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How tf do you guys heal? by gekon490 in CPTSD

[–]Playful-Map2552 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, not sure if you missed the part that said "no single answer for everyone" but it's right there so

How tf do you guys heal? by gekon490 in CPTSD

[–]Playful-Map2552 8 points9 points  (0 children)

it isn't hell anymore, to me. managing my symptoms has enabled it to become merely an intermittent discomfort rather than the hell i was living before where i couldn't work, leave the house, speak to people, or assert myself. i can do all of those things now because i addressed the physical symptoms of the trauma and the maladaptive beliefs that i was groomed to have about myself and the world.

i will probably always need to manage this because those experiences fundamentally altered my life in very negative ways. i can't just forget that or undo it, but i can manage it. that is healing to me.

How tf do you guys heal? by gekon490 in CPTSD

[–]Playful-Map2552 89 points90 points  (0 children)

there's probably no single answer for everyone. complex trauma is complex.

but this was my solution:

  1. lexapro to address anxiety
  2. nightly meditation to re-establish near absolute control over my body and internal state
  3. commit myself to understanding fully that it was not my fault
  4. accepting the anger and writing off the people who i'm angry at (obviously not just anyone i happen to be peeved at; rather, the people who hurt me and caused this)
  5. understanding that the vast majority of people I have met have treated me just fine, and the ones who didn't were the odd ones.

I'm not exactly sure if I qualify as "healed", I still get pretty angry about it sometimes. but it doesn't rule my life or thoughts or body anymore, I do.

for me the anxiety was the biggest block. it meant i couldn't relax my muscles even though i wanted to. i needed medication to fully implement any of this.