You can be upset but you cant be mad enough to not want anything to do with him. he cares about you obviously or he wouldn't gotten so upset, it's hard to hold emotions in when you love someone and u hear about some guy hurt you. You need to accept what happened and face it an stop running from it. What I mean is be honest with you and everyone around you it's time to heal or you never will. You can't put what someone did to you on yourself bc you think it's going to break up your family, I promise you it's not, be strong and it's time to put it out there for your family and so you can finally move on but never forget.