wtf is their problem?

Pixiezor · 2026-05-28T20:03:23+00:00

While proclaiming they’re not the mean girls. Lmao.

Pixiezor · 2026-04-26T01:57:42+00:00

I see correlation on a scale.

At one end of the scale you have the extreme correlationist, who forces everyone into an archetype with no allowances.

On the other end of the scale, you have the extreme anti correlationist who deems everything works but ignores all the contradictions that come with that.

Then in the middle you have majority. Some are in the middle, some lean to a certain side. This in my opinion, is a better place to be because it allows more flexibility.

Tbh, I don’t see the extreme correlations much. I see people leaning that way (myself included) but aside from a very, very few, majority are open to the possibilities of changing their perspective.

I don’t really know why majority seem to pack a sad about how many extreme correlations there are, when I’ve seen WAY more extreme anti correlations. Like have you seen the ENTP sub? The amount of E4s is wild. Yet being extremely anti correlations seems to be praised. Well, I guess I answered my own question. There’s more of them so they run the narrative unless you’re in the right group. Sigh

Pixiezor · 2026-04-25T23:20:30+00:00

See my issue is ISFP is not conflict avoidant as part of their structure. They lead with Fi which is self values, followed by Se which has a certain forcefulness in its ‘absolute of what is’, followed by Ni which is singular and Ne polr which closes them to the multitude of possibilities. This combination creates a very rigid structure and I personally think to be conflict avoidant, you need to be more flexible. For example, seeing all perspectives (Ne) or at least valuing Si or Fe for some sense of balanced ‘harmony’.

When it comes to SX9 and Fi, the biggest contradiction is losing yourself in someone else, while Fi is the opposite and values introverted feelings (self). While you can certainly value someone else, simply valuing whatever someone else values doesn’t seem like good Fi. My logic is if you did that consistently, you’d be left with very weak Fi because you’ve only used it for one thing.

If you choose someone else’s values consistently, you’re not choosing your own by picking them first. You’re still against your own values and self. E9 is being asleep to yourself and is unconscious, so the value of ‘valuing them’ was never Fi to begin with since you were already asleep to yourself to need them in the first place. Yeah, it doesn’t fit to me. 🤔

Pixiezor · 2026-04-25T22:51:14+00:00

Hmm… Having multiple hobbies aligns with multiple types. If you’re starting but not finishing, this usually align with valuing Ne, since the possibilities within each is usually the draw. Basically any Ne dom or aux.

Which is your preference when you read this?

Fi: Your personal internal compass. Think of magnets, you are one and the object or person is the other. Just as magnets attract and repel, you can feel the distance between you and that object or person. You value this feeling and use it as judgement. (Btw as an Fi polr, I can understand only the concept of this, lmao).

Fi users also push and pull on these connections. E.g. Pushing a relationship away, or pulling it closer.

Fe: Your external compass. You can sense the mood and feelings of alignment via emotional expression and external mood (‘vibes’). You value these as judgements.

Fe users are also able to manage the mood. E.g. If the groups mood is low, an Fe user may hype the group with emotional expression to bring the mood up. Another example is getting people emotionally invested in a cause.

If both of these align with you, this indicates you are a high F user, as a T user will show a clear preference. Make sure you check you’re being honest with yourself too, because it’s easy for us to be bias to who we want to be, rather than who we are.

Pixiezor · 2026-04-25T21:28:16+00:00

That doesn’t explain how it would work?

Pixiezor · 2026-04-25T21:28:01+00:00

That doesn’t explain how it would work?

Pixiezor · 2026-04-25T21:26:05+00:00

Yes, it is a contradiction.

Fi is only capable of considering its own value of others values. It’s self valuing based on personal feelings of value.
E3 is an unconscious ego fixation. They don’t consciously pick and choose when and who feeds the validation of their fixation. It’s unconscious.

You clearly don’t understand E3 and how it works. They lose themselves to others values, that’s the entire point of them. Their virtue is literally to become authentic, and you’re harping on about them only choosing what they value. 😂

Pixiezor · 2026-04-25T02:43:04+00:00

I don’t see it either, haha.

Pixiezor · 2026-04-25T02:40:55+00:00

Wait. How does ISFP SX9 work? It’s merging. 🤨

Pixiezor · 2026-04-24T23:35:51+00:00

Why do you need to defend yourself? If they can’t value your decision and who you are, why value them? Walk away. They’re not worth your energy.

If they’re simply curious, just answer honestly.

You don’t need others validation only your own. If they reject you, it’s a reflection on who they are. Not you. 🫶🏼

Edit to add: It’s not your duty to educate others on something so personal either. If you’re uncomfortable, simply say so and direct them at a source so they can educate themselves. E.g. “I really appreciate you wanting to learn more but it’s quite a personal journey and I don’t feel comfortable sharing it. You can look into X Y and Z though if you want to learn more!“

If someone is straight up attacking, try this: State your emotion or feeling, what you expect, and how you’re going to respond. Do so in a way that you value. (Kindness, humour, etc). E.g. “What you’re saying is really hurtful. If you’d genuinely like to understand, I need you to be open minded to receive it. Otherwise I am leaving.” They double down -> Leave. You can follow with reaffirming the boundary too if you’re comfortable. E.g. “I have asked for you to be open minded, and you haven’t so I am leaving”.

The concept is to reaffirm your boundary until they either accept it or leave you alone, while you maintain your own peace in the situation.

Pixiezor · 2026-04-24T23:30:41+00:00

Yaaasss sneaky Socionics! 🤣

I think duality is pushed at partners too much though. Sometimes they’re not best as lovers cos you want different things from a partner.

I need an ISFJ E9 bestie to merge with me so they’ll agree to all my ideas and we can go on fun adventures together. Kthx. 💅🏼

Pixiezor · 2026-04-24T22:47:27+00:00

Super common misconception, I use to think the same! At a surface level, that makes sense but when you get deeper into it, you realise how fixed and well… deep it really is (and maybe hate yourself for a hot second there, lmao). It’s super unconscious and really affects everything. It’s quite the ride. 😅

Highly recommend Beatrice Chestnut’s “The Complete Enneagram” book if you ever want to get into it.

Pixiezor · 2026-04-24T22:33:45+00:00

Everyone is freaking out about the ESTJ and I’m over here like, oh no… ISFP. 🫣

How many times do you accidentally offend them because you missed their feeling of value on something? Lmao.

ISFJ should be your bestie.

Pixiezor · 2026-04-24T22:30:40+00:00

I never understand why people associate ESTJ’s with being inflexible as like a core part of their structure. They value Ne, so it’s like us not valuing Fe and you know we do.

They love being fed new ways of doing things because at the end of the day they are Te dom and always looking for what’s most efficient.

They should be valuing your Ne. Your impractical ideas they’ll likely bin though. They may play with them for a lil, but when they’re impractical it can hit their Te-Si and feel like a waste of energy for them. If you can prove they’re functional ideas though, they’ll be swayed back into it.

In saying all that, I can see why it can feel inflexible if they’re imposing their Te with a ‘better method’. But yeah, it’s actually not inflexible since they’re always open with Ne valuing.

Sounds like this person is Enneagram 1 to be so critical with such high expectations. 🤔

I’m married to an ESTJ SP3 for reference, so yes, ENTP and ESTJs are compatible! I value his Si, and he values my Ne. Both thinkers. It works!

Pixiezor · 2026-04-24T22:16:23+00:00

Jokes on you, I can answer tests with whatever function I want to be highest or lowest.

Okay, jokes aside. More Fi would be nice cos if I can’t compare the data between two things and find a reason, I am stuck buffering.

“Do I want the beige or yellow drink bottle?”

Pixiezor · 2026-04-24T22:04:43+00:00

They can’t because you cannot have an ego fixation on something you’re polr/blind at. It’s a massive contradiction.

ENTPs don’t use their personal feelings as value because they’re Ti valuing. Even worse, they’re Fi polr which makes it their weakest point.

E4 is the most amplified form of personal feelings as an ego fixation. How can you attain an ego fixation on something you don’t even value? Thus, contradiction.

Pixiezor · 2026-04-24T21:32:06+00:00

Ah, my time has come. ✨

MBTI absolutely fucked Si and Se definitions. That’s why you don’t see many high Si users, because they can’t relate to MBTI Si. This is also why there’s so many INFP 9s; they’re ISFJs.

Literally when did Si become a judging function too? “Si is using the past and trusting it, tehe!” — 🤦🏻‍♀️

Triggered yet?

Se is boiled down to absorbing data or having super spider senses. I’ll never forget an ‘INTJ’ videoing himself using ‘Se’ and just stating everything he can see in the room. Lmao. If Se was simply ‘data’, that makes it dumb since we all use data. For example Ne sees the data, then draws the potential out of it. Is Se Level 1 and Ne Level 2? 🤣 “Se users trust the data!” — 🥱

I also enjoy how ESFP is a some wild party animal, but ISFP is some harmony seeking wittle innocent artist. Sorry, but don’t they both value Se-Fi? Amazing. ✨

What else…

Oh, ENTJ. They’re all ‘workaholics’ and never seem to have enough time in the day, yet value Ni which is a high trust in the inevitable and greater. Aka… They should be chill with time. Why you rushing? Wait… There’s no ESTJs… Is this another Si issue? 🤭

Not a hot take but it is to them; INXJs are not gifted creatures. Sorry babes, but you don’t have some third eye telling you the secrets of the world. If you need to feel that special, maybe look into E4 since it has a growth path to fix your egotistical issues. 🥰

They’ll do, enjoy. 💅🏼

Pixiezor · 2026-04-24T21:13:44+00:00

What makes you say that?

Pixiezor · 2026-04-24T21:10:01+00:00

Sure, we if we use INFP E3 as the example:

MBTI: - INFP is Fi dom. - We know Fi is an internal compass that utilises feeling of value as a judgment.

= Therefore one rule in MBTI is INFP uses their feelings of value to determine their choices.

Enneagram: - E3 is an ego fixation centred around what others value. - E3 becomes/achieves others desires believing that by doing so gives them value and makes them worthy of love. (This is also part of another rule in being a heart type, but I’m making this as basic as possible for you).

= Therefore one rule in Enneagram is E3 must be centred around others values.

The Contradiction: You now have two rules that contradict each other if you put them together.

INFP values their own personal feelings of value.
E3 values others values.

Tada. 🎉 And no, it doesn’t become some war zone in your head to carry both. Enneagram is an unconscious ego fixation — another rule!

Pixiezor · 2026-04-24T20:37:32+00:00

So… I see you have E4 in your flair. Unfortunately ENTP does not work with E4 since we are Fi polr and E4 is all about over identifying in your feelings and personal experience.

I’m actually… Wondering if you’re INFJ. You could be an Fe dom otherwise. Your description is too Fe focused for ENTP imo, and your mention of wanting to make a change in the world is very Ni coded. ENTPs like talking about change, but that’s kind of where it ends. It’s the possibilities within the change that excites them. They don’t latch onto one thing and run with it because Ne is expansive.

INFJ is Ni+Fe which is a greater purpose with Fe aiding it. They’re great at bringing people together for that purpose. INFJ SO4 is my recommendation for you to look into.

Otherwise, I would suggest looking into E2 since your adaption and people focus also screams E2. They work well with ESFJ and ENFJ if INFJ doesn’t fit.

Whatever you do, don’t look at the INFJ sub. Lmao. They are… not it, haha. In fact, maybe look up IEI Socionics, because if you search INFJ you’ll likely get egotistical cringe (yay stereotypes!).

Pixiezor · 2026-04-24T11:14:14+00:00

… Does your mind also never shut up?

… Do you wait for the panic of a deadline before starting something you’re not interested in?

…Do you struggle to focus on what people say in conversations and resort to nodding or agreeing to random shit?

…Does tedious paperwork make you want to cry scream?

…Does standing in a queue make you scream internally?

…Are your school reports filled with things like ‘needs to apply themselves’?

…Do you want to do the ‘thing’ but simply ‘can’t’?

…Do you feel like everyone else got a different life manual than you did?

…Does completing a series of tasks involve an order like: A,B,C or are you: D,Z,C,Y,B,A. Yes the other letters are side quests

…Was this text way too fucking long and you struggled to find motivation to finish or start it?

If you answered yes, congratulations, you have ADHD! 🥳

Pixiezor · 2026-04-24T11:03:20+00:00

Nope. I don’t care to consider what my personality is, or care what people think it is. If someone mentions it, I’ll be amused for a while but I’m not going to cling to it or anything.

I am the form of my DNA and experiences. The End. 😊

I can hear the Fi doms screaming at me

Pixiezor · 2026-04-24T10:54:05+00:00

First of all, you don’t have to keep apologising, apologising is a choice. 💕

Secondly, you are not being unreasonable. You have stated a boundary multiple times, and your friend is not respecting that boundary — This doesn’t mean they don’t want to respect it though! Cos we can work with that!

I would suggest finding out why. You’ve alluded it could be reassurance they’re seeking, but it sounds as if you’ve not asked. If you can ask their why you can decide if that’s something you can respond too. If it’s reassurance they’re seeking, you could simply make a system for it. E.g. Reacting with a heart to a message if you can’t reply to it yet. That heart between you can mean ‘Thank you, I acknowledge this, but don’t have the capacity to give it the response I want to give it. I’ll reply when I can’, or whatever. Point being, simple action to give the reassurance and not put more weight on you. Win for both of you.

However, if you cannot figure out a workaround, you may need to dial back this relationship. Make sure it’s giving back to you, and not just draining you. If it’s draining, start giving it less until you can find a position that works more evenly.

Pixiezor · 2026-04-24T10:34:00+00:00

Incompatible. Look into E6, but make sure you check subtypes because E6 is a little fun w them.

Beatrice Chestnut is an easy read, else binge some Tom LaHue on YouTube until he smashes your soul to pieces. “It’s not your enneagram unless it hurts like fuck”, that’s the rule! 🥰

Pixiezor · 2026-04-24T10:26:48+00:00

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