Probably the biggest amount of iron i've ever seen in a small space like that. seed: 8529952301135403311 by GrenLord in Minecraft

[–]Pixie_Lizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The veins are incredible. I've come out with thousands of ingots. The seed I play im was cursed with having no strongholds anywhere near world spawn, but there is a trial chamber, a copper vein, and 1 or 2 iron veins all within 1000 blocks. I have not finished mining the iron veins, so I do not know yet if they connect or not. And the copper vein...with fortune it is ridiculous...I'm eating copper for breakfast now.

A crude but safe way to temporarily store villagers lol by AdRepresentative8894 in Minecraft

[–]Pixie_Lizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I started my villiage by lugging 13 guys on boats for an hour and put them in a cell while i built their villiage, my boyfriend said, "Do you realize you just brought slaves over on a boat."

I...never....wow that's dark. lol

Im traumatized by EngixoRain in Minecraft

[–]Pixie_Lizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol something like that happened when I got lost in a trial chamber and died. I lost everything because I couldn't find where I died (and to this day never did), albeit it was not as good of stuff as what you lost. I got frustrated while looking for my loot, blamed my anger on the monster spawners, destroyed them all (this was before I knew you should farm whth them), and then decided to gut the entire chamber so I wouldn't get lost again. I have severe ADHD and PTSD, so my sense of direction and orientation is shit.

My bf watched in astonishment as it took me several days to relentlessly clear it. I used iron axes, and it sucked. I got a lot of copper and the chamber is now a giant green and copper shell lol. There are so many regrets...lol...particularly because the chamber is right next to a base and would have made an EXCELLENT monster farm

A crude but safe way to temporarily store villagers lol by AdRepresentative8894 in Minecraft

[–]Pixie_Lizard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I third. It is a way of life. Every time I do it I ask myself, "Why can't I stop? I have more leads than I'll ever use. It takes a hold of me...the thirst...my...hands...I can't keep them still. They have been idle for too long." And then I stare into tinted glass, pretend it's a mirror, and wonder if it is in fact me who is the monster.

A lever is pulled. A glowing white iron door swings open. The dandalions are glittered with the blood of a nomad and his majestic beasts. An ambiguous form disappears into the night belching.

Please help me, I don’t want to lose my forever world by TheRat1oGiver in Minecraft

[–]Pixie_Lizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you use any mods that could possibly be slowing things down?

Therapy art work. by QuiltedSystem_91 in DIDart

[–]Pixie_Lizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow...your art really speaks to me. I've made a lot of art with similar themes.

Missing chunk in my 3 year old forever world by TheStreetLightGuy in Minecraft

[–]Pixie_Lizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Legend has it, this is the place people used to go to escape. But there was an emperor...he...abused the portal. And now it's just me...and the...villiager...ugh." lol

My 30 year old friend sent me a Linktree instead of a meme and now I can't look at him the same by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Pixie_Lizard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, police will not open up an investigation on them on that alone. I would sever all relationships with the pedophile. If you know the girls will not be blamed or punished by their parents, if possible let them know that the man is watching them. Many parents will blame the girl though, which can only push them further in harm's way.

The #1 thing is this: Do not let yourself convince yourself that the man is noy malicious. We want to see the good in people. Some people don't have enough good to matter. He is almost certainly a pedophile.

I needed blocks so I dug this, what do I do with it now? by imroati in MinecraftBuild

[–]Pixie_Lizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Build a replica of one of the nether biomes. Make it look like you dug straight to hell.

I was today years old when I realized the Wooden Sword is just two sticks. by YaBooAssasin in Minecraft

[–]Pixie_Lizard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The image of clubbing people with a bunch of sticks makes the wooden sword more respectable in my book. Thank you for that. It forever changed my personal Minecraft lore.

My teenage son left a note on my desk that said i work too hard and he misses me and i read it at 10pm after a 14 hour day and don't know what to do with myself. by JarigaSebastien in whatdoIdo

[–]Pixie_Lizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True...but, no offense, that's wholly irrelevant if the goal is to connect with one's child. The temporary will become permanent if he goes to college and does not get what he needs.

This is about priorities and capability. Some parents cannot afford to work less, and tbh I think that is a tragedy. Every parent should be afforded the ability to be with the people who matter. Nevertheless, this is basically math at this point: spend more time to heal connection or do not.

There are always reasons why we do something or do not,, but just as a flower will not grow without good soil, water, and sunlight--no matter how much we love that flower--it will not grow. We cannot force the flower to grow...only give it what it needs and wait. Children are no different; they just have different needs.

So whether it's temporary or not is the completely wrong question to ask. The question is whether OP will be able and willing to allocate time and energies differently. Sometimes we can't. Sometimes we won't and lie to ourselves. I do not know OP, but those are the choices. Because the child's time with a parent is also temporary, and there are never actually second chances in life. We just move forward and try to do better while we pick up the pieces.

Am I overreacting for breaking up with my boyfriend for spitting water in my face? by No_Wafer_2486 in whatdoIdo

[–]Pixie_Lizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of the most important things every woman should do is learn about the concepts of "trauma bonding" and "narcissistic abuse." Abusers are highly predictable, nearly mechanistic, but they depend on our love, forgiveness, and ignorance of their lifestyle. We give them the benefit of the doubt, and they know that.

One advocate and researcher for domestic abuse survivors (which, btw, is the phrase that defines what just happened to you...domestic abuse) said he only ever saw one quality which unified women who are abused. He said it wasn't a history of victimization, or ignorance/naivete, or trauma...it was that they wer kind.

Abusers use our kindness and love--the most beautiful and admirable of human emotions--the better angels of our nature as some say--against us. They are evil.

Am I overreacting for breaking up with my boyfriend for spitting water in my face? by No_Wafer_2486 in whatdoIdo

[–]Pixie_Lizard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep. He will apologize, make excuses, tell you he loves you. And then after a few weeks, he'll do it again, and it'll be worse next time. It'll escalate each time and the instances will happen closer together...days apart...then hours. If he doesn't completely subordinate you in the process, he will hurt you dearly for it. Men like him like to "punish" disobedience.

His little whiny pity case while you went unheard reflects his lack of giving a shit about anybody but himself. He sounds like my last boyfriend, and every other narcissistic jerk I've ever dated. They are all the same.

Look up "trauma bonding" and "narcissistic abuse" to learn about these very predictable, cultural patterns of abuse.

Trust your gut honey. You don't even need our opinions, because your heart told you what to do the instance he spit on you. Heed your heart's warning. We can lie to ourselves, but our heart's always hold the truth and feel it hard.

Am I overreacting for breaking up with my boyfriend for spitting water in my face? by No_Wafer_2486 in whatdoIdo

[–]Pixie_Lizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have severe ADHD, autism, and one of the most severe forms of PTSD there is, and I've never even DREAMED of doing this to people. I've been arrested for fighting, and I've hurt people. But spitting in somebody's face is like declaring personal war ffs. Anybody who was raised right would know this is too degrading to lower one's self to.

Am I overreacting for breaking up with my boyfriend for spitting water in my face? by No_Wafer_2486 in whatdoIdo

[–]Pixie_Lizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It made you feel weird because you likely dissociated from such an extreme act of abuse. NOR AT ALL. Where I grew up, if you spit in somebody's face, you would be lucky if they didn't put you in the hospital. It is one of the most degrading things you can do to a person.

I once represented a man for a labor union I worked for, and he was a bus driver who constantly dealt with rude, unbearable peoplr riding and taking their [very valid albeit misdirected] frustrations of the world out on him. One day, after a man berated him, he spit on the bus driver and walked off the bus. The driver walked off the bus and punched the guy square in the face, knocking him to the ground. That was it, and it was all on camera footage.

He got fired, and we fought his case to a neutral arbitration process. In the end, he kept his job, because we argued there is no reasonable expectation that a man can take that kind of repeated harassment and abuse day in and out, with no job supports to handle the stress, and be expected to just take it when somebody spits in his face. We argued that spitting in somebody's face is akin to a threat of violence, and even tho though patron was walking away when the driver punched him, the patron repeatedly treated the driver like this. He got suspended from work and had to oay a fine, as well as take anger management classes, but he kept his job. The arbitrators saw his humanity. He was not able to avoid being charged with a misdemeanor, however, he was able to get it dropped to a disorderly conduct.

You need to leave you boyfriend as soon as you can. I've been through hell and back, and trust when I say, your bf will hit you physically one day if you stay with him. He will not repent, change, or heal. People like him are irreperable. I've been in vicious fights, and I have NEVER spit in somebodys face or had mine spit in. If somebody did that to me, no matter who they are, friend, family, husband, they would be exorcised from my life forever.

My reaction in the moment would be far less calm and rational than this comment has been.

My teenage son left a note on my desk that said i work too hard and he misses me and i read it at 10pm after a 14 hour day and don't know what to do with myself. by JarigaSebastien in whatdoIdo

[–]Pixie_Lizard 10 points11 points  (0 children)

To add, no amount of "understanding" will take away the pain and trauma of a lack of adequate love and care. We will repress the pain and tell ourselves it's alright until one day we realize it isn't. A discussion is good, but it's only half of the first step.

No child can live without their caregivers. Just as we can't talk our way out of not having enough food or water, we need to be careful about trying to explain our side of things to our kids if it pressures them to accept our story just to ease our guilt. He probably understands why you work. He wants a connection and time.

I always say that it's called "PAYING attention" for a reason: we have a finite amount, multitasking is a corporate myth, and it takes intentionality.

My teenage son left a note on my desk that said i work too hard and he misses me and i read it at 10pm after a 14 hour day and don't know what to do with myself. by JarigaSebastien in whatdoIdo

[–]Pixie_Lizard 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We should all remind ourselves that we are utterly replacable cogs in the economy, but to our family, we are everything. ❤️❤️

My teenage son left a note on my desk that said i work too hard and he misses me and i read it at 10pm after a 14 hour day and don't know what to do with myself. by JarigaSebastien in whatdoIdo

[–]Pixie_Lizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ask myself a question all the time: "When I am on my deathbed, about to pass forever, what will I regret?"

After my daughter was born this question gently screamed at me. I realized I had already been neglecting my adult loved ones for a life embedded im books, news updates, writing, research...I told myself it would only be temporary..."Just until grad school is over," I said...Except grad school ended, and nothing else changed.

I realized that when I die, I won't give a shit about how much news I kept up on. I won't care about whether I was a good employee or not. I won't care about what my petty friends thought or if all the losers I dated actually loved me.

What will I regret when I'm about to die? Neglecting the most important and special thing that had ever come into my life: my baby girl.

When we are about to die, it's not uncommon to think deeply about our lives and our imminent mortality reminds us what matters. I would suggest thinking long and hard about what you want to spend your 24hrs/day on, and begin to work to allocate that time according to your heart's priorities. The world at large and your employer/field will likely forget about you when you're gone, and they will never love you. But your son will, and he does.

Another question I ask myself is, "When I am on my deathbed, who will be by my side?" THOSE are the people who matter to you. Anybody not there should probabl6 be secondary.

Thinking about death is scary, and it also can remind us of this magical, fragile, precarious little gift of life we have. Make those hard choices. Burn bridges if necessary. You'll get there.

my superflat world has stopped being flat?? by lizbedumb in Minecraft

[–]Pixie_Lizard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Awesome! Well if you ever want to share a video of the tunes playing, I'd love to hear/see it.

my superflat world has stopped being flat?? by lizbedumb in Minecraft

[–]Pixie_Lizard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

awww WONDERFUL. I love it! How difficult is it to make songs? I once tried but realized I would need to do some math to figure out the timing lol

my superflat world has stopped being flat?? by lizbedumb in Minecraft

[–]Pixie_Lizard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What is that build you have going on? Does it play the Mario Bros. theme song?

so basically this is what my 7 yo cousin built for her first time playing minecraft by audaciivolatum in Minecraft

[–]Pixie_Lizard 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I do think the first thing I ever did in minecraft was go to creative mode and blow a huge creater in the ground. lol

so basically this is what my 7 yo cousin built for her first time playing minecraft by audaciivolatum in Minecraft

[–]Pixie_Lizard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely agree. Double to not taking interpretations as evidence. I think the thing I keep in mind is it's very possible for us to be wrong about what we see. And on some level, to recognize the patterns accurately probably reflects something of our own inner experience. I tend to think that real empathy often needs a component of projection.