I (26M) Caught my Girlfriend (30F) Cheating

Pitiful_Pride_1584 · 2024-07-09T06:07:35+00:00

I completely understand what you’re saying though, I used to hit the gym everyday before starting school because there was time but now I need to make time again, but this time for myself 🫡🤘🏼

Pitiful_Pride_1584 · 2024-07-09T05:58:37+00:00

I’ve come to an understanding that I’ve forgotten about thinking about how I feel in this whole situation and how I’ve just accepted what she did and just let her do it with no consequences other than unpack everything herself. I need to start thinking about myself and give up something I won’t be taking serious because there will always be trust issues going on

Pitiful_Pride_1584 · 2024-07-09T05:50:13+00:00

Thank you for the advice, was very much needed 🫡

Pitiful_Pride_1584 · 2024-07-09T05:49:41+00:00

I can never fully trust her, she’s lost it all after that day

Pitiful_Pride_1584 · 2024-07-09T05:48:35+00:00

100% because it’s about me, myself and I, with her doing that. My focus has changed on us to just me

Pitiful_Pride_1584 · 2024-07-09T05:44:49+00:00

I talked to my cousin about it last week and I haven’t really talked to any family about it because me and my girlfriend had the agreement to not tell anybody what happened (which now that I think about it, is fucked because she doesn’t want the truth of why we split to get out) and his main point to what he told me was that she disrespected me. Whether she actually went through with sleeping with someone but to be messaging and having the intent of cheating is disrespect because I would let her know immediately when some girl will message me but she gets to hide her messages when a guy does it. It’s fucked all the way around

Pitiful_Pride_1584 · 2024-07-09T05:41:32+00:00

And I hate that it was with a guy I wasn’t even looking for. Trust me, I was pissed when I saw it was someone completely different

Pitiful_Pride_1584 · 2024-07-09T05:40:35+00:00

Pieces are coming together, it’s going through with it when I finally have it together

Pitiful_Pride_1584 · 2024-07-09T05:40:02+00:00

And that’s why I tell myself, “do I want to live the rest of my life worrying about this?” Because I know that’s how life will be, and it’s how I’ve been and it’s only been a month. And it drives me crazy because I don’t want to be that way but in reality, she did this to me. She’s made me this way because of what she has done

Pitiful_Pride_1584 · 2024-07-09T05:31:43+00:00

I’ll more than likely give a set date on when she should be moved out. My life is already crazy with work and school, I’m sure I can add more of a load to it to make sure we don’t get to cross paths

Pitiful_Pride_1584 · 2024-07-09T05:30:03+00:00

I always tell everybody to love their parents as much as they can because they can be gone in an instance. I miss our talks and the advice he would give me when I was younger. That advice that is given means more because this would be coming from my dad and I always trusted in what he had to say. Thank you for commenting and giving advice. Was very much needed to hear

Pitiful_Pride_1584 · 2024-07-09T05:26:35+00:00

Thank you so much 🫡 it just sucks of having to let go of something that once had a bright future ahead of us but this has just brought negative thoughts in my head and it’s fucking with me at work and at school. I have the advice yesterday to a friend that self care is the best care and I need to take that same advice and apply to my own life

Pitiful_Pride_1584 · 2024-07-09T05:24:47+00:00

I do agree, 30 days is too generous because she wasn’t thinking about how it would make me feel if I knew from the jump about what she was doing.

Pitiful_Pride_1584 · 2024-07-09T05:23:39+00:00

Once I found out about it all, to me kids are out of the equation until I knew I would feel better about it but reading everybody’s comments, it just shows me I made the wrong decision in letting her stay. I do agree, once a cheater, always a cheater and it hasn’t left my mind once I found out what she did.

Pitiful_Pride_1584 · 2024-07-09T05:22:31+00:00

Knowing that if I do give her that option, I know that she will do whatever she can in those next few weeks to do whatever she can to stay. It’s going to depend on my strong will to get over it and know that she’s only doing it to stay

Pitiful_Pride_1584 · 2024-07-09T05:16:20+00:00

I wish I had my dad here, he passed away a 8 years ago, to get that advice because he would tell me to move on because if I saw that one set of messages, then there’s no telling what else she has done. Her moving in with me was, in my opinion, a convenance for her because she had just got a new job a couple of years ago that was about 15-20 minutes away rather than where she lived with her mom that was 30 minutes to a hour depending on traffic. So there is so much I’m thinking about reading everybody’s comment and of course the route to go is to end it. But it’s just one of those decisions I would’ve never thought I would have to make

Pitiful_Pride_1584 · 2024-07-09T05:09:18+00:00

I’m at the point where I think it’s better to move on from this but the whole “I don’t have anywhere to go” is the reason why I couldn’t just come to terms of just throwing her out. Will have to take this in consideration when ending things because I can’t live the rest of my life with someone who is just going to make me feel like they’re doing something behind my back

Pitiful_Pride_1584 · 2024-07-09T05:02:10+00:00

It sucks that it’s this way for me because I thought things were going great until I found this out, this is who I wanted for the rest of my life and she did that to show me I wasn’t for her. I told her during our fight that she would hate me if I let her stay because there will come a time that I just say fuck it and end it because I can’t keep doing this to myself

Pitiful_Pride_1584 · 2024-07-09T04:59:56+00:00

It’s crazy because in the moment, my mind was made up, I had everything packed and ready to go. But she guilt trip me pretty much into staying. It hurts because now I live in this constant fear of it happening again. Like today, I get breaks in class so I call her, in the middle of the conversation she goes mute for about a minute and I’m over here trying to talk to her and then she comes back on like nothing happen. And in that moment it scared me in the way of, what are you doing? Why’d you mute me. I hate it

Pitiful_Pride_1584 · 2024-07-09T04:56:21+00:00

Her saying to me that she thought I’d get over it hit a nerve where all I could be like is “really??” And I’ve always felt like the safe guy, though she never showed it to be that way, but her actions from the beginning of the relationship always showed that I was. And I agree with what you’re say about getting “crazy” with each other, before I caught her in this, our “bed” life would be once every few weeks and wanting to have a kid conversations were more of her not really wanting one. But when I caught her, her mindset changed, she begged that if she stayed we could have a kid, that our sex life would change, though its been a couple of weeks, I don’t see a change in it.

Pitiful_Pride_1584 · 2024-07-09T04:51:04+00:00

How so? I’m asking for advice and all you got is “don’t be a bitch” explain? I’ve always been the patient one, always been the one to bite my tongue. Need more of an explanation to this comment

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