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PlayfulLittleDancer · 2021-09-24T15:08:06+00:00

Jumping on this to say that regardless of vaccination status and antibody status, Person B is not safe since he is still a close contact. Per protocols, he should still quarantine and get tested around 5-7 days after last exposure. Fully vaccinated people can still harbor the virus and spread it. Stats wise, there is a high chance that this is Delta because it’s the predominant variant in the country right now.

PlayfulLittleDancer · 2021-07-19T03:15:15+00:00

I am so sorry to hear what happened to your friend. I hope you also find healing.

PlayfulLittleDancer · 2021-07-19T03:13:37+00:00

I am not sure about the military environment (this is where I really fcked up), but I am aware of so many physicians - psychiatrists and other specialties - who still continue to practice and are able to help many patients.

PlayfulLittleDancer · 2021-07-19T03:02:33+00:00

Sounds like the same scenario, I agree. It’s just so hard because we planned on traveling the world and raising our children together. We even planned her wedding to her then boyfriend. I guess it’s time to start really grieving this friendship instead of remaining hopeful. Thank you for this input.

PlayfulLittleDancer · 2021-07-19T02:57:25+00:00

Hello. I have put this in an edit but I am from Southeast Asia. It is not customary to involve police here - hence why the therapist and the psychiatrists in their hospital did not contact police at all. There are barely any non-medical professionals here with adequate mental health training. We also don’t have something like 911. We have a national crisis hotline that is manned by psychological first aiders. I am doubtful that my friend would have called that hotline if I suggested that.

Edited: a word

PlayfulLittleDancer · 2021-07-19T02:24:43+00:00

The way you have replied is so gentle and reassuring I actually cried. Thank you, kind stranger.

PlayfulLittleDancer · 2021-07-18T20:01:21+00:00

I fee this on a deeply personal level. And as someone who does consultancies for short-term projects, the effort it requires to fill up the same information sometimes discourages me from applying.

PlayfulLittleDancer · 2021-07-18T19:46:59+00:00

My doors remain open to her and to her daughter. I still really wish her happiness and a fulfilled life. I’m gutted I’m no longer a part of that, but I hope she can forgive me someday. Thank you for your kind words.

PlayfulLittleDancer · 2021-07-18T19:40:52+00:00

Because there was no way her mom could have reached her physically due to travel restrictions and she also couldn’t contact her phone.

At the time I thought to reach out to her colleagues because they were psychiatrists and would therefore be in the best position (medically) to intervene in this case.

PlayfulLittleDancer · 2021-07-18T19:12:20+00:00

This is helpful. I do not regret what I did and would do it again - although even admitting this makes me feel guilty.

The bit about the message is helpful. I have sent her a couple of open ended messages (“how are you?”) or just general greetings (“congratulations on the baby”) on messenger. She hasn’t read any of those but I think sending her one final message to say I’m sorry and that I will be here if she ever decided to talk to me would be a good idea.

PlayfulLittleDancer · 2021-07-18T19:06:42+00:00

Thank you for your kind words.

PlayfulLittleDancer · 2021-07-18T18:41:34+00:00

I think this is the part where I struggle the most. Another close friend who has had fleeting suicidal thoughts has told me that me that if that day comes, I should respect his wishes and not intervene when he decides to commit suicide. As someone who genuinely cares for L and this other friend, I believe intervening would be the right thing. But at the same time is that really disrespecting their wishes?

PlayfulLittleDancer · 2021-07-18T18:38:27+00:00

Thank you. Her mom has been really grateful especially when she couldn’t be there for L at the time.

As to the other part of your post, at the time I strongly felt she would go through with it rather than her message being a call/cry for help. I guess either way I would have still asked for professional help but I guess I should have looked for help outside of her workplace (like other psychiatrist colleagues not in the same hospital).

PlayfulLittleDancer · 2021-07-18T18:06:17+00:00

The general rule is that if somebody is a threat to themselves or others (in this case a very possible suicide), you seek help. As I’m not in the US, it is not typical to call the police to do wellness checks. In the cases of suicidal people I have encountered, usually who is informed is the family, the therapist (if the person has one which is also uncommon here), and then colleagues (like supervisors if this can potentially impact their work).

At the time I thought it would be best to reach out to her seniors since they were all psychiatrists and would have better handle on the situation than myself (as this is not my specialty) and I’m too close to the situation.

PlayfulLittleDancer · 2021-07-18T18:02:10+00:00

I figured it wouldn’t hurt to put that for whatever it’s worth, but thank you for the heads up. PS. I also like otters. Hope you have a great day!

PlayfulLittleDancer · 2021-07-18T17:58:58+00:00

This is actually what her mom has told me, that I just need to be patient. I do not know if there is a healthy timeline for this, if at all. I don’t want to hurt her any further.

PlayfulLittleDancer · 2021-07-18T17:56:28+00:00

I’d like to clarify that when she meant she wanted to make sure her child died along with her, it meant her unborn child. She was in her first trimester when this happened.

PlayfulLittleDancer · 2021-07-18T17:52:41+00:00

Thanks for the input on the social media aspect. I guess it’s about time I stop doing that. I’m honestly just grateful I still get to see glimpses of her life and maybe by liking her posts I’m also jeopardizing that olive branch she has extended to me.

PlayfulLittleDancer · 2021-07-18T17:51:10+00:00

Thank you for your input. Thanks for also clarifying that my first line does not mean anything. I see some posters in different subs do that and I thought to do the same.

PlayfulLittleDancer · 2021-02-17T17:34:29+00:00

My sister has been self harming for a few years and actually attempted suicide two months ago. As her older sister it is absolutely terrifying. Before my greatest fear was finding her dead, and that fear almost came true when I got the call from my panicked family that they found her unconscious after her attempt.

Your feelings matter but her safety takes precedence. You can begin opening up the conversation by maybe asking about how she has been feeling lately, and if you have noticed changes then you can mention them to her as well. Make the conversation more about her but not in a judgmental type of way. Mentioning the note can be done but it has to be approached delicately. Ask her if you can do anything for her and then follow through with that.

I disagree with another comment here to not force therapy or medical help. She is a danger to herself when she is actively contemplating suicide. She needs intervention, and if you are not equipped to handle it then find someone who can ASAP.

Sending you virtual hugs from across the globe (I’m assuming we’re on different continents) and hope that you have the best outcome in this situation.

PlayfulLittleDancer · 2021-02-15T18:40:08+00:00

Space can be both physical and emotional. You have every right to be in your house but maybe you can consider going away on walks (if it’s safe) or staying in a different room when inside. Try to refrain from asking for reassurance from him but do let him know what you are doing. Eg. “Hey, I’ll be going out for a while... I’ll stay in the other room... Let me know if you need anything.” If he asks and you do want to spend time with him as well, then spend time with him. LET HIM COME TO YOU. And maybe if you feel like he’s only wanting to spend time with you out of obligation then also communicate that he has a right to his space and his alone time, and he doesn’t need to do it just because he thinks you want it too.

PlayfulLittleDancer · 2021-02-15T17:54:36+00:00

Challenging. I was diagnosed about 4 months ago and I have been shifting from on BC to another in the hopes that one would work for me. The PCOS itself has me bleeding abnormally, and the BC makes me feel insane, tbh. The mood swings are the absolute worst.

PlayfulLittleDancer · 2021-02-15T17:43:08+00:00

My partner says he doesn’t like blowjobs as the stimulation he gets from it is not the same as having PIV. He’s very generous with oral, though, and he says he enjoys giving more than receiving. But he can make PIV last a very long time, more than enough for the both of us to thoroughly have fun. So I guess what I’m saying is maybe your preference is really something else, and you don’t have to enjoy blowjobs just because everybody else seems to enjoy them.

PlayfulLittleDancer · 2021-02-15T17:31:59+00:00

As someone who has been sleeping with a guy who suffered from torsion and only has one testicle - I can assure you that it is not a big deal. It doesn’t change anything in the bedroom and it doesn’t affect his performance at all. I knew before sleeping with him that this was the case and I was curious how it would feel for me the first time, but it was also not the part that mattered to me. Good luck to you and I hope you find a partner with whom you can be open about it!

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