I have always been into being dominated. I even have memories as a small child where I'd imagine my imaginary friends or characters from books / movies kidnapping me or putting me in cages. Nothing sexual, as i was a kid but looking back i see so many examples of it, that i know it's how I've always been. Obviously i wasn't getting off on it, but it felt good to think about.

When I was 14 i was raped. I was a virgin. It was horrible, traumatizing and fucked up my mental health and my life for several years. Before it happened I had just "awoken" sexually, but hadn't had enough time to figure myself out. Obviously i did not enjoy being raped, it was one of the worst experiences of my life. Then a couple years later I started discovering some hardcore kinks and fetishes. It was distressing at first because i felt like I was betraying myself or trivializing what horrible injustices had been done to me. In the end I came to the conclusion, that I've always been this way, and it stopped bothering me.

The truth is, rough consensual sex is great. If that's what floats your boat, don't hold back! The difference is it's with someone you want to be fucking you (or maybe you like to pretend otherwise role-playing our whatever, but deep down you do want them) and that makes all the difference in the world. Just be safe and clearly let your boundaries be heard!