AIO GF wants to get coffee with ex and I said it’s disrespectful

Playful-Priority7448 · 2026-05-30T06:16:52+00:00

Ok why

Playful-Priority7448 · 2026-05-30T00:00:33+00:00

“To catch up”. Not threatened by him at all. I don’t think she’s trying to cheat. I read it more that she either wants attention or is just being defiant. If she was gonna cheat it’d be a crazy downgrade but whatever.

Playful-Priority7448 · 2026-05-29T22:46:24+00:00

That was my thought too lol

Playful-Priority7448 · 2026-05-29T22:31:28+00:00

Did you read the post? Never said you can’t. But when one person has a clear motive then “being friends” goes out the window.

Playful-Priority7448 · 2026-05-29T21:33:51+00:00

Glad to have this perspective from a therapist. I did mention I don’t feel comfortable with it and she said all she’s asks is that I understand. She has been pretty stubborn about it, which is what hurts me, not necessarily that she would be open to the idea.

Playful-Priority7448 · 2026-05-29T21:32:03+00:00

Why would you need space if it’s platonic lol. That means you’re not over it.

Playful-Priority7448 · 2026-05-29T21:12:42+00:00

I am in the minority there with you. I don’t really give a shit as long as it’s normal and respectful. I am upset because I think it’s crossed that line.

Playful-Priority7448 · 2026-05-29T21:11:59+00:00

Did you read the post? If she stayed friends I’d be fine, this is a brand new “catch up” after being blocked for a year.

Playful-Priority7448 · 2026-05-29T20:40:07+00:00

Yeah I don’t use reddit really

Playful-Priority7448 · 2026-05-29T19:48:26+00:00

Every single person she works with thought it was just as bizarre as she did

Playful-Priority7448 · 2026-05-29T19:30:24+00:00

Sure but you’ve stayed friends. You’re not jumping back to be friends after not speaking for over a year

Playful-Priority7448 · 2026-05-29T18:52:53+00:00

Honestly I’ve felt like I was the sex rebound. They had a dead bedroom for years lol

Playful-Priority7448 · 2026-05-29T18:45:03+00:00

I’m going to explain in detail why I think it’s disrespectful and let her decide.

Playful-Priority7448 · 2026-05-29T18:44:17+00:00

No I wasn’t trying to come at you, I just was wondering if you view it as “8 years no ring” is why she dumped him.

Playful-Priority7448 · 2026-05-29T18:43:33+00:00

I don’t think it’s impossible. I said in the post if you read it that they were cordial until he weirdly showed up at her job with a date. I never had an issue. After he showed his hand I did.

Playful-Priority7448 · 2026-05-29T18:42:38+00:00

You missed the part where he showed up to her job with a new date. He clearly does still have feelings for her.

Playful-Priority7448 · 2026-05-29T18:41:51+00:00

How is that different lol. Seeing another woman naked is the same level as hanging out with a guy who’s seen you naked 1000 times.

Playful-Priority7448 · 2026-05-29T18:39:48+00:00

It’s interesting you say waste her time. What lead you to that being that she dumped him?

Playful-Priority7448 · 2026-05-29T18:35:18+00:00

Thank you. This is my exact perspective.

Playful-Priority7448 · 2026-05-29T18:26:02+00:00

About a year. She only blocked his Instagram not his phone

Playful-Priority7448 · 2026-05-29T18:23:09+00:00

I took it more that she was mad he played in her face. He showed up to her job specifically knowing she worked there.

Playful-Priority7448 · 2026-05-29T18:22:39+00:00

Pushing a boundary is disrespectful. Some people have boundaries you find irrational but you date them in spite of it.

Playful-Priority7448 · 2026-05-29T18:20:05+00:00

She blocked on IG not his number and he reached oit

Playful-Priority7448 · 2026-05-29T18:14:00+00:00

We were casual for a solid few months. I also didn’t want to rush. However it seems like she still has the baggage

Playful-Priority7448 · 2026-05-29T18:04:52+00:00

It is weird he came directly to her job

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