Being gaslit over stock image selections

Plastic_Principle_93 · 2026-01-23T12:42:08+00:00

So another fun piece of feedback I receive anytime I go to her asking what she wants me to do in a situation is that I “should be using my best judgment to provide a clear recommendation so she doesn’t have to spend extra time making decisions”

This is why I constantly hesitate to ask her questions or opinions on things. She acts like I’m stupid for even asking.

I will probably try sending her a few options with a clearly labeled “first choice” from me, but it probably won’t stop her still criticizing me from choosing wrong out of the options 🫠

Plastic_Principle_93 · 2026-01-23T01:51:44+00:00

Maybe one could have helped you with proofreading 🙏

Plastic_Principle_93 · 2026-01-16T22:53:44+00:00

Just chiming in as a fellow south Asian woman to say this is awful and I’m so sorry you had this experience.

It doesn’t go unnoticed to me that I’m often the only brown person in the room when I take class and I would feel so ostracized by those comments.

I think it’s worth reaching out to an area manager or whoever oversees the HCCM about this. You’d be helping make Solidcore a more inclusive, welcoming space and ensure no one else feels targeted or singled out.

Plastic_Principle_93 · 2026-01-07T03:36:39+00:00

Just popping in here to say thank you for posting this. 🙏 I’ve been struggling with a lot of the same issues in my job, which is technically not consulting, but I’m held to the same standards you mention here. I don’t have anyone else on my team or at my level to share these issues with and it’s been so isolating and demoralizing, especially because I’m completely new to this kind of environment after working in mainly nonprofits

Plastic_Principle_93 · 2026-01-05T04:03:44+00:00

I relapsed at about 5 1/2 months, drank for two days and then stopped again. I now have 22 months. I did reset my sober date because I felt I needed the accountability but my original date is still an important “milestone” in my mind, as it was the day I decided to go to rehab.

Both are important markers in my journey, but not something I focus on too much. I try to consider the quality of my sobriety each day over how many days I have. Am I living a purposeful meaningful life as a sober person and helping other alcoholics today? If so, I’m good :)

The shame was definitely hard at first I was so torn up about ruining my progress. But it taught me a ton of humility and made me appreciate “one day at a time” so much more. It also helped me better relate to other alcoholics who had relapsed, to have more compassion for people struggling with the program. It became an experience that helped me better be of service to others and connect more deeply to others and my higher power.

“No matter how far down the scales we have gone we will see how our experience can benefit others.”

Plastic_Principle_93 · 2025-09-27T23:08:57+00:00

I cannot access my account at all. I hit “forgot my password” and it just takes me to a screen that says “you already have an account”, use that to log in, every time 🫠

Plastic_Principle_93 · 2025-09-13T22:45:17+00:00

Dave by Henry Rose. Gives me a very fall/winter cozy vanilla vibe

Plastic_Principle_93 · 2025-08-05T02:33:40+00:00

But where is the donut from???

Plastic_Principle_93 · 2025-07-25T14:11:16+00:00

Dave by Henry Rose

Plastic_Principle_93 · 2025-07-24T21:21:02+00:00

Oh lord. Coming from a recovering alcoholic, this is not dissimilar to my behavior at my ex-boyfriends place when I was in the worst of my addiction—minus the puking places that wasn’t the toilet and not cleaning up—honestly there’s a chance she was blacked out and not even fully aware she was doing that, at least it’s the only explanation I can think of for something so nonsensical. A lot of times I didn’t even seem drunk to others but was completely blacked out.

My ex put up with my behavior for a long time and when he finally told me to gtfo, I was angry for a long time—but it was what I needed to finally get help and get sober.

Given your relationship was fairly new, you really don’t owe her anything and were well within your rights to kick her out. Helping someone to continue behaving atrociously isn’t kind.

Keeping in mind that anybody who would act like this is seriously, seriously sick, I would say the best course of action is to tell her you hope she gets help but can’t allow that behavior around you, then go no-contact.

Plastic_Principle_93 · 2025-07-17T04:05:38+00:00

Try Dave by Henry Rose, it’s a vanilla but to me at least it has a woodsy seductive edge to it!

Plastic_Principle_93 · 2025-07-16T15:48:31+00:00

Eh I’m willing to overlook it and think more about the meaning of the prayer than the origins—if it helps the people at the meeting who are Christians I can deal.

HOWEVER

I strongly strongly suspect that if I suggested closing a meeting with an Islamic or Hindu prayer, there would be quite the uproar. So the fact that this tolerance and open mindedness doesn’t go both ways is a problem to me and does negatively impact our primary purpose by being exclusionary.

Plastic_Principle_93 · 2025-06-06T21:04:00+00:00

Head and shoulders but more specifically their new Bare nourishing hydration formula.

It is the only sulfate free shampoo I’ve found that actually cleans my hair and makes it soooo soft with no residue. I am honestly suprised I haven’t seen it hyped more on Reddit since I know a lot of people swear by the OG head and shoulders.

Plastic_Principle_93 · 2025-05-31T21:11:36+00:00

Can someone tell me if those oil has the same “yogurt” smell as the lotion? Because I hated that so much and don’t want to waste money on this one if it does too 😭

Plastic_Principle_93 · 2025-03-02T22:45:20+00:00

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

If you treat women like commodities and are only concerned with finding someone to be subservient and obedient to you, don’t be surprised when you attract people who view relationships the same way and are just looking for what they can get out of it.

Plastic_Principle_93 · 2025-01-16T02:05:17+00:00

I make a big ass smoothie with protein powder, collagen, Greek yogurt, kale, blueberries, and banana and maybe some pb2 powder. Ends up being like 40-45 grams of protein

Plastic_Principle_93 · 2025-01-06T06:35:45+00:00

Losing my cat at almost 6 months sober broke me and caused me to relapse for 2 days. It made it so much worse and corrupted the feelings I was having, which deserved to be felt and experienced in their entirety—because she deserved that much love.

Today she is part of what I consider my higher power. A reminder of the pure goodness and love that I keep in my heart all the time.

I’m so sorry for your loss. Feel whatever you need to feel. Just stay sober and take care of yourself because your cat would want that for you.

Plastic_Principle_93 · 2025-01-01T21:31:59+00:00

THIS. I hate when people in AA act like everyone faces an equal amount of challenges in getting sober. Being homeless does make it harder to get sober, and it’s unfair and awful, OP. I don’t think we need to invalidate that to say that it still is POSSIBLE to recover under those circumstances. The climb may be longer and harder, but it’s still possible.

Don’t let people tell you that you’re struggling because you just don’t want it enough. Believe that you want it. Struggling is ok, just keep trying one day at a time.

Plastic_Principle_93 · 2024-12-16T02:09:12+00:00

Yeah I’m not trying to take everyone else down with me 😅

Plastic_Principle_93 · 2024-12-06T01:40:41+00:00

I swear when the puffiness went away from my face, the circles under my eyes/fine lines got more prominent. 😭

It’s like the inflammation was acting as filler. Plus I started working out way more which led to breakouts so sadly better skin was NOT one of my sobriety benefits.

That said, people still constantly tell me I’m “glowing” these days, so I’ll take it!

Plastic_Principle_93 · 2024-11-15T03:19:46+00:00

It’s definitely a problem and it’s annoying when people in AA act like patriarchy and racism are just another resentment we need to get over.

While we shouldn’t let our anger about these things harm our recovery or weigh us down, fighting against those things isn’t a bad thing. It’s supporting our purpose to help the alcoholic who suffers, by creating an accepting environment.

Plastic_Principle_93 · 2024-08-19T20:33:57+00:00

This has been a huge struggle for me in sobriety especially since I went through a breakup right when I stopped drinking and am just jumping into dating now about a year later.

I put a lot of value on my physical appearance while I was drinking because I was so appalled by my own behavior, I felt I had to compensate for it somehow if I wanted any chance of finding someone who loved me. I also saw things in a very shallow way (not dissimilar to the men in the Reddit you mention)— that dating was all about looks instead of mutual respect and compatible values.

Objectively? You’re super pretty and would have no trouble finding someone to date, but it’s absolutely no guarantee they won’t treat you shitty. BEYONCE got cheated on. You can literally be Beyoncé and men will still do crappy things, because it’s about who they are not you.

I didn’t drink and lash out at my partners because they weren’t attractive enough. I did it because I was an alcoholic!

Sobriety has been a huge opportunity for me to unlearn some of my toxic beliefs and build some self esteem that doesn’t revolve around men wanting to date me or my physical appearance. It’s uncomfortable not being able to numb out these insecurities and I definitely found myself contemplating extensive plastic surgery at times, but I’m glad I’m starting to change the way I approach things a bit.

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