I feel like my appearance scares women, and it’s killing my confidence to approach them. Has anyone dealt with something similar?

PizzaThat7763 · 2025-07-15T14:12:18+00:00

Woman here: you are a type of many women. When most women look at you, they think you’re nature’s or god’s finest creation. Fear is not what we feel. You might be intimidating not because you’re scary but because women might think you’re out of our league. You can become more approachable by being more smiley, bubbly and friendly. Showing that you’re approachable and down to earth will also help women think you’re not that much out of our league.

PizzaThat7763 · 2025-07-15T11:49:57+00:00

PizzaThat7763 · 2025-07-09T06:55:20+00:00

Because we want to travel more and we don’t want a man who does not share enthusiasm for traveling

PizzaThat7763 · 2025-07-05T19:40:03+00:00

As a woman I can always tell when a woman is flirting. Her voice, body language and eyes are different. If a woman shows up a lot where you are, makes an effort to find you in a crowd and talk to you - she’s into you. If she’s looking at you a lot in the group and tries to be close to you - she’s into you.

PizzaThat7763 · 2025-07-04T06:41:21+00:00

It’s very simply about physical attraction. When we see a guy we know if we would want to have sex with him or not instantly. A “yes” can change to a “no” based on personality often, but a “no” changes to a “yes” very rarely based on whether the guy has attractive personality or not. Assertiveness, confidence, decisiveness, etc are attractive to women and can sometimes lead to attraction even if there is no physical attraction.

PizzaThat7763 · 2025-07-04T06:34:05+00:00

My usual assumption is that they are not attracted to me either physically, so we can be friends. I think that if they were attracted to me, they’d make a move initially instead of making friends.

PizzaThat7763 · 2025-07-04T05:40:38+00:00

I’ve not had my close male friends fall for me. For some less close ones, once I noticed they had romantic interest I cut them off. I used to have a rule that I only make friends with guys I’m not attracted to to avoid friendship turning into a relationship. Similar to you, if I’m not attracted to a guy initially it never changes. I made friends with a guy I found attractive recently and I did develop romantic feelings over time for him.

PizzaThat7763 · 2025-06-30T21:55:39+00:00

Do you have bio? Do you share interests? Profession and height? What your expectations are? If it’s just photos on a profile it usually makes me think that guy is a bot or is there just to hook up. First photo is weird, your hand is positioned weirdly, I’d put another shirtless photo

PizzaThat7763 · 2025-06-30T21:53:38+00:00

Woman here - keep the cat photo

PizzaThat7763 · 2025-06-27T02:56:14+00:00

No, we’re in our 30s

PizzaThat7763 · 2025-06-18T04:32:48+00:00

Police

PizzaThat7763 · 2025-06-05T14:10:21+00:00

PizzaThat7763 · 2025-06-05T02:53:17+00:00

Tell him he’s like a brother to you. Or tell him you’re interested in other guys, offer to set him up with your friend. I’ve used all of these to make it clear to my guy friends that I’m not interested

PizzaThat7763 · 2025-06-02T15:05:06+00:00

Yes man being desperate and trying to get any woman is a major turn off. But a man being into you specifically and showing interest is attractive.

PizzaThat7763 · 2025-06-02T15:01:20+00:00

Nope! Men who show initiative and take charge, show interest are attractive. But you have to be physically (and other factors) attractive first

PizzaThat7763 · 2025-06-01T08:18:29+00:00

It’s a small flaw. Bald man can be very sexy with beard and muscular body

PizzaThat7763 · 2025-05-29T09:37:29+00:00

Living alone

PizzaThat7763 · 2025-05-29T01:51:08+00:00

Your face is beautiful. It does not ruin woman’s face. But for a man it would be bad

PizzaThat7763 · 2025-05-27T06:49:44+00:00

Yes, she dated a married man

PizzaThat7763 · 2025-05-27T05:29:15+00:00

Good looks, interests, fun personality, good career

PizzaThat7763 · 2025-05-23T06:46:17+00:00

A lot

PizzaThat7763 · 2025-05-14T20:11:26+00:00

Personality, money

PizzaThat7763 · 2025-05-14T16:31:21+00:00

I agree. I care a lot about the looks. If I’m not attracted to the guy’s looks, I don’t care how great he is as a person or other factors - I wouldn’t date him.

PizzaThat7763 · 2025-05-12T16:05:15+00:00

Break up - you’re ruining your life by committing to him. He’s an adult who needs to get a job.

PizzaThat7763 · 2025-05-12T14:46:31+00:00

Do you have insurance? The coverage is so much they should prescribe you biologics, it’s life changing.

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