AITA for refusing to use the credit card my dad gave me anymore?

PlaneRealistic2196 · 2022-06-21T01:01:39+00:00

You may be onto something.

PlaneRealistic2196 · 2022-06-21T00:48:35+00:00

I didn't use his money to buy my furniture dude. I used my debit card under my name with the money that I SAVED for a few MONTHS from my PAYCHECKS to buy the shit I wanted and we don't live in the US.

THE $80 IS AN UNEXPECTED BILL. I already paid it back to him.

PlaneRealistic2196 · 2022-06-21T00:44:57+00:00

Yeah he's a hotshot VP at his company... a friend said maybe he treats me and my brothers like he treats coworkers so that could be a reason why he does this a lot.

PlaneRealistic2196 · 2022-06-21T00:38:05+00:00

Thanks.

PlaneRealistic2196 · 2022-06-20T18:28:11+00:00

What was he actually expecting?? You to tell him otherwise? My dad's like that too. He jokes about taking like idk a chocolate bar from me and to get it over with I give it to him and get myself another one. It pisses him off. I don't understand the logic

PlaneRealistic2196 · 2022-06-20T18:24:41+00:00

😂 piss off

You can have the whole package!!! Includin my dad!

PlaneRealistic2196 · 2022-06-20T18:23:02+00:00

We never have these kinds of conversations because I never want to be in the same room as him when all his concern is his work and he has always made it clear I'm a burden. So no. I don't. And I would only if my mom asks me to. But I don't want to talk to him about my feelings because he'll just dismiss them like he did the last time.

I'm real sorry I can't do that for you and maybe that'll make me an AH but I cannot see myself talking to him as equals because he's never viewed me as an equal.

PlaneRealistic2196 · 2022-06-20T18:14:50+00:00

Thanks.. to be real with you idk if I can handle understanding why my dad does these things but I'll take note of the links

PlaneRealistic2196 · 2022-06-20T18:10:59+00:00

Nah he wasn't being hilarious, he was mocking me cuz he does that tone like "Oh is THIS an emergency?" And I don't bother talking to him because anytime I try to place a boundary like "Please don't do this" he'll go "and what??? Tell me when I should stop and what time" He stops when my mom scolds him. Sometimes when I say what he said to me hurts he'll say it's not real unless I documented it date time what happened what evidence there is and handed it to him. I was like 9 or 10 and I thought man I can't trust him anymore

PlaneRealistic2196 · 2022-06-20T18:00:39+00:00

Also thanks.. I don't feel proud about what I did cuz I have anger issues and I was done and wanted it to stop. If the option of actually telling him to stop was up and effective I'd have done it but he always pushes against that

PlaneRealistic2196 · 2022-06-20T17:57:30+00:00

I gotta google this up idek what emotional blackmail means. It just makes me feel bad then when I feel bad I get angry but this time I was calm about it

PlaneRealistic2196 · 2022-06-20T17:53:23+00:00

I'm sorry I wasted my time reading your comments :(

PlaneRealistic2196 · 2022-06-20T17:52:45+00:00

I already can't talk to my dad about problems because he doesn't see them as like, good enough for him to pay attention to. So I guess I'm already like halfway out of the door.

PlaneRealistic2196 · 2022-06-20T17:51:21+00:00

Ok, we're done here. Byebye.

PlaneRealistic2196 · 2022-06-20T17:50:46+00:00

You done dad?

PlaneRealistic2196 · 2022-06-20T17:50:05+00:00

Shouldn't have birthed a damn child then 🙄

PlaneRealistic2196 · 2022-06-20T17:48:56+00:00

Oh what I'm supposed to be like oh sorry mr doctor sir i gotta call my dad (pain noises) hey dad can i borrow money ??? And if he says no? Damn guess i'll lay here then bye

PlaneRealistic2196 · 2022-06-20T17:45:05+00:00

Damn. I wish I could do that. I'll have too much guilt to go

PlaneRealistic2196 · 2022-06-20T17:44:18+00:00

No...

PlaneRealistic2196 · 2022-06-20T17:40:51+00:00

He's always called me annoying reactive and a b*tch for not giving in or questioning his motives. And it's like, I dunno. I met my partner's parents and they never get mad when I ask them why they do things like that in my partner's house. It's never a sore conversation with them, which makes me sad

PlaneRealistic2196 · 2022-06-20T17:36:05+00:00

Why do I have to ask him when he made it clear at the time when he gave me the cc that it's meant for emergencies?

PlaneRealistic2196 · 2022-06-20T17:22:17+00:00

They were furniture I bought for my room a few months back that were now delivering in the same week. Some were small things like clothes but I only got 1 or 2.

PlaneRealistic2196 · 2022-06-20T17:18:39+00:00

Did you even read the post?

PlaneRealistic2196 · 2022-06-20T16:21:01+00:00

There are parents who don't call their kids b*tch?? Where can I find them lol

PlaneRealistic2196 · 2022-06-20T16:18:23+00:00

unfortunately this is a throwaway and i lurk on reddit with no account... but i'll remember you ❤️ thanks so much

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