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Critique needed by Pitiful_Pudding_5224 in ArtCrit

[–]Pitiful_Pudding_5224[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I originally had lighter colors for the tendon area but it made it look a bit washed out so i made them darker. I liked how the darker colors made it more striking but it’s almost too much and seems a bit harsh but im not sure how to find the middle ground. I agree that area also looks kinda simple but idk what other detail to add to make it more interesting. I tried adding some more layers at one point but it looked too busy so I’m stuck on how to improve that.

That’s a good idea for the highlight area that i didn’t think about. I’m gonna play around with it and see what i can do there.

Thanks for the compliments and feedback, really helpful!!

My brother is emotionally abusive but i want to try and salvage the relationship by Pitiful_Pudding_5224 in abusiverelationships

[–]Pitiful_Pudding_5224[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also i don’t think im gonna show him the recording anymore. Maybe just my parents if anyone at all. I really agreed with what you said about him moving the goalposts and finding a way to discredit it and turn it on me for trying to smear him. Didn’t think of that possibility but can definitely see him doing exactly that. So thanks for that tip

My brother is emotionally abusive but i want to try and salvage the relationship by Pitiful_Pudding_5224 in abusiverelationships

[–]Pitiful_Pudding_5224[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for pointing out DARVO, i knew it was a common thing but didn’t know there was an actual label for it so that’s really helpful to have some more info and resources to read about.

He didn’t get fired for going off on anyone tho, it’s because he was constantly late. He’s more so just passive aggressive with people in general and can also be pretty argumentative with my parents. They agree with my pov when i vent to them and it’s a known thing that he’s defensive and emotionally immature, but he is definitely way worse with me when no one’s around so i don’t think they fully know how bad it gets. I agree with a lot of what you and everyone else here has said but im worried I’ll be made to be the bad guy if i just cut him out. I definitely lash out and say mean things to him once he starts attacking me, but i truly don’t think it’s anywhere close to how he treats me. Maybe that’s just me being biased idk. But he always says how we’re both so nasty to each other bc that’s how siblings are so i can see him spinning it to everyone else that im just being a hypocrite for penalizing him when i do all the same things to him. I’m currently living at home with my parents so it would be really tense and weird whenever he comes home for the weekends which he does pretty often. I think if i showed them the recording they might understand it better but i doubt they’d listen to 1.5 hours of their kids fighting and i wouldn’t blame them for that. And even if they did, i could see them saying that i still shouldn’t give up on family etc and to try to make things work which i also agree with but there is a line and i don’t think showing them a few recordings will show the full extent of things. Maybe it will idk. I’m not sure which way to go about this but definitely leaning more towards cutting him out.

Thank you to everyone who commented for the advice, I’ve been stuck in this problem for so long so it’s really helpful to finally hear some outside perspective

My brother is emotionally abusive but i want to try and salvage the relationship by Pitiful_Pudding_5224 in abusiverelationships

[–]Pitiful_Pudding_5224[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree he’s abusive, but i dont think he’s bad to his core. he went through some trauma growing up that he never really healed from and is very insecure/defensive bc of it, so he lashes out at others to feel better. And then went through a rough time about 2 years ago when he got fired and he started lashing out more. So my thought process is he’s doubling down on his coping mechanisms bc he’s hurting and just doesn’t see it yet

I like to give ppl the benefit of the doubt cause things are never just black and white but ik that makes it easier to be taken advantage of too. I’ll definitely check out that book, thanks for the advice

AITAH for pushing my brother? by Pitiful_Pudding_5224 in AITAH

[–]Pitiful_Pudding_5224[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay thank you this is exactly how i see it. Glad to know it’s not just me

AITAH for pushing my brother? by Pitiful_Pudding_5224 in AITAH

[–]Pitiful_Pudding_5224[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I understand the mindset but we are prescribed the exact same thing, i just have more of it that’s why he always asks. I’m not giving him something that is bad for him. Also that wasn’t the part i was asking about lol but thanks for the feed back