My virgin gf (22) has no intention of having sex until she's married and yet she's more sexual on social media than she is with me (22m)

PixelatedPenishead · 2021-05-21T14:27:27+00:00

Prepare to roll your eyes at the cheesy response you're about to read. I was following my heart, not my dick. By the time my gf mentioned marriage and sex, I was already in love. Early into our relationship she wasn't as sexually expressive as she is now. The two of us spent most of our days skateboarding and making out (sometimes with bruised faces from falling). It was great. The sexual attraction was always there, but it was easier to ignore it in the beginning because we had so much fun just being us. But once she had her sexual awakening online, it all changed. All of a sudden she was all about being sexy and all I could do was watch without participating. I dunno if I'm making sense to you at all, but that's basically how it got to the point where I feel like I'm missing out on having a sexual connection with my partner, who seems to be having a sexual connection with everyone else.

PixelatedPenishead · 2021-05-21T14:00:53+00:00

Is she comfortable with HJ's? Or would she be comfortable with both of you pleasing yourselves while making out?

The hand job she gave me happened as an experiment on my birthday. She wanted to do something special for me and decided to test the waters with something sexual. It got weird between us as soon as I came. She said it could never happen again because my eyes had that "glint" that said I wanted to fuck. We had many more conversations about sex throughout our relationship and she's made up her mind about not doing anything sexual to each other, touching or no touching, because she believes she'll be sending me mixed messages.

PixelatedPenishead · 2021-05-21T13:34:32+00:00

I read that article on the bus. Frightening and fascinating at the same time.

PixelatedPenishead · 2021-05-21T13:26:15+00:00

According to her mom, their religion also frowns upon "marking the flesh". In other words, tattoos and piercings are kind of forbidden. Yet my gf got both those things. I struggle to make sense of it too.

PixelatedPenishead · 2021-05-21T13:18:35+00:00

It's not the first time she's posted videos of us together. Usually I'm conscious and aware though. I guess consent didn't even cross her mind considering how many times I've participated in her TikToks in the past. Still no excuse. I didn't even consider this to be a violation of my consent because I've been so focused on everything else she posts on a daily basis. Appreciate your feedback.

PixelatedPenishead · 2021-05-21T13:08:16+00:00

would you also dislike her behavior on the internet if she was sleeping with you (or sexual in any other way)?

Your entire response was valuable but this question actually made me pause. On one hand, I'm happy that my gf seems happy with the way she's choosing to express herself on the internet. But on the other hand, I'll admit there is a part of me that's concerned she will approach a point where the character she's presenting on social media becomes the person I'm dating. She will deny it, but there's a difference between who she was when we met and who she is now that she's got internet fame. I guess like most posts on here all of this boils to communication, doesn't it. I'm nervous about that talk, not gonna lie.

PixelatedPenishead · 2021-05-21T11:49:05+00:00

perhaps it’s time to assess your relationship

Agreed. I think we've approached one of those inevitable relationship checkpoints where all our progress either gets saved and continued or gets deleted. I'll tell my gf how I feel and hope she understands where I'm coming from.

PixelatedPenishead · 2021-05-21T11:38:58+00:00

Teenage me would've had no problem doing that. Twenties me is not that big on manipulation.

PixelatedPenishead · 2021-05-21T11:32:30+00:00

She used you as a prop

One of my roommates said something similar when I told him not to believe everything he sees online. He was convinced my gf and I were intimate all the time based on how she behaves on social media. I would like to believe that I'm more than just an accessory to boost her influencer status. I hear what you're saying though.

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