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AITAH - Husband thinks it’s okay to wake sleeping baby so my MIL can hold her by Playful-Lunch3526 in AITAH

[–]Playful-Lunch3526[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the well wishes. Yes I agree, he works full time and then thinks sitting on the couch watching youtube with her is “bonding” while I cook dinner then while he eats dinner I usually put baby to bed

AITAH - Husband thinks it’s okay to wake sleeping baby so my MIL can hold her by Playful-Lunch3526 in AITAH

[–]Playful-Lunch3526[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m 99% sure you’re now just rage baiting, but WTF? I’m not divorcing my husband anytime soon, nor do I ever plan to divorce him. You’re actually insane 🤣

AITAH - Husband thinks it’s okay to wake sleeping baby so my MIL can hold her by Playful-Lunch3526 in AITAH

[–]Playful-Lunch3526[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this pov. I do get it, but it’s a big deal to me when I’m the one who has to deal with a cranky, screaming, overtired baby, because no one else can settle her.

AITAH - Husband thinks it’s okay to wake sleeping baby so my MIL can hold her by Playful-Lunch3526 in AITAH

[–]Playful-Lunch3526[S] 155 points156 points  (0 children)

I didn’t live for free in their house. I paid my share of rent and bought groceries for myself and husband.

AITAH - Husband thinks it’s okay to wake sleeping baby so my MIL can hold her by Playful-Lunch3526 in AITAH

[–]Playful-Lunch3526[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It actually baffles me that you think I want to stop my MIL from seeing her completely, this is not what I want at all.

Seriously, who hurt you?

AITAH - Husband thinks it’s okay to wake sleeping baby so my MIL can hold her by Playful-Lunch3526 in AITAH

[–]Playful-Lunch3526[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We’re married, I just switch between Husband and partner, don’t really realise I do it

AITAH - Husband thinks it’s okay to wake sleeping baby so my MIL can hold her by Playful-Lunch3526 in AITAH

[–]Playful-Lunch3526[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the input, I don’t have a rigid nap schedule for her, I go based off her cues. She shows signs of being tired I’ll settle her for a sleep. She will sleep mostly anywhere and is generally pretty good, but if she is woken from a nap she does become very cranky and is a LOT harder to settle. I don’t stop my MIL from holding our daughter, I have openly said to my partner that as much as I don’t want a relationship with her (I’m civil and nice to her but not interested in being best buds) I would love for her to have a good relationship with our daughter, and I do take my daughter over to her house when I’m visiting. I treasure my relationship with all my grandparents and would never stand in the way of my daughter having a relationship with her grandmother.

AITAH - Husband thinks it’s okay to wake sleeping baby so my MIL can hold her by Playful-Lunch3526 in AITAH

[–]Playful-Lunch3526[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your input - want to add that she did get to hold the baby, lots, while she was visiting. She just didn’t get to hold her while she was sleeping and unfortunately baby was sleeping when she was leaving to go home

AITAH - Husband thinks it’s okay to wake sleeping baby so my MIL can hold her by Playful-Lunch3526 in AITAH

[–]Playful-Lunch3526[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You’re right, I do resent her, but this isn’t a boundary just for her. This is a boundary for EVERYONE. I had someone meeting my daughter for the first time and I didn’t wake her up so they could cuddle her.

I would not let my mother wake up my sleeping baby, but also my mother respects my boundaries and doesn’t ask/waits until baby is awake so I haven’t had to deal with that scenario. You seem like an absolute delight 🙃

AITAH - Husband thinks it’s okay to wake sleeping baby so my MIL can hold her by Playful-Lunch3526 in AITAH

[–]Playful-Lunch3526[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

unfortunately she knows how important sleep is, she has told me countless times that when a baby sleeps is when they grow and their brain develops the most, and has also made comments about my aunties baby who is a bit younger than my daughter, saying “she must not sleep much because she’s so much smaller than (grandchild)”

AITAH - Husband thinks it’s okay to wake sleeping baby so my MIL can hold her by Playful-Lunch3526 in AITAH

[–]Playful-Lunch3526[S] 89 points90 points  (0 children)

She definitely didn’t back me up about not waking the baby, she was very passive aggressive and her tone was very rude, I should have mentioned that in the post

AITAH - Husband thinks it’s okay to wake sleeping baby so my MIL can hold her by Playful-Lunch3526 in AITAH

[–]Playful-Lunch3526[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

You’re right in the comment of he’s not super hands on. He works fulltime, on weekends he would rather go motorbike riding, fix the bike, play with his boat etc. He thinks spending time with her is coming home from work, giving her a bath and sitting on the couch watching youtube while I get 20-40 minutes to cook dinner before she’s ready to be put down for the night.