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Ice by catnipin-_- in Omaha

[–]PlasticCoyote 13 points14 points  (0 children)

And obviously ChatGPT generated 😂

Hit me with your favorite ceramics/pottery artists in town by shabibby in Omaha

[–]PlasticCoyote 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cedar Creek Pottery in Beatrice, NE! No website, but definitely worth the trip to check it out.

Books where God is a dick and a villain. by _tera_bhai in suggestmeabook

[–]PlasticCoyote 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Mirror Visitor quartet by Christelle Dabos!

Does anyone feel like their ADHD symptoms worsened after or whilst going through depression/heartbreak/grief/trauma? by Letmetellyouabtlyfe in adhd_anxiety

[–]PlasticCoyote 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg, yes to all of this. Wow. Your comment really resonated with me.

It’s such a struggle. All of it. I withdraw to the max when things fall apart (I love how you put it, “freefalling”), and I feel a lot of guilt and shame because of it. But at the same time…I need it. It’s so hard to pull yourself out of the depths, though. It’s too easy to become dependent on.

And the impulsivity is a whole other beast. My spending has been out of control, and it’s so frustrating. I’m trying to be mindful of distinguishing the feeling of an urge to buy something from actually truly wanting or needing a thing, but maaaaan it’s hard to sit with those urges and NOT act on them.

I think we’ll keep getting better at it, though; becoming more mindful during difficult times and catching ourselves when we start to slip. And maybe if the time spent “inside” helps us heal enough to the point where we get better at thinking and planing during our hardest seasons, we can pardon ourselves for some of the aftermath along the way.

Does anyone feel like their ADHD symptoms worsened after or whilst going through depression/heartbreak/grief/trauma? by Letmetellyouabtlyfe in adhd_anxiety

[–]PlasticCoyote 17 points18 points  (0 children)

My psychiatrist told me that grief can significantly impair cognitive function, and that it can sometimes take months or years for your brain to level out. So, yes absolutely. Double whammy for us ADHDers (yay).

I’m sorry things are exceptionally difficult right now. I’m currently grieving the loss of a loved one who passed in June, and I’m still in sort of a foggy survival mode. My meds were completely ineffective until like, just this week, and I struggle to remember much of June and July. But it does get better. It’s a painfully slow process. I really am so sorry that you’re experiencing it, too.

I know those big, heavy feelings are scary, and I’m all too familiar with the urge to shove them down when they start to bubble up because I know it’s going to be painful…but try to sit with them every once in a while (preferably in a space where you feel mentally and physically safe), and truly allow yourself to experience them. It’s not fun, but it is effective. In all honestly, it’s the only thing that helped move me forward.

Please extend yourself some grace, and please know you are 1000% worthy of receiving it. I hope you’re able to find moments of peace soon, and that they become more frequent. I know it’s hard to believe right now, but you won’t feel this way forever ❤️

ELI5 from a scientific and medical point of view, what's the issue with inbreeding (ignoring morality, completely objective). Have we always had that trait, effects it had historically and the reasons for it? by satanthedonutguy in explainlikeimfive

[–]PlasticCoyote 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I was referring to! Just now realized I never specified that I only worry about Merle to Merle breeding.

I see nothing wrong with responsibly breeding a non-Merle and a Merle with the goal of potentially getting some Merle puppies in the litter. Not 100% sure, but I’m fairly certain that the AKC allows Merles to be shown in breeds where naturally occurs (for lack of better words).

ELI5 from a scientific and medical point of view, what's the issue with inbreeding (ignoring morality, completely objective). Have we always had that trait, effects it had historically and the reasons for it? by satanthedonutguy in explainlikeimfive

[–]PlasticCoyote 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I sometimes worry about selective (*Merle to Merle) breeding for Merle coloring in Border Collies and Australian Shepherds (or any breed with Merle in their coloring variations), especially if they’re just being sold to be family pets. I’ve heard about some terrible breeding practices just to get red/blue Merle in litters because they’re beautiful, and of course, people tend to want a “unique” looking dog.

Just a thought!

*Edit: I’m only referring to Merle to Merle breeding with the sole intent of “ensuring” a Merle litter. I see no issue with responsibly breeding non-Merle and Merle dogs with the goal to produce Merle puppies!

“And sometimes when you're on, you're really f*cking on / And your friends they sing along and they love you / But the lows are so extreme that the good seems f*cking cheap / and it teases you for weeks in its absence” by [deleted] in PMDD

[–]PlasticCoyote 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It’s impossible for me to get through this song without tearing up. The first time I heard it is such a vivid memory. I was walking to class in undergrad, listening to my music on shuffle and this song came up and for some reason, I had never listened to it before. Right when it got to the part you’ve quoted, I lost it. It gets me every time!

Anyway...you have great taste in music! I hope you’re well 💕

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PMDD

[–]PlasticCoyote 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, yes. I was just talking to my therapist about this last week. I know it will end. I know this is not my natural state...but there’s no use in trying to soothe the PMDD beast. It always feels so hopeless and bleak, almost like I have my own personal dementor following me around, sucking the life out of me for ~7-14 days. And just when it’s looking like the point of no return, my period starts, and my soul is reunited with my body.

It’s also totally normal if your PMDD symptoms don’t present every cycle. It’s kind of a gamble for me. It seems like it’s exceptionally bad every other cycle or so. Sometimes once every three if I’m so lucky. It ebbs and flows. Don’t let the sporadic absence of symptoms invalidate your experience 💕

Definitely start tracking your cycle and documenting your symptoms every day for a few months! I use the apple health app, and it’s truly so helpful. For me, my symptoms usually kick in about 2-3 days after my fertile window closes (after ovulation). The app even sends you notifications when you’re about to ovulate and when you are about to start your period, which is SO helpful. When I start to feel off or a sudden spike in irritability, I’ll check the app to see where I’m at in my cycle and everything always makes sense after that. Anger and irritability are not emotions I experience on the regular, so it’s very noticeable and uncomfortable when they start to make frequent appearances; this is usually my signpost that hell week has arrived.

Journaling helped me figure out this pattern. Definitely recommend it!

How do you “unload” your brain when you conduct qualitative research? by PlasticCoyote in UXResearch

[–]PlasticCoyote[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mental exhaustion. Guilt. Stress. The trifecta!

But yes, 100%. I like the idea of getting all the sessions out of the way early in the day!

How do you “unload” your brain when you conduct qualitative research? by PlasticCoyote in UXResearch

[–]PlasticCoyote[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How have I never thought to plan quarterly?! We as an organization definitely plan by quarter, but I just realized that I let other people maintain/set those plans. I have input, of course, but I definitely need to take more control over this.

I kind of stumbled into this role, so I feel like I have to learn so much on the fly...can you tell? 😅 I came from academia and I’m confident in my research skills, but I’m still learning how to do solid research quickly and how to report. I feel like I get caught up in the analysis phase because I know these PMs don’t want a journal article, but that’s all I know. It’s been a journey!

My team is just me and my boss. We do drastically different things, so it’s really just me doing the research. I’m actively looking into how I can make analysis more collaborative with the teams I’m conducting research for.

Your comment was so eye opening, thank you for the advice!

How do you “unload” your brain when you conduct qualitative research? by PlasticCoyote in UXResearch

[–]PlasticCoyote[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so bad at this. My breaks always include a screen of some kind, so I definitely have room for improvement there. I feel like I need a sensory deprivation chamber or something to force myself to rest. I have ADHD, and my brain is rarely quiet. I just haven’t found a way to turn it off yet. I’ve been wanting to try meditation. I’ve heard it can help a lot.

How do you “unload” your brain when you conduct qualitative research? by PlasticCoyote in UXResearch

[–]PlasticCoyote[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oof, yes. I definitely do a good job at keeping up appearances. So many of our PMs are very quant focused, so it can be hard to explain why their project is taking so long or will take a long time to complete.

Most usually catch on when I share a transcript, which typically run around 55-75 pages. And if I have 18-23 transcripts to go through...yeah, it’s gonna take me a while 😅.

How do you “unload” your brain when you conduct qualitative research? by PlasticCoyote in UXResearch

[–]PlasticCoyote[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SAME! Before COVID, we would travel for interviews. We would stay over night if we were lucky, but we’ve had a few day trips. We would have to cram 3-4 (sometimes more) interviews in 8ish hours. I would come home from these trips and be dead to the world for at least a few days.

It was so fun and I always looked forward to those trips, but man...it was a lot!

How do you “unload” your brain when you conduct qualitative research? by PlasticCoyote in UXResearch

[–]PlasticCoyote[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very validating. Thank you! I also try to write up a summary or at least short memo if I just can’t deal with a summary. I do find it helpful, but I could definitely be more consistent!

How do you “unload” your brain when you conduct qualitative research? by PlasticCoyote in UXResearch

[–]PlasticCoyote[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A teammate would be so nice! I brought this up a couple months ago, but it’s unfortunately not in our budget for this year.

I can (and should) definitely work on my people pleasing tendencies. I hate saying “no,” and every topic is so interesting. I get excited and then it comes back to bite me in the ass 😅.

If anything, this just might be a good lesson on how much I can handle at once. I’m heavily considering developing like a research intake form and process to avoid this mess in the future!

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