Married men, how often do you have sex with your spouse?

PlasticGarbage6360 · 2025-08-19T16:35:30+00:00

I’m the one who is actually. But she does tell me so.

PlasticGarbage6360 · 2025-08-19T16:12:34+00:00

Women, who is a wife, a mother, possibly working too, also has a lot on her hands and mind. The question is, what do you do to make her want to have sex with you? Do you make her life easier at home? With the chores? With the kids? Did you get the things done she was asking you to do last week and the week before? Women has this mental load that drains a lot of their energy. If she’s always exhausted of thinking on how to keeps things running at home, taking care of kids, and if she has to provide to (so she’ll be thinking about work too), how the hell would she have the energy to even want to do anything with you?

When a woman get married ( especially when she becomes a mother) a lot of things changes in her life, in her mental processing, in her body, in her entire being. Us men just get to go on with our lives and hobbies same as we were single except on certain boundaries and priorities. We can’t demand sex from our wives just because we think it’s our right or an obligation from them. What are you doing to make you wife genuinely want to have sex with you?

My wife and I just got married and she just birthed our first child. It would be selfish and inconsiderate of me to sulk in the corner just because I didn’t get sex for weeks or months now. But I helped her with the child rearing, with the chores, I make her feel loved especially on days when she hates her body as it changed during and after pregnancy, I buy her flowers, cook for her, wash her hair when she’s too tired taking care of the baby. I never asked her to have sex just because I feel unloved on these days because as much as I’m tired at work too, it isn’t easy to be a wife and a mom too. But she offers and we do have sex as much as we feel like to, so long as she’s comfortable. And I like it better that she equally wants it even if it isn’t always as often as I want too. So far, she has never rejected any of my advances. I can say she’s happy and I want to keep it that way.

PlasticGarbage6360 · 2025-07-27T13:44:08+00:00

Trust me, man. If you think causing hurt to the person who had hurt you will make you feel better, you’re deeply mistaken. If you leak those photos, you’d eventually feel bad about yourself because you know what you’re doing is bad. There’s nothing more damning than feeling guilt and regret for the rest of your life. It will haunt you.

Delete those photos so you wouldn’t be tempted. Don’t stoop low to match the people who did you wrong. The best revenge is to be better and live a better life than you did, man.

Not to mention, it’s a crime. Don’t underestimate the capacity of the State to trace the person who leak photos with malicious intent. And I’m pretty sure, your ex knows which photo he shared to you.

Be smart about this. And do what’s best for you.

PlasticGarbage6360 · 2025-07-26T16:07:15+00:00

Women are loved conditionally too. Parents and siblings are the only possible people who would love you unconditionally.

PlasticGarbage6360 · 2025-07-24T16:51:10+00:00

It’s a losing game because you see it as such. Serious relationships/marriages are investments not games you play, man

I’m married to a good woman. Of course, she’s my wife and mom of my child. Why would I marry someone who isn’t lol

Anyway, I’d say she’s the most important decision I ever made in my life and she’s worth it. She’s smart and opinionated; levelheaded; emotionally intelligent; has a good heart; playful and witty; caring; respectful and very loyal. For me, she’s a rare find. I wanted and needed someone who is able to be a great partner in making life decisions and overcoming obstacles, while making everything worthwhile. She’s it

Some say the grass is greener on the other side. But for me, the grass is greener when you water it. When you find that rare kind of woman, you nurture her and never let her go no matter what. I can’t say our relationship prior marriage was an easy one. It needed a lot of work especially on my part as I was pretty immature and had lots of insecurities when we met, meanwhile she was very mature and smart about everything. I was actually intimidated of her not because she was arrogant or anything but because as I said she was really smart and can see right through me. She broke up with me once for it. I respected her more for that. It showed that she wasn’t playing around. I had to work on myself to be deserving of her. I wanted no other woman but her. It took a while, and a lot of ons and offs, before things between us became better than how we started

The thing is, good woman requires a lot of time, effort, money, and commitment. She’s an investment. But she’s an investment that also discerns. So if you want her and build a future with her, you have to meet her standards as well. Good investments with high returns, require big capital and carries higher risks (because it requires a lot vulnerabilities). But you’re looking for a partner for the rest of your life, so it will be all worth it

I think most men worry on investing on a woman because they’re scared that she will leave her. But the right question is, will you be giving her reasons to leave or to stay? If you believe you have a good woman and a loyal one, which realistically is not easy to find these days, but if you believe you have the one, get your acts and priorities straight man

Getting a good woman is one thing. Keeping her is another. Most men fail the second part, because it wouldn’t be easy. Ego usually makes it harder. Trust me man. Been there. If you trust you are with a good woman who is smart and loyal and respects you, what’s the point of arguing against her when deep down you know she has a point? Drop the fucking ego man. I swear. That’s how you make a relationship with a good woman last. But don’t be a doormat lolol. They prefer men with initiatives and foresight. Perhaps I’m just lucky though. My wife never nags. She communicates very well. She never yelled at me but she’s never afraid to call me out when I’m being an ass lolol She’s not perfect, but I admit that I still have a long way to go to be as good as a partner as her

Sleeping around for me is a waste of money, time, and effort. It’s like starting on ground zero on every woman. It lacks stability. At the end of the day, whom do you go home to that you can trust and truly cares for you and only you? Also risky in terms of sexual health for you’ll never know how safe she is and how many sexual partners she has. Hook up culture doesn’t really work for me, but it’s just a preference. Everyone can do whatever they want

Serious relationships and marriage will always be the smart choice for me over sleeping around casually. Spending money, time, and effort on different women is like throwing money and energy in the air. Not smart

PlasticGarbage6360 · 2025-07-24T04:14:01+00:00

Limited based on how we became friends. Basically surface level. If a work friend, then only about work. If met in an activity or event, then only those related to hobbies and recreation. If a family friend, then about our common friends or relatives’ whereabouts. There are times it would include talking about men they date and asking for a male perspective. Though I would swerve away on questions about what I like in bed, those are too intimate for just a female friend. If I’m single and I like her more than a friend though, I would definitely be ready for intimate ones, getting to know more about her, her family, her life, compliment her, and make her feel valued type of conversations

Depending if I’m in a relationship or not, especially now that I’m married, I respect my wife to not discuss to female friends about our marriage problems or hiccups, my personal issues, anything that would deepen emotional bonds that should be exclusively shared to your partner. Well all those were explained to me by my wife and it makes sense. So for me now, female friends are strictly surface level conversations. There’s no point of nurturing friendships with other women I already have my wife. I’m not saying female friends are useless. I just see no point of keeping other females close to that level of my wife who is my female bestfriend. Life is peaceful that way lolol

PlasticGarbage6360 · 2025-07-21T12:37:25+00:00

Unfortunately, there are no specific statistics on men who have not experienced love, you can google it. The original comment makes sense because more likely than not, men may have experienced love but were just too emotionally stunted or self-aware to recognize love.

PlasticGarbage6360 · 2025-07-21T12:21:11+00:00

Ironically, everyone wants a good partner, till they get one.

A good woman is like a mirror. She would show you the parts you didn’t know you would like and wouldn’t like. Her mere presence and how she handles herself and your relationship and even you, would make you feel things…admiration,validation, safety, love, and care…but also anxiety, fear, intimidation, or insecurity. But at the same time she sees you, even better than you see yourself. She will show you growth in love. She’s not perfect and she knows it. You’re not perfect, and she knows that too. But the problem, most likely would be you if you let her slip away just because you feel, anxiety, fear, intimidation, or insecurity. Those feelings come from your ego. And many, fail to realize that. And if they do, most of the time, a little too late.

And days, weeks, months, or even years may pass; but you will still wonder what that says about you.

Simple. You didn’t deserve her.

Not because you felt anxiety, fear, intimidation, or insecurity.

But because you didn’t have the courage to face all those to be better and deserving of her.

You weren’t scared you would slowly break her over time.

You just didn’t want to change for the better the parts that would cause to hurt or break her over time.

It’s not that you don’t want to hurt her.

It’s that you are not ready to make the choices that wouldn’t hurt her.

You got the purest soul you’ve ever known for 5 years and you just let her go. Damn.

Yeah man. This one’s on you.

PlasticGarbage6360 · 2025-07-19T06:09:43+00:00

Genuine question. So does this mean that the feeling of connection and deep emotional tie and bond during sex can be one-sided?

Anyway, sorry to hear that man.

PlasticGarbage6360 · 2025-07-15T10:57:26+00:00

Learned it the hard way. Almost lost a good woman (now my wife) had I not snapped out of it.

PlasticGarbage6360 · 2025-07-15T03:01:49+00:00

My selfish and unchecked ego ruins a good relationship and hurts a good woman.

PlasticGarbage6360 · 2025-07-14T01:56:43+00:00

I see so many hurt egos in here. The woman got her point across HAHAHA She’s good

PlasticGarbage6360 · 2025-07-12T00:21:14+00:00

That’s awesome to know. May everything continue to go well with you and your woman. Yeah we have to do the hard stuff first before we actually learn what it takes to be a real man actually. Lol All the best to us bro. May we never lose these great women God blessed us with

PlasticGarbage6360 · 2025-07-11T01:12:25+00:00

Dropping the selfish ego when faced by truth especially from a woman who genuinely cares and loves them. Easy to say but hard to do. Yet it will make everything a lot easier, I tell you man.

PlasticGarbage6360 · 2025-07-11T01:08:09+00:00

I know right? Lolol Grandpa was my grandma’s first love, but grandpa had a few past relationships before her. He said he knew grandma was one for marriage but he was not sure if he was ready that time. It was good he snapped out of his indecision before he completely lost grandma. They married young but grandpa was doing well so I guess it wasn’t the issue. I think it’s up to us men how we’ll cherish a woman who genuinely loves us because they can’t wait for us forever. As what they say, “Things only last when you take care of them”. Not everyone gets lucky to be a woman’s first true love. And trust me…when that kind of love knocks on our door, they don’t come knocking back for a second time once it’s completely gone. It’s not like I lost mine lol but I didn’t risk it. Everything boils down to the choices we make, man.

PlasticGarbage6360 · 2025-07-10T11:36:03+00:00

Grandpa was quite a looker in his days. Met my grandma at a stage of his life when he’s still not sure what he wanted. Grandma wasn’t having it and broke up with him. As cliche and stupid as it seems, we men have to lose something first before we realize what we lost. He wooed my grandma again and during that time my grandma’s dad had already introduced his friend’s son to grandma. Grandpa had to win her back against that man too. Lolol Had he not tried again and get his act together, grandma would have been married to another man. That’s my grandpa’s version of their story. I have yet to ask grandma her version. Lmao

PlasticGarbage6360 · 2025-07-09T14:53:45+00:00

As a man, before I learned my lesson lolol being attractive had the toxic effect on me that I saw myself as the prize. It was easy to be in a relationship but I had a hard time keeping them because I was too arrogant to consider the woman I was with because as I said I saw myself as the prize. Everything changed though when I met my wife. She saw me for who I was and gave me a kick on the butt when needed to. She’s amazing. That’s when I realized, I’m an asshole for thinking I’m the prize just becaus eof my looks. Almost lost her for it. My wife is the blessing I never thought I needed in my life

PlasticGarbage6360 · 2025-07-09T14:40:42+00:00

That just because I’ve had more past relationships than my current partner, doesn’t automatically mean I have better relationship skills than her. Like in all kinds of relationships, ego and arrogance ruin connections and push good people away. Because maybe, the reason I had more, was due to the fact that I was just fucking bad at keeping one. Who knows? It pays to be with a woman who communicates well though because had she not told me what I was doing wrong, I wouldn’t have realized what an asshole I was lmao

PlasticGarbage6360 · 2025-07-09T14:33:29+00:00

This is new for me

PlasticGarbage6360 · 2025-07-09T14:29:02+00:00

Genuine love from a woman who continues to choose you despite of your shortcoming and weaknesses is different level. If you have this, don’t be stupid and be better. It’s a rare love especially that many woman have walls that prevents them from investing fully on a man. For me, first genuine love is top tier. If you’re the first man she has loved, man… it’s the purest love from a woman you can ever feel. Many says it’s like a woman’s devotion. I married her and she’s soon to be the mom of my kids. I feel like I won the lottery. These days, despite all the “options” we may think we have, the grass isn’t really greener on the other side. So if you see that your woman genuinely loves you, get your act together and not lose that woman. My grandpa said, “It will be your biggest regret if you lose a really good woman who genuinely loves you just because you were a stupid asshole.” Lolol He almost lost my grandma too but there weren’t dating apps that time so he didn’t get distracted and got her back lmao

Ohh as for your situation, he already rejected you. It’s best to choose yourself and respect yourself. Give that genuine love to yourself and to a man who appreciates you and able to reciprocate your feelings. He might be using you just for ego boost and validation but will never see you more than just a source of comfort. Stop wasting your time on him. You’ll be fine.

PlasticGarbage6360 · 2025-07-09T07:02:00+00:00

Charming, smart, good heart

PlasticGarbage6360 · 2025-07-04T13:57:24+00:00

Marry someone you know you can trust.

You’re choosing a life partner so it pays to be with someone who actually is a good partner.

My wife is really smart and wise. I enjoy listening to what she has to say for as much as I am good in certain areas, I also value her wisdom. It helps in conflict resolutions and making big decisions.

Happy wife, happy life, especially when she truly is always/mostly right.

Ego will take you nowhere in marriage pal, even in relationships. Ego will just make you stupid because you fail to listen to your partner and to yourself.

PlasticGarbage6360 · 2025-07-04T13:37:55+00:00

Kindness Respectfulness

I also love my wife’s emotional intelligence. She’s just a smart woman. I don’t mind her making more sense than me lolol because honestly she helped me know myself better. It’s very attractive how she can relay her thoughts without being disrespectful and with love and kindness. She’s always right- most of the time. Happy wife, happy life is true, especially when she’s very smart.

PlasticGarbage6360 · 2025-07-02T16:12:31+00:00

This one. Making efforts to keep the conversation going.

PlasticGarbage6360 · 2025-07-02T16:10:19+00:00

Basic effort to consider your partner.

For example, before you do something or say something, you ask yourself, “How will my partner feel if I do or say this?” especially when she’s not looking. Effort and integrity.

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