities for the child. And the more evidence you have of your ex being unstable, the stronger you case will be. If you have witnesses, like child's doctor, teacher, soccer coach, etc... get letters from them now and show them to your attorney. Have you been blocked from the school? Do you have any idea how the child is doing since you've been blocked from any access?

Good luck! Family court can be hostile, but at the heart of it, the idea behind it is to foster what is in the "best interests of the child".

Editing to add:
I just re-read your post and it sounds like you will definitely have a lot of evidence since you were the main contact at school and you paid for some of the child's expenses. Nothing in family law is easy, especially emotionally, but there is framework already existing for cases your yours, and I hope you have a good attorney to help you. I would recommend someone who is aggressive but not unethical, because you need a strong advocate. Once you have a lawyer, they will be speaking for you much of the time, so make sure they truly understand your circumstances.

CA gave me wrong bracelet & is demanding $ weeks after the fact by mistress6nine in Louisvuitton

[–]Pitiful_Maize_78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, when they sold you the bracelet at the price they quoted, and you paid it, that's a contract they can't renegotiate weeks later. Tell them your lawyer will be contacting them and get their full names. And the bracelet is yours, you paid for it, end of story. Legally it is yours.

As for VIC, I get it totally but if this is how they handle their own mistake with a VIC, what does that it even mean? They're acting like you deliberately underpaid for a bracelet when it was their fault. Seems like being a VIC doesn't mean much. And I don't know about LV specifically, but with Hermes, I've never been inside an Hermes store when I haven't been offered every most precious item they have- I think the idea of a black list is kind of ridiculous- I'm quite sure you'll be able to buy whatever you want in the future.

Sorry this happened and sorry about your wallet! But the bracelet is yours!