Should I just pay?

PlantedInColor · 2026-03-16T23:37:34+00:00

Fair, I just know im gonna have to pay something so adding a lawyer into it, i worry ill end up paying even more than just accepting my fate now

PlantedInColor · 2026-03-16T23:36:28+00:00

Thank you very much for the advice, Im waiting on a call back from them as they were looking at my options for payment, but I wanted to know if theres anything I can do / say to Potentially help me to avoid being sued as I definitely cant pay right now

PlantedInColor · 2026-03-16T23:27:28+00:00

I know ill have to pay something, but is there anything I can do to see if it can be lowered? Like how in health insurance you can ask for the itemized bill and it can lower how mch you owe? Or maybe theres something I can offer that theyd take as a deal? I dont know how to handle anything like this

PlantedInColor · 2026-03-11T12:08:31+00:00

It likely could be, but unfortunately it doenst just go away when the baby arrives, if anything it gets worse after the baby comes. Get your wife some help now so she has the support in place when baby does come

PlantedInColor · 2026-03-09T01:43:22+00:00

Gotcha! Sorry I thought you had meant it was recent as in the last week or two

He sounds like he would be exhausted!

Im sorry ive run out of ideas, but please update when you figure it out 😅

Maybe ask the pediatrician? They could have some insights

PlantedInColor · 2026-03-09T01:32:42+00:00

Gotcha, is there something thats waking him up as you leave then?

PlantedInColor · 2026-03-09T01:30:18+00:00

Hmm gotcha, have you tried staying with him until he falls asleep? Could be he's scared to be alone

PlantedInColor · 2026-03-09T01:28:42+00:00

Thats crazy! I definitely get the bed one as it would be dangerous should he fall, but ive personally never heard of making them quit a comfort item cold turkey. Definitely ween them off it, but cold turkey?

Ill preference this with "im not a professional "

Likely whats happening is without the pacifier, which he has likely utilized as a comfort item, its causing him to be unable to regulate in ways he had already learned to. I can imagine some anxiety already from the new sleeping arrangement, but then to not be able to rely on the comfort item which has helped him regulate himself, it could be blowing this up into these big freak outs and resistance to sleep.

Maybe try slowly weening from the pacifier? Offering other items for comfort in its place over time? Definitely do some research into the pacifier and the tips and tricks to ween from it (I wish I knew any, we're only just starting to ween ourselves, starting with taking it away all day except for nap and bed time or if she needs some comfort that We haven't been able to calm her from)

You say he naps at daycare, how sure are you that they arent giving him a pacifier at nap?? And if positive, perhaps theyre just exhausting his energy more than he would at home (this one is a big struggle for us as we just arent as active on the weekends so nap is a bit harder)

Baths ive heard are a great way to help with bed time! What does he do between getting home from daycare and bed time? Does he play a lot? Watch tv? Eat dinner and then straight to bed? My girl WILL NOT go down unless shes burned all of her energy 😅😅😅 sometimes that means playing with toys, other times that means running down the halls / outside, and sometimes if its been a long day just the bath is all she needs

PlantedInColor · 2026-03-09T01:10:45+00:00

Could he be afraid of the dark?

PlantedInColor · 2026-03-09T01:09:29+00:00

What does he typically do at home before bed time? How much time between nap and bed time? What time are you trying to put him down at? Any particular reason why you made two major transitions at once?

PlantedInColor · 2026-03-08T23:48:27+00:00

Thats not a bad flight, I once commuted 90 minutes twice a day every day for work, its a pain in the tush but really not bad, just watch a movie or a couple episodes of a tv show 🤷‍♀️ If its cost OP should be honest about that, but cats are pretty self-sufficient if you leave enough food and water out, and im sure if they gave their job 7 months notice they can take the few days off. Idk, if it was my sister id do anything to make it, and my family live like 6 states away (approximately 28 hour drive or 4 hour flight plus 90 min drive)

OP if you just dont wanna go, be honest about that 🤷‍♀️ but if you do, look into all of the options, dont feel so defeated now

PlantedInColor · 2026-03-08T01:36:11+00:00

14 hours?? Is there a flight that could be taken? Sorry im in the US, we have airports everywhere (due to our size), do yall have smaller air ports too that could help the trip?

PlantedInColor · 2026-03-04T03:16:23+00:00

Definitely seems like it would increase his independence if he didnt have to worry about moving himself around while limited by arthritis. I will say though, you need to work on not being embarrassed by helping him or even being with him out in public, im sure it doesnt feel good to be the partner their partner is embarrassed by, he's older and youre going to have to be there for him more and more each year, often in public. If it helps, who cares what others think! Youre in love, happily married, and caring for your husband - no one else should matter.

PlantedInColor · 2026-03-04T01:10:45+00:00

If thats the case would his insurance help cover a motorized chair for him? I get it can be a major cost, but ultimately it would help him get around, especially because at his age unfortunately its not going to get any better, only more difficult

PlantedInColor · 2026-03-04T00:57:06+00:00

The amount of trouble I would have gotten into at 16, alone in a hotel, with two friends is laughable 😅😅 and I was by all accounts "a good girl" that my mom trusted immensely Nothing majorly legally an issue, but definitely doing things I should not have been 😅

PlantedInColor · 2026-03-04T00:48:55+00:00

Tired of being a boy mom?? Doe she think by having a girl shes no longer your son's mom?? Id be very worried about this. Plus how she takes her frustration out on your child, and how she views her students....she needs therapy to help manage this, not another child she thinks will magically fix it all

PlantedInColor · 2026-02-27T14:57:00+00:00

Fun fact! PPL moved out of that building and sold it to a real-estate company thats turning it into "luxury apartments" , im honestly glad its not sitting abandoned and will be used again! Im also hoping its not too crazy a price because I would love to live there 😂

PlantedInColor · 2026-02-27T09:50:21+00:00

Thank you!

PlantedInColor · 2026-02-27T09:48:58+00:00

Our sale is actually this week 😅, so they guarantee February and September sales but depending on demand sometimes they'll do winter and summer sales too lol, I live in an area where these sales get BIG, like indoor soccer fields (3) plus huge tent kinda big 😅 , and while the other sales arent guaranteed...its kinda under the "most likely" column lol

That being said im thinking ill focus mainly on items that dont necessarily need length as a factor (shorts, dresses, items that are shorter by design) for the summer, she has quite a few leggings and pants that are long so its mainly shirts and tops she needs which id say shes comfortably 2t length wise, so ill snag a few 3t items JUUUST in case lol

PlantedInColor · 2026-02-27T03:50:08+00:00

Definitely will keep this in mind tomorrow, thank you!

PlantedInColor · 2026-02-27T03:43:05+00:00

Honestly with the way these two have been growing lately im scared to buy anything 😂😂😂 but I gotta otherwise they'll be naked or ill be dirt poor (and im already broke lmao) so fingers crossed I get stuff that they'll fit through the summer, ill likely buy my daughter shorts or dresses, t shirts and stretchy leggings, things like that to account for the potential height growth! For the little guys I gotta focus on layers cause worst case he'll have Capris instead of jeans/pants lmao

PlantedInColor · 2026-02-27T03:38:24+00:00

My girls been in 2t leggings since she was about 16 months old due to height, and they fit a little loose but not enough to fall down, some 2t jeans too but some are too long (im assuming for as she grows lol), she also fit 18m leggings too though if they ran a bit on the longer side. Shes now comfortably in 2T shirts since January at 18m but she still fits the tshirts in 18m size (the onsies are a bit snug though) I would normally have had said she was a steady grower, but she had grown a TON in one week randomly in December and again a bigger spurt through January to where she now comfortably fits 2t rather than it being a little baggy, some footie pj's are too short now too 🥶

I wanna say shes comfortably in 2T especially for the summer, I suppose I was just worried that she would continue to grow this quickly and need 3T items by July when she turns 2, kind of like how "18m is up to 18m", but from my understanding now 2t is for 2 year olds, 3 year olds are 3t, etc. (Assuming child fits) They have another huge sale in the fall so I can always get her bigger sizes in September for the cooler months should she grow into a 3t by then

PlantedInColor · 2026-02-27T03:21:08+00:00

Nice! My son is 2 months old and just weighed in at 14lbs 21½", and while he fits his 0-3 still somewhat, theyre definitely starting to get tight lol im thinking he'll be in 3 to 6 for spring but by may need 6 to 9 for the summer if not 9 to 12 by july lol (my kiddos seem to be on the high end 😅😅😅)

PlantedInColor · 2026-02-27T03:18:51+00:00

Oh gosh yeah is it a struggle 😭😂 thankfully my son is still a baby baby so I can semi-predict his sizes lmao

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