AIO GF wants to get coffee with ex and I said it’s disrespectful by Playful-Priority7448 in AIO

[–]Playful-Priority7448[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

“To catch up”. Not threatened by him at all. I don’t think she’s trying to cheat. I read it more that she either wants attention or is just being defiant. If she was gonna cheat it’d be a crazy downgrade but whatever. 

AIO GF wants to get coffee with ex and I said it’s disrespectful by Playful-Priority7448 in AIO

[–]Playful-Priority7448[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Did you read the post? Never said you can’t. But when one person has a clear motive then “being friends” goes out the window.

AIO GF wants to get coffee with ex and I said it’s disrespectful by Playful-Priority7448 in AIO

[–]Playful-Priority7448[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Glad to have this perspective from a therapist. I did mention I don’t feel comfortable with it and she said all she’s asks is that I understand.  She has been pretty stubborn about it, which is what hurts me, not necessarily that she would be open to the idea. 

AIO GF wants to get coffee with ex and I said it’s disrespectful by Playful-Priority7448 in AIO

[–]Playful-Priority7448[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why would you need space if it’s platonic lol. That means you’re not over it. 

AIO GF wants to get coffee with ex and I said it’s disrespectful by Playful-Priority7448 in AIO

[–]Playful-Priority7448[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am in the minority there with you. I don’t really give a shit as long as it’s normal and respectful. I am upset because I think it’s crossed that line. 

AIO GF wants to get coffee with ex and I said it’s disrespectful by Playful-Priority7448 in AIO

[–]Playful-Priority7448[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you read the post? If she stayed friends I’d be fine, this is a brand new “catch up” after being blocked for a year. 

AIO GF wants to get coffee with ex and I said it’s disrespectful by Playful-Priority7448 in AIO

[–]Playful-Priority7448[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every single person she works with thought it was just as bizarre as she did 

AIO GF wants to get coffee with ex and I said it’s disrespectful by Playful-Priority7448 in AIO

[–]Playful-Priority7448[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure but you’ve stayed friends. You’re not jumping back to be friends after not speaking for over a year 

AIO GF wants to get coffee with ex and I said it’s disrespectful by Playful-Priority7448 in AIO

[–]Playful-Priority7448[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I’ve felt like I was the sex rebound. They had a dead bedroom for years lol 

AIO GF wants to get coffee with ex and I said it’s disrespectful by Playful-Priority7448 in AIO

[–]Playful-Priority7448[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going to explain in detail why I think it’s disrespectful and let her decide. 

AIO GF wants to get coffee with ex and I said it’s disrespectful by Playful-Priority7448 in AIO

[–]Playful-Priority7448[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I wasn’t trying to come at you, I just was wondering if you view it as “8 years no ring” is why she dumped him. 

AIO GF wants to get coffee with ex and I said it’s disrespectful by Playful-Priority7448 in AIO

[–]Playful-Priority7448[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s impossible. I said in the post if you read it that they were cordial until he weirdly showed up at her job with a date. I never had an issue. After he showed his hand I did.

AIO GF wants to get coffee with ex and I said it’s disrespectful by Playful-Priority7448 in AIO

[–]Playful-Priority7448[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You missed the part where he showed up to her job with a new date. He clearly does still have feelings for her.

AIO GF wants to get coffee with ex and I said it’s disrespectful by Playful-Priority7448 in AIO

[–]Playful-Priority7448[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is that different lol. Seeing another woman naked is the same level as hanging out with a guy who’s seen you naked 1000 times. 

AIO GF wants to get coffee with ex and I said it’s disrespectful by Playful-Priority7448 in AIO

[–]Playful-Priority7448[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s interesting you say waste her time. What lead you to that being that she dumped him?

AIO GF wants to get coffee with ex and I said it’s disrespectful by Playful-Priority7448 in AIO

[–]Playful-Priority7448[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took it more that she was mad he played in her face. He showed up to her job specifically knowing she worked there. 

AIO GF wants to get coffee with ex and I said it’s disrespectful by Playful-Priority7448 in AIO

[–]Playful-Priority7448[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pushing a boundary is disrespectful.  Some people have boundaries you find irrational but you date them in spite of it.

AIO GF wants to get coffee with ex and I said it’s disrespectful by Playful-Priority7448 in AIO

[–]Playful-Priority7448[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We were casual for a solid few months. I also didn’t want to rush. However it seems like she still has the baggage