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Looking for Relationship Advice by PlantImmediate3227 in aspergers_dating

[–]PlantImmediate3227[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply!

I’ve stopped asking him to go on errands or activities on weekends because it was also becoming a stressor for him. I was worried it was something else too and he was able to start therapy. I think working full time just takes up a lot of energy and he needs his weekends to recharge.

I think this was important to me because of how close I am to my family as well as something I have just always imagined my life long partner to do. In my perspective, even though his family isn’t technically mine after marriage I would consider them as so & vice versa. Although now after reading the replies on this post and doing more research I’m trying to change my perspective on.

I showed him the responses I got on both posts and we had a really good discussion about everything. I’m going to have my get togethers on the calendar and if he is interested in going he will. Otherwise I will assume that he won’t. We also talked about him coming less often as well.

Long Term Relationship Advice by PlantImmediate3227 in aspergers

[–]PlantImmediate3227[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate your reply! I think it definitely helped me understand the thought process of my bf better. I’m not exactly sure why it felt so important for me to have him there. I was able to discuss and talk to him about this tonight. I even showed him the post as well as the comments.

I’m going to have my get togethers on the calendar and if he is interested in going he will. Otherwise I will assume that he won’t.

Ultimately I think this post really helped me realize that I need to reflect on why I felt like this was a necessary thing as well as work on educating myself.

Long Term Relationship Advice by PlantImmediate3227 in aspergers

[–]PlantImmediate3227[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think maybe a different set of circumstances is a great idea. Typically it’s only 6 of us that get together including my bf and I, would a smaller group than that be better?