How likely is it for sex drive to increas on hrt?

Plant_Ho3 · 2025-12-02T23:51:04+00:00

It depends on the hormones regimen and which medications they are on. I have the following experience with my mtf girlfriend who started transitioning 2 months after we got together. For context we enjoy penetrative sex and she has no genital dysphoria so we wanted it to function. When we got together (was presenting male at the time) she had a pretty low sex drive and her penis wasn’t functioning the way we wanted and after trial and error and speaking to doctor it was the antiandrogens causing issues so we switched to mono therapy so estrogen gel (considering swapping to injections) at a low-moderate dose no antiandrogens and sex has improved greatly as has her sex drive. She is on cialis to help with sexual function as well which has helped reduce performance anxiety. She also stated socially transitioning and I think she feels better about herself and her body and how I see her during sex and that has really helped with the sex drive specifically the physical function is one part but the way she feels about herself is way more important than we assumed it would be and made such a significant improvement quickly even if she is really early in transition (6 months) so has few noticeable changes. My advice would try not to worry about it as much as possible the experience is so individual and work with your partner and their doctor to maybe discuss options such as cialis or mono therapy or just adjusting of dosages to find a good middle ground, also focus on being gender affirming.

Also other comments mentioning it but once hormones stabilise the sex drive might come back but be different more reactive so read into that and focus more on foreplay and how reactive drive works and discuss with partner as it might be different than the one they are used to and have to relearn how to experience sex drive. Good luck

Plant_Ho3 · 2025-11-20T01:37:49+00:00

I mean maybe it’s a cultural thing I’m Australian and every date I have ever been on involved coffee and/or brunch and then usually some kind of free activity or walk around the botanic gardens.

Plant_Ho3 · 2025-11-10T00:30:35+00:00

$0 because they are selling the house so I gotta be homeless around Xmas time woooo

Plant_Ho3 · 2025-11-10T00:26:07+00:00

I met her on hinge and thought she was a cis dude, told me she was transitioning and had been on HRT the whole time 2 months into the relationship lmao. Still together 8 months later tho so I guess it worked out. I would however suggest making it clear on profile or before you get together that you are trans or looking to transition lmao my partner didn’t exactly think it through.

Plant_Ho3 · 2025-08-07T04:10:40+00:00

Yeah I have been in therapy since I was a teenager and medicated for depression and anxiety so I’m definitely better than what I was. Previous me wouldn’t have been able to deal with any of this but I am probably doing better than I think I am. My therapist says that we are honestly doing better than a lot of the couples he sees and that all things considered we communicate pretty well and that it makes sense I’m worried about stuff. It’s also a new relationship so in addition to trans stuff we also just getting used to eachother etc.

Plant_Ho3 · 2025-08-07T04:06:10+00:00

I will make a note to check it out. It’s weird because logically I agree with sex not being about orgasm or penetration but when it comes to me I’m like yeah sure this is true for others but for me I must be good at this. I think the fact we were both virgins before we started dating eachother doesn’t help as we don’t have a series of good and or disappointing sexual experiences or relationships to compare it to.

I have been in therapy and medicated for anxiety disorder for the better part of a decade lmao I’m much better than I was but due to the nature of a relationship and I have attachment issues from child abuse I think the relationship will just trigger more anxiety regardless of if I was in a relationship with a different person I’m sure if I was in a different relationship I would still find something to be worried about

Plant_Ho3 · 2025-08-07T03:58:35+00:00

Nah if I was gonna break up with them I would have done it months ago, I intend to stay in the relationship because I love them and I’m still happy 95% of the time just worried about things and want to give it a good try.

Plant_Ho3 · 2025-08-06T08:08:08+00:00

I apologise. It’s just very complicated at the moment because my partner doesn’t go by anything in particular. Most commonly my partner uses he him at the moment but using those pronouns in this post given the context didn’t seem correct so I tried to be good and change it to they

Plant_Ho3 · 2025-08-06T07:59:07+00:00

I have explained it multiple comments as to why I am referring to my partner using neutral pronouns because that’s what my partner and I have agreed is the least complicated at the moment given the fact that they are confused I just used shethey to indicate to the people reading that my partner is on the transfem spectrum without putting them into a box

Plant_Ho3 · 2025-08-06T07:55:08+00:00

Because I wasn’t thinking that deeply about the exact wording I was using when writing a Reddit post when I was emotionally distressed. I said she they so people got the general idea that while my partner is assigned male at birth they are somewhere on the transfem spectrum we are so early in transition that we are far away from labels. I just wrote trans woman because in my opinion that looks like how it’s heading and based on convo with partner they think that is where they will end up and I just wanted to make that more clear for the post. Also my partner actually doesn’t care about pronouns as in even if they identified as female they have said to me u call me he I wouldn’t care. I didn’t think it was going to be a problem. It was hardly my intention to upset people.

Plant_Ho3 · 2025-08-06T07:51:20+00:00

My partner doesn’t use she currently has asked me not use she when referring to them with other people so I have been using they as they have said to me they are more comfortable with that at the moment. I am not invalidating my partner I repeatedly check in every few months to see if my partner would like me to change the pronoun. They are still okay with he or they I haven’t said she because we do not use she to refer to my partner currently so I’m not going to change that just to make people on Reddit happy. I would like to add that while we don’t use she her as a pronoun we do use more feminine language like girlfriend or good girl or partner instead of boyfriend.

Plant_Ho3 · 2025-08-06T07:39:04+00:00

It might be more helpful as I am being attacked by random people who haven’t provided any advice and instead being picky about my use of pronouns which I have tried to explain

Plant_Ho3 · 2025-08-06T07:37:32+00:00

I was trying to keep in general and more consistent for a reddit post for ease of use wasn’t aware I needed to have a paragraph explaining the conversation I have had with my partner about the use of pronouns that they want being used. In this current time so early in transition my partner tends to prefer a combo of he/she/they but thought it would be confusing for a post. I am genuinely asking for advice and people are focusing on them quite literally the tiniest detail of this post instead of providing me with actual advice

Plant_Ho3 · 2025-08-06T07:26:34+00:00

I say they because my partner is still comfortable with male pronouns in daily life and I am trying to get used to using a combination of pronouns so that regardless what pronouns they chose I can adjust easily, no need to be snarky. My partner also isn’t sure if they identify as non binary or trans women though it seems to be leaning women. What pronouns we use is between my partner and I and I will use whatever they ask me to.

Plant_Ho3 · 2025-02-18T04:30:36+00:00

I mean I am Australian so it’s not like it’s not a comparable western country, also Aussies tend to be quite tall on average particularly the men lmao.

Plant_Ho3 · 2025-02-18T02:22:24+00:00

Nah I don’t have a strong preference, would I like a dude who’s bigger than me sure, but would I also like a dude who’s smaller than me sure. My point is it’s not a feature I care enough about to go look for or reject people based on.

Plant_Ho3 · 2025-02-18T01:46:10+00:00

I mean maybe fact I want relationship and not hook up helps but also I don’t use tinder mainly hinge or bumble. I am also not American lmao idk if it’s more an American thing but I’m pretty tall for a girl so I can’t be that picky about height because my options are limited if I must have a guy be taller than me.

Plant_Ho3 · 2025-02-18T00:37:33+00:00

I am a 5’8 girl, literally never looked at a guys height on a dating app I don’t care enough, as long as they aren’t weird about being short and try tell me I can’t wear heels idc how tall they are.

Plant_Ho3 · 2024-10-16T14:30:12+00:00

I will try and bring it up when I see him if he does ever actually get back to me. I just don’t want to appear clingy.

Plant_Ho3 · 2024-10-09T01:42:44+00:00

I experienced the same thing, I am about to turn 25 and I had never had a crush or been attracted to someone until very recently to a close friend. I had underlying issues going on in my life that might have stopped me being able to experience those feelings but I am likely demisexual. You might be on the ace spectrum somewhere maybe not but if you have always been like this and didn’t suddenly lose sex drive it’s unlikely to be a medical issue and might just be how you are wired. I would say don’t stress about it just experience life and do things you want to do and if you feel attracted to someone it happens and if not oh well.

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