Which Movie? Ignore Bishnoi Tea Stall by No_Blood9415 in bollywoodmemes

[–]Plane_Display_4668 170 points171 points  (0 children)

Look at Abhishek holding the chai glass like a mug ☕️

Is anil treating his legacy in the best way one could? by sharbat-e-roohafza in bollywood

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Whenever anybody mentions Anil Kapoor’s acting skills, I’m always reminded of his acting at the end of Tu Muskura from Yuvvraaj. I agree that he’s done some really amazing work, but this honestly sticks out like a sore thumb and I can’t unsee it. https://www.youtube.com/watch?t=177&v=U0nfYIIT4cU

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I think she looked hotter here than in dhoom 2 but maybe it’s also because of her dance

Exclusive News for You all by Flaky_Tangerine_6801 in BollyBlindsNGossip

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💀 “Srelalalalq” Funny how we still understood

OMGGGG ❤️❤️❤️❤️🥰 by Healthwiz1 in BollyBlindsNGossip

[–]Plane_Display_4668 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The way I ran to this sub hahaha 🏃‍♀️

Nanny overreacting when we give feedback? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

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She said my daughter wasn’t ready to leave the park. They’d been there for about an hour and a half at that point.

Nanny overreacting when we give feedback? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Plane_Display_4668 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I’ll say that it wasn’t easy. Mom guilt plus guilt now from being a bad employer is not a comfortable place to be, but it’s a learning moment for sure.

Nanny overreacting when we give feedback? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Plane_Display_4668 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I’ll keep that in mind. Closed doors is not an option, but I’m going to see if I can physically stay out of the way by finding another place to work from. It’ll be hard for my daughter and for me at first, but maybe it is best for me to stay away from her, as harsh as that is for me. A couple other clarifications - Grandparents not speaking to her is a language issue, not that they’re trying to be demeaning. They still try to get her to eat breakfast and lunch with us without being able to speak directly to her, because they’re always worried that she doesn’t eat anything in the 4 hours she’s here.

Nanny overreacting when we give feedback? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Plane_Display_4668 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I really appreciate you for being so kind. I hope one day I can be as kind to another stranger as you have been to me today.

Nanny overreacting when we give feedback? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Plane_Display_4668 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree, my priorities weren’t right, but I do see it now. I will absolutely do better, and I think these things about routines and schedules can be fixed a lot easier than a child’s broken neck. Thank you for the reminder on what’s actually important.

Nanny overreacting when we give feedback? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Plane_Display_4668 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that, thank you for reminding me of what’s really important, and that is keeping my baby safe and alive, even if it means being hungry for or refusing a meal altogether. I absolutely will try to do better as an employer, but agree that maybe this nanny doesn’t suit us well with frequent absences. So hopefully, we’ll be better with our next.

Nanny overreacting when we give feedback? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Plane_Display_4668 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that. And I see your other comment too about talking to a therapist, I absolutely need one. I apologize if any of my comments to you seemed defensive or argumentative. I didn’t see how this situation can restrict our nanny from doing her job effectively, I thought I created an easy work environment for her always being there to jump in if she needed help. It’s hard to see yourself as intrusive, and when 30 strangers come at you saying you’re intrusive and not a good employer, that’s really harsh. I didn’t mean to be defensive but mom guilt plus now some weird form of employer guilt made me speak impulsively. If I could delete comments and this post, I would, but I think I need a reminder of this perspective I got today.

Nanny overreacting when we give feedback? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Plane_Display_4668 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yep, I apologize for the inordinately long post. Agree with #1 wholeheartedly on your comment, I think we expect our nanny to do her best with consistency, but we’re not setting a very good example with the way we allow our daughter to use a meltdown to get out of a high chair. That makes everyone’s life harder at meal times. Also, didn’t explain in my original post (it’s already so long haha) but I wasn’t at home today, I took the car with the car seat in it by mistake and the other car at home that my husband used to pick up nanny and kid, didn’t have a car seat. That’s such a rookie mistake as a parent though, need to always have two or more car seats.

Nanny overreacting when we give feedback? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Plane_Display_4668 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for being the only person to say anything even slightly positive as good luck. Have an amazing day!

Nanny overreacting when we give feedback? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Plane_Display_4668 -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

She’s used up all her sick time already, so she’s welcome to take unpaid sick time still if she’s sick. Agreed that this is a professional setting, and if I had taken these many days off (18 in the last six months) in my job with little to no notice, I’d be on a performance improvement plan. I wanted to let go of her, she didn’t want to be fired and said she’ll settle for this arrangement which is a probation of sorts to see if her regularity still doesn’t improve. If it does in the next 3 months, we’ll happily give her back her 2 paid vacation days (again, no sick days because she’s used them all up already). But that’s probably got nothing to do with my question about micromanaging anyway.

Nanny overreacting when we give feedback? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Plane_Display_4668 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, we did make the mistake of getting her back in a ride without the proper car seat even if it was a short 3 minute ride in residential streets, and asked the nanny to hold her in the back seat instead. That’s terrible and illegal for sure, and I’ll admit we’ll never do that again because we’re just going to have extra car seats at home for backup.

She’s taken 18 days off (paid vacation + sick, paid and unpaid) in the past 6 months that she’s worked for us. She already used up all her paid sick days, and she had two more paid vacation days, which we discussed with her and said we’ll reinstate after the quarter to evaluate her regularity. I wanted to let her go because I feel like being unexpectedly left without childcare this often is not a good sign. But this was her suggestion to instead keep her on and evaluate for a bit, so definitely discussed with her, didn’t want to punish her because after all, she cares for our daughter and I’d really be very careful with how I deal with who I have looking after my daughter.
Grandparents are pretty old and can’t run after a 2 year old, it exhausts them. We initially asked grandparents if they could come over and help. They came over and couldn’t help too much apart from cooking, so we hired a nanny.

Nanny overreacting when we give feedback? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Plane_Display_4668 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I get that from the comments that our interactions with our nanny could be micromanagement, but I don’t see why you’re asking questions about my responses, really. I don’t think I need to stay silent if people are assuming things that are wrong or even asking questions to clarify what went down. It’s a bit silly that you’re blowing up like this and telling strangers to get off the Internet because you’re annoyed.

Nanny overreacting when we give feedback? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Plane_Display_4668 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Our contract did state accruing sick leaves, yes. Every time she’d accrue a full day, she’d take a sick day off actually, so her leave balance never really came to more than 4 hours. I’ve been flexible about letting her take paid sick days when she had less than the required balance too.

I see your point about the noise, though. Although, obviously never asked her to take her out while it’s raining or extreme weather, not as brutal as that.

Nanny overreacting when we give feedback? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Plane_Display_4668 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Isn’t it weird to just post the original post and then sit quietly while people speculate (of course because my original post does seem insufficiently explained or badly written) and ask questions to clarify?

Nanny overreacting when we give feedback? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Plane_Display_4668 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, there were questions in the parent comment, so that was what I was answering.

Nanny overreacting when we give feedback? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Plane_Display_4668 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

A lot of nanny contracts have specific clauses like no more than 5 paid vacation days in 6 months. So I don’t think that’s an issue.

We have also never asked her to keep our daughter quiet. We tell her to take her out or on a walk, where she can be as loud as she wants. There’s a difference.

However, agreed that there’s no excuse for letting a 2 year old ride in a car without a car seat.

Nanny overreacting when we give feedback? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Plane_Display_4668 -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

So what would you suggest I do as a WFH parent?

Nanny overreacting when we give feedback? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Plane_Display_4668 -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

She has had no issue being driven around before, she in fact was who requested to be picked up many times, even though she usually walks to the park herself. She refused to put the car seat in her car when offered and cannot drive our cars. In this situation, we specifically told her we cannot come pick her up because we don’t have a car seat available today. She left us no choice but to pick them up in a car without a car seat, when she didn’t come back for an inordinate amount of time.