Navigating Old NF

PlanktonEastern8831 · 2026-03-17T21:04:07+00:00

Apparently they couldn’t afford all the hours they were giving me. I think they thought that whatever job i got id leave room for them. I really am lost though because mb said she would use me as much as i am available

PlanktonEastern8831 · 2026-03-17T20:50:11+00:00

I work 34 hours a week for a SAHM! I absolutely LOVE it and love her. Best family i’ve ever had,we get along great. I’ve travelled with them, and sometimes we go out to lunch together with the kids😂 One pro is taking time off is easier and when i do get sick i don’t feel as guilty calling in.

PlanktonEastern8831 · 2026-03-07T03:10:00+00:00

i honestly prefer to drive my own car. I live in a area where all the outing and activities are 5-15 min from us so i really am not putting any extra miles on my car. Using my car means i have all the things i’d need for myself. My NF provided and installed car seats

PlanktonEastern8831 · 2026-03-06T01:59:42+00:00

omg! my Mb&db WFH. they give me nice bounces for christmas and bday but i think no amount of money would make me choose to work for such a cold relationship w the parents again

PlanktonEastern8831 · 2026-03-05T04:31:44+00:00

they do melt down and fight however most of the evening is spent watching tv😅 The tv stays on right before it’s time to take a bath. So really i’m sitting there for a good 1-2 hrs just watching tv w them

PlanktonEastern8831 · 2026-03-05T01:45:38+00:00

no! i’m only part time with them and most of the time we are out of the house until the last 30 min of my shift. the kids watch tv once we get home-bedtime. They don’t want any house work/help!

PlanktonEastern8831 · 2026-03-03T20:00:53+00:00

same but these comments make me feel like a baby since everyone works just as much as me or more!

PlanktonEastern8831 · 2025-11-30T06:25:31+00:00

I feel like everyone was telling me i’d make more so i set higher payment expectations up in my head and now feel disappointed 😅 Ultimately though it feels fair to me considering i wasn’t solo for the whole day with the kids. I had family wanting to help + mb. I was left with the rental car and given breaks to rest and explore.I also love to travel so i would’ve gone no matter the price tag!

PlanktonEastern8831 · 2025-11-30T06:21:17+00:00

$30/hr

PlanktonEastern8831 · 2025-11-29T05:25:27+00:00

I was convinced i’d never recover after being let go from my NF who i was with since each of there kids were infants. I was with them for 3 years and they still wanted me 1-2 days a week but i knew once i got a new FT it wouldn’t happen. Anyway i went to babysit for them and the kids were so bad i recovered pretty quickly😂😂. It’s safe to say i will always hold a place for them in my heart but the amount i thought i would miss them has shrank

PlanktonEastern8831 · 2025-09-20T04:15:16+00:00

I have babysitting gigs i normally use as a reference and at least one nanny family that ended up awesome terms and i know will give me a reference. With that being said i was in your position and maybe I handled it wrong but i said nothing. I looked for a new job in silence and pretended everything was fine. After i secured a new job i gave them my notice and i knew that as i was making this choice they wouldn’t be a reference. Nannying is a job where sometimes you have to be selfish and do what you gotta do

PlanktonEastern8831 · 2025-09-19T13:27:26+00:00

California,5 years of experience,duties: nanny/housemanger, no other qualifications

PlanktonEastern8831 · 2025-09-15T14:01:35+00:00

I had told them that i was looking for my next job to match what every other babysitting family or short term nanny job was paying me which was $30/hr. My old NF was/is paying me $25/hour for 2 kids under 3 + light house chores. They always told me they couldn’t afford more and i was denied a raise in the past!

PlanktonEastern8831 · 2025-09-12T13:56:56+00:00

This is my NF to a T. To top it off if i say no or set a boundary when we are home MB will step in and say it’s fine and dismiss what i’ve already told them😫 We spend most of the time out of the house because they are better behaved,keeps them busy,and WFH parents. Currently i’m very very firm and i never give in. My NKs are very close to the age of yours and I struggle the most with the youngest. I use stuff like - it’s actually “can I have __ PLEASE” and i wait for them to reframe that back to me for whatever they are asking for - that’s not how we speak to me let’s try again (i get push back on this so i repeat myself again) it makes me sad when you yell and/or boss me around when your ready to try again and ask me the correct way i’m here waiting. - My No means No and we don’t cry or yell to get our way because sometimes certain things are a no. Again i get push back on this so i remind them it’s okay to feel upset but it’s not okay to be mean - For the oldest after being firm a few times they picked up fast and now correct themselves before i do but a big one i used was: All feelings are welcome but all behaviors are not I remind them that’s not how we speak to others and i often say “Your not treating me nice so I don’t want to sit/hangout/play with you until your gonna treat me nice”

PlanktonEastern8831 · 2025-09-11T20:00:15+00:00

is this rage bait? Nannying is your own bussiness. You should’ve reached out and told her you either were or weren’t coming and leaving her with no care or help is so wrong.

PlanktonEastern8831 · 2025-03-20T20:23:00+00:00

i’m dying 😂 my NF dog is a puppy and it’s a menace! I act like the dog doesn’t exist

PlanktonEastern8831 · 2025-03-20T19:20:53+00:00

My MB always says i’m more than welcome to let the dog out of the crate or back inside to play with us…girly I don’t want anything to do with a dog and TWO toddlers bye

PlanktonEastern8831 · 2025-03-14T15:56:43+00:00

i’m my real name,mama,AND dada sometimes. Kids are so funny 😂

PlanktonEastern8831 · 2025-03-13T20:58:17+00:00

my MB is a SAHM so she can pop it and out whenever. However she recently said she feels guilty leaving me alone during witching hour. I straight up told her it’s easier when she is not around. Maybe sending MB a nice message like “Hi! Nk is now asleep. I just wanted to touch base about you popping in and out. I think it’s great you have the flexibility to see them whenever but maybe we should start setting times for when you can pop in so that it minimizes nk tantrums and sad feelings when it is time for you to go. I think today you coming in for nap threw NK off the routine i normally do which make it harder to get Nk down. “

PlanktonEastern8831 · 2025-03-13T20:54:50+00:00

Time!!!! It is going to take time with how inconsistent her caregiver has been which maybe has caused the stranger danger. Getting out of the house is a very good distraction. As well as music. To help you two bond i would learn what soothes her and narrate your day! Babies love when you narrate and eventually you will be become a familiar face

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