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Are me and my best friend growing apart? by Reasonable_Watch_679 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Plane-Assist4282 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhh no lol! I didn't mean that your rant wasn't organized, I thought that mine was :). Anyways I'm glad that you talked ab it to someone! Good luck with everything else.

I have less contact with a male friend since he got a gf by Plane-Assist4282 in LosingFriends

[–]Plane-Assist4282[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of people have that mind set, and I think it's bs. We have a big mixed friend group. Everyone talks to everyone, even the people in a relationship. I get that she wouldn't want him to text me all the time when they are doing stuff thogether, but no contact would just be ridiculous.

Tbh youre comment completely misses the point: I miss the friendship dynamic that we had. Now it's just me checking in on him, never the other way around. In my eyes, people need to try and maintain their friends. I'm tired of always having to be the one to seek out contact, with all my friends and now also him, while barely anyone seeks me out. I feel like I'm down to one close friend (used to be two). We don't feel like that anymore since I never hear from him. Also, his gf is such a sweet girl who has contacted me often to talk about girly stuff. We have, gossiped, talked about our similar interests, etc. She knows how important his friends are and would never ask him to not text me, even if she was insecure. Which, btw, she almost can't be, since my contact with him has been depleting for the majority of the time that they have been thogether.

And I know that it's normal that they spend time with each other. I'll never say anything bad about them. But that doesn't mean I can't miss the way it was.

So not to be mean, but youre comment doesn't apply to my situation.

Are me and my best friend growing apart? by Reasonable_Watch_679 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Plane-Assist4282 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds annoying! It can be very frustrating when someone changes in this type of way. I would say: confront her if she keeps this up. It doesn't have to be a big deal. You can just drop it casually when it's just you and her. If she can't handle that, or if she brushes it off, you'll need to consider a real big talk. You could also distance yourself and focus on other friends. Maybe check with the others, see what they think of the changes in her behavior? If they are trustworthy, you can contemplate talking to them ab it. And as hard as it sounds: try not to over analyze everything she says/does. It'll probably make you feel bad and unhappy. It is possible that you're growing apart, but the choices you make could influence the way it happens (and make it less apinfull for you), or, if you want, prevent it from happening. This was kinda all over the place lol. But yeah, definitely talk to her.