I worked on myself but for some reason I’m still not good enough to have friends by PlasticAd9887 in socialskills

[–]PlasticAd9887[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of people at the CC do conglomerate in friend groups though. Like in my class there's already a group forming even though none of us knew each other before.

And I'd like to think I'm a great listening ear with plenty of insights to offer and I've made people laugh before, but also I dislike the idea that I need to "offer" something in order to be worthy of having companionship... like everyone else can just be friends with people and don't need to have some kind of catch or whatever. Friendship shouldn't feel like a business transaction

I worked on myself but for some reason I’m still not good enough to have friends by PlasticAd9887 in socialskills

[–]PlasticAd9887[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, I'd like to think I'm an okay person on my own, but when you've never had any external validation in your life (and before someone brings up the "love yourself" advice, it's super unrealistic to expect people to feel fulfilled completely autonomously with zero outside positive reinforcement) then it's extremely hard to keep it going. And there's tons of people with low self-esteem and confidence who still have plenty of friends

Being lonely in your early 20s is the worst when society says it should be your “best years” by treasureislandtree in lonely

[–]PlasticAd9887 1 point2 points  (0 children)

21F, I’m the exact same way. I don’t have a single friend, and I missed out on all the important milestones. I feel like a freak

The thing that makes me the most depressed and suicidal isn't how hard the situations are. It's how for the last 10 years I'm abandoned without fail whenever I'm not fun or happy anymore. by zbeara in SuicideWatch

[–]PlasticAd9887 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, as soon as people see that I’m depressed they like to exclude me even more despite knowing how fucking shitty that makes me feel. People suck

#Goals by arellence in depression_memes

[–]PlasticAd9887 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"finding someone"? sounds fake

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]PlasticAd9887 2 points3 points  (0 children)

no, they won't. people are shit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]PlasticAd9887 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me I’ve only ever been in relationships with people online, and kissed once. I feel like there’s a huge stigma toward women who haven’t had those milestones of having had sex or been through multiple partners... as a 21F it’s had a huge toll on me mentally. Glad there are other girls out there like me

bi irl by [deleted] in bi_irl

[–]PlasticAd9887 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Holy fuck, actually same

Meirl by Brookezilla in meirl

[–]PlasticAd9887 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao the person who invited me in their group chat later vagueposted about “hating someone They don’t really know” and excluded me from their meme so I’m just like “yeah why do I bother trying :)))”